Debs

Your pics are amazing! I like the ones with the boyshorts with you at the window in particular, but they are all stunning. I was looking to maybe get BD pics done and I'm happy to see there's a good quality photog in Ottawa. Were you in a hotel room or your own place? ETA, I liked these: 6,9,21,22,24,33,39,44,67,81

I cried. I'm crying. I love it Abbs!

Good thought Christina. Is your little cousin good with electronics or whathaveyou? You could have him in charge of your ipod or something "really important".

Glad we can help! Sometimes having the perspective of people who have gone through it already really helps. That's why I stick around

Quote: Originally Posted by sjmacphe It has worked out ok, but I just feel sort of weird about it sometimes b/c I picked this resort and they are just sort of going along with what I picked even though the bride wasn't super happy with the timing etc...I kind of wish they had just planned their own wedding completely b/c if something goes wrong I feel like its my fault. Yikes. Well she always had the option to have it another time and another place! Jeeze! If she's going to start complaining about stuff like that I'd be pissed!

This is a DW, so in my opinion traditions are out the door. I would say I'm just having all bridesmaids, no MOH. or have your cousin as your guy of honour. Like you said, it'll relieve the pressure!

Quote: Originally Posted by bride2b10 A diamond necklace?!?!! That's just hilarious (in a slightly tragic sort of way). I will just echo everybody else, it's beyond ridiculous. She's not contributing, you are paying for her trip and she wants a gift...I'm just curious, why exactly does she think she deserve another gift in addition to you paying for her trip? I could have written this myself except to add a big ole WTF!!

Like someone said, it's impossible to prevent someone from showing up at the resort, even if they are not invited. To some people, not getting an invitation means they are not welcome to be there. Other people do not get that hint! My sister in law is going through this right now with a psycho friend of hers. Just don't send an invite. Your FI's close friend can explain it to his brother and his GF if it becomes an issue. If you don't socialize with them, I wouldn't expect to be invited either. It's kind of odd! And I don't think it's an etiquette rule that people invited to the engagement party are also invited to the wedding. If it is, it's an old rule and it SUCKS! AHAHA

PS, a few people have gone through this, including one member who's SISTER got married (ya first marriage) the same week a couple of days after her's, and that would have peeeeeeved me off a lot more than a vow renewal!

As long as it's at least 2 days AFTER yours I wouldn't have a problem with it. Here's the thing. All your guests won't hang out with each other every day they are down on the trip. Everyone has their own thing going on, like activities and excursions, I wouldn't expect (or want) people looking to me for something to do the entire week, as I'm there to have a vacation too. I would draw the line at planning the thing together though. I mean your wedding is your wedding. As long as she's still planning her own thing and not latching on to all your plans it wouldn't bother me. Besides, 10 years is nothing to sneeze at. I would feel like a beotch by saying they couldn't celebrate it just because they happen to be away at your wedding.

Well MIL issues aside, I think it's a great idea. We were kinda bored of our resort 2 days into the second week and would have liked a change of scenery.

Quote: Originally Posted by ebdaniel113 She is staying at the same resort until the day we leave too! We won't get a honeymoon bc she "needed a vacation" which happened to be the exact dates we are going to be there AND we had to pay for her! I swear she is doing all of this bc she is mad we are getting married! Sorry, just wanted to vent with you : ) Oh, no no no!! You will never get a honeymoon this way!! I would call your TA and see if you (just you and FI) can switch to another hotel for the second week for the same price. We had this option (for different scenery the second week). If you can I would TOTALLY do this and not tell your FMIL until... ah.. until you get there maybe?! LOL.

I think that's prime time to go. We were there late April and had a couple of days of rain over 2 week period.

FYI I went to the calendar to enter a date in 2010 (trip to PC woot!) and the option to jump to 2010 isn't there.

Sometimes you just need a sounding board.. that's why we are here!! You can get caught up with wanting to do everything for everyone, especially a DW where people are paying a significant amount of money to see you get married. That's why I didn't have anyone stand up with me at all, I didn't want the added expense for friends to buy a dress, hair, makeup etc. My best friend ended up signing the register 'as' a matron of honour, but she was able to wear what she wanted and just relax with everyone else.

Quote: Originally Posted by big3n09 .. I have not always been as faithful as I should have and I forgave him with the understanding that it never happens again. .. Sorry to be brutally honest but it doesn't sound like either of you should be getting married. *shrug*

I'm so so excited for you E!! Have a fantastic time!!

It's called a sweetheart table here. That's what I would recommend.

I wouldn't renege at this point. I would suck it up and pay for the transfer since you offered, and you can't very well give gifts/hair/makeup to your other BM's and not her. You said you were *planning* on paying for those things for your BM's I assume you haven't told them yet? If so then just have all your BM's pay for their hair/makeup so everyone is equal. Then maybe scale back the gift so it's not so hard on your budget. I've always paid for hair/makeup for weddings I've been in, so it would not seem odd to me to have to pay for those things if I was a BM, and like someone said, if the BM's don't have the $$ they can do it themselves.

These are the measures put in place at our workplace: No more shaking hands (hard when your customer has just bought a car! It's instinctual!) We have a cup with pens that the customers are to use (i.e. don't give them your pen to sign) Hand sanitizers on every desk we are to use after contact with every customer Lysol wipes we are to use at the start and end of every shift (keyboard, phones, mouse, desk). Plus our clean up guy wipes down the bathroom with Lysol 3 times a day. In a small dealership like ours if even 1 person gets sick, it will affect everyone. If more then 1 gets sick it could shut us down Same with the techs in the back.

That's funny! I'm originally from Ottawa. Sidetracked north of the GTA for 10 years and very happy to be back in Eastern Ontario! We should hook up for a bevvy at the pool bar while we are down there!

My SIL is getting married at Dreams Punta Cana (Dominican) in April and it's an amazing resort and very budget friendly!

Quote: Originally Posted by SSNM Welcome fellow Canuck Debs! There's a really nice vibe in this thread and tonnes of information. Make sure you check regularly though...blink and there will be mountains of threads to go through! How did you find Dominican Republic as a destination? Is it a place you would revisit on your own (i.e. even if it wasn't your sister's wedding)? I am having a hard time selling my FI on it. He is nervous about the beaches being not that great. You can rest assured! The beaches in Punta Cana are AMAZING! Though I don't know for sure about DPC, as it's more north than Ocean Blue was. But aside from the obvious abject poverty you see on the trip in from the Airport, the Dominican is absolutely beautiful! We did the stingray excursion and it was amazing. We are thinking of doing the Saona trip this time around, and hopefully we'll be able to travel to the capital to visit our World Vision boy that we sponsored (as a wedding gift to each other and to give back to the country we got married!). We would for sure have gone back without SIL's wedding, and we have to admit we did a lot of convincing to get her to have her wedding there (they were going to go to Jamaica)

Don't forget budget buster locations that are Canuck friendly like Domincan and Cuba Welcome and just jump right in!!

Hello all! I just wanted to say a quick hello! I got married last year in PC at Ocean Blue, but I'm posting here because my SIL is getting married this coming April at DPC! Her day is the 13th I believe. I can't wait to go back to the Dominican, and it's going to be just shy of our 2nd Anniversary, which is so great. The weather up here has started to turn and I'm already dreaming of the white sand, blue ocean and steaming hot sun! Cheers to all the upcoming brides!