MikkiStreak

Have a safe trip and hope everything goes wonderfully smooth for you both! Relax, enjoy and have a few drinks for all of us who are stuck in the states right now!!!

Go to our website: Frank and Maria - Our Wedding Journey Click on DIY Brides and enter the password: ourwedding Read the instructions for viewing/downloading the "Monogram Template" instructions. There are a couple templates in the first few pages where you can just change your name/date/location info, and then it goes into step-by-step instructions on creating them in Powerpoint...

I think in previous generations, the parents (both sets) footed the bill primarily because couples got married at much younger ages (right after finishing high school or college). As the average age for couples to marry has increased, the volume of parents paying for the weddings has declined. Most of the etiquette advice out there has reflected this also and now approach it from the perspective that if family volunteers to contribute, to be appreciative, but to never expect it. If finances are an issue, your FI can certainly broach the subject with his parents. Also, anytime financial support is requested, the couple should be prepared for whether they want the contributor involved in the planning process.

Those are pretty! They will go with the cherry theme too that you've mentioned in other threads!

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Hmm why would he have to change his credit card and or loan stuff? Duh- sorry, I wasn't thinking... those are name change oriented things, so it shouldn't impact him...

I would assume the same applies for a guy that does for a girl. The only difference with the girl is the legal name change. Other than that, he'd have to update his payroll/benefits through work, any credit card/loans (I'd do the credit reporting agencies too), any insurance information, etc... I think when he updates his information through his work, that will back up the status change for taxes and when it comes time to file income taxes, he would just choose married instead of single. But I can't say for certain tho... This is a good question tho--- something I wouldn't have thought about...

Here's one of my weirder quirks: When I was a kid, I read in the paper about some guy who went to the bathroom and there was a huge snake sitting in his toilet bowl that had come up through the sewer line. Ever since then, I have to glance at the toilet bowl before I go to the bathroom (even at home) and if I don't, it freaks me out and I get spooked.

I agree with Courtney--- Glenda, if you have too many orders on this trip, don't bother getting mine, I still have a ton of time left... And I agree with everyone else---- you are an amazing asset to this forum! You have been so helpful to everyone on here, with the offers to get pashminas for everyone, as well as the advice you've given. You show real compassion and sensitivity to everyone on here and the issues they post from their lives. And very seldom do you ask for anything back from anyone. On the occassions when you have posted for advice on your own situations, there has been a humble quality to your words. I, for one, really enjoy seeing you on here and am grateful for what you contribute to all of us!!!

Are the discounts only to be used through the airline's website? Granted, I'm not a frequent flyer or anything, but I know when I've looked for airfare, buying direct from the airlines has always been much more expensive for me. So is the discount enough that it makes it lower than going through online resellers?

Hey Marla- Yes (in answer to the registry questions), PM me if you want...

I've thought about getting the girls a starfish necklace from a jewelery store, and cufflinks for the guys. We've also talked about getting engraved flasks or cigar cases for the guys as an option also. Those are as far as I've gotten at with ideas so far...

Ok, I missed the part where you had put in about having everything you need in order for people to not buy presents. But, I don't know---- in general, a registry is a good idea in order to prevent getting unwanted items that you can't return/exchange. And from all the stuff I've read, the website and shower invites are supposed to be the perfect place to include that information. The only big "no" that I've seen in etiquette articles has been to never include it in your invites.

If you use a honeymoon registry as you mentioned, you could just add a little item at the bottom saying "Cards can be received at...." and include your address. I would say also that it's probably better to have a registry of some kind than nothing at all. You could also do a charitable donation registry, or fun items on a retail registry. For example, we're doing a honeymoon registry, but also Target for fun things like camping gear, little items that are aged and will need to be replaced soon at home, and our final registry will be Bed, Bath, and Beyond because you can exchange presents for cash there....

We looked at these too and wound up choosing the Lindo from them. We ruled out the El Dorado because we needed family-friendly (if I remember correctly, it was adults only?). The Palace resorts chain were the first ones we ruled out and pretty quickly too--- I really disliked the idea of how they do one wedding every hour of every day. Gave me the feeling of an 'assembly line.' I know there are other Palace brides on here tho who didn't feel that way and had good experiences...

I've wondered about this too---- I'd thought about trying to get some of the decor items I want once I get down there so I don't have to ship or pack and bring them with me...

My friends think I'm psychic because I've always been able to "see" or "predict" things with my instincts and dreams. I've been like that since I was a real small kid. I saw a classmate in high school commit suicide in a dream about 2 weeks before it happened. When my nephew almost died in a car accident, I told my parents about it as the phone was ringing (with my brother-in-law on the phone telling them). When my brother severed 4 fingers on his hand when I was 10, I told my parents the name of the doctor to ask for at the hospital who could do his surgery. The list could go on and on....

OMG Jaime!!! Congratulations!!!!! That is so awesome! And I'm floored! I knew Martin had bought the ring, but damn, I didn't even think about him proposing over your birthday and scouting trip down there!!! That is just too awesome! Congratulations to you both!!!!!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by jillhigginsphotography What about photo cuff links... Photo Cufflinks - Personal Creations Those are cool! I've never seen those before--- I like that, might have to use it as a groom's gift.

Quote: Originally Posted by JaimeLynne A lot of this comes from my childhood - my Mom was always super freaked out about things because she did a lot of drugs and was paranoid/schizophrenic due to this (she was abused as a child by her grandparents and parents). Like one time I remember it was 4th of July - she had just come home from Hawaii where she took off to when I was about 5. I was at home w/ her and her weird boyfriend who used to eat dog biscuits (?!?). Anyways, she became convinced that people were after her and told me that they were coming for us. Since it was 4th of July there were firecrackers going off everywhere, which she said were gun shots. I remember laying flat as I could in her bed with her all night (there was a window right above it and I was scared that I would get shot if I sat up). When I woke up she was gone. I called my Dad who came and got me and took me to school, and then went looking for her. The police finally found her - she had broken into a church and was talking to the voices around her. Wow- I can relate to that! My adoptive mother was bi-polar/type II affected with paranoid tendencies. She was in and out of psych wards while I was growing up. She thought someone was trying to break into our house and kill us, so she slept with a 12-gauge shotgun under her bed and kept chairs secured under the doors. She would stay up all night looking out the windows and keeping track of all the vehicles going up and down the street and she'd sleep during the day. When I was 14 and snuck out in the middle of the night, she caught me sneaking back in, but was in such a "state" that she took the gun and shot at me in the middle of the night (missed me and killed my cat). I literally didn't think I would survive past my 18th birthday living in that house.... Jesus, thank God we drugged her ass for the last time when I was 26!!!!

jlink78: I don't think you have to have the AHR figured out right now. We aren't sure if we're doing an AHR after we get back or not. But I think if we decide to have one, we'll invite everyone to the wedding in Mexico without mentioning the AHR. The AHR would be probably 2-3 months after we return anyways and once we see what our actual responses are for the wedding, we'll probably send an "Announcement" with invitiation to the AHR to those who arent' able to attend the wedding.

Ok, now it works---- the menu toolbar wasn't showing up in my browser, but when I put the cursor over that area slowly, I saw dark blocks appear for each of the links.... Thanks!

"While you're welcome to use your own travel agent, we suggest ours because . . . " ...when you book through our TA, you are linked as a member of our wedding group. Any special treatment the resort extends to our wedding group would then be extended to you also (such as possible upgrades, etc...)... ... you qualify for special discounts on golf or spa treatments and our travel agent can make these arrangements on your behalf prior to arrival at the resort... ...our travel agent is well-versed in the unique travel situations that can arise as part of a destination wedding. She has made a committment to our group in order to make our travel and stay as enjoyable as possible....

I get to the website fine-- But when I click on any of the pictures (the table setting photo, the photo of the couple, etc..) to look for more information, it doesn't go anywhere. It's like the links to other pages on your website aren't working...

I wanted to inject a little bit of "us" in small ways throughout the wedding--- in a way that wouldn't be overwhelming, but would show our interests and sense of humor. Frank plays the guitar, so I found keychains of miniature guitars that I want to use...

I love that dress! It reminds me of some of the ones I've really liked so far--- with the side gathering.