Quote: Originally Posted by lauren why justify it? we just flat out said "it's our wedding and this is what we want". if they said, "well you know so and so won't come" we said "our choice is to have our wedding where and when we want it, and their choice is to either come, or not come".
lots of people have changed their weddings for their family. i would not.
I'll echo Lauren's words here because she said it so perfectly. Those who truly want to share your day will find a way to be there. Plain and simple.
Quick short story: I was born and raised in Ottawa (holla!!) but had lived north of Toronto for about 12 years. When I sent out my wedding invites, I sent one to my very bestest friend from public school who I chatted with once in a blue moon via Facebook kind of thing. I never thought that they would come, but was sure my current Toronto friends would (everyone saying ya ya we are so excited etc).
Well turns out NONE of my Toronto friends came and my bestie from childhood did, and her daughter was my flowergirl. We've recently moved back to eastern Ontario and have reconnected once again!
We only ended up having 8 guests in the end. It was the PERFECT day.
Do what YOU and FI want. To hell with everyone else.