MikkiStreak

Quote: Originally Posted by akh yup, ok - so when you have the image open, can you right-click on the image, and select properties? then copy that url. come to the post and click on the yellow box in the toolbar (looks like a mountain) and paste in that url. that's all i do! That's how I did that first post where they didn't show up. I used to use the "insert image" hyperlink under the smilies, but after the last upgrades to the site I wasn't able to use that. So I switched and have tried at various time to post the URL into the mountain icon, but they still don't show. So I wind up having to use the "insert link" icon and paste the URL that way... Bah, I've just given up on getting images to appear in the post. The only time it works for me (strangely) is for my siggy or avatar...

Can anyone see those? For whatever reason, I can't ever get the images to show up within the message. So I'm adding the hyperlinks to the web pages below, just in case... Monogram1.jpg - Image - Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting Monogram9.jpg - Image - Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting Monogram8.jpg - Image - Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting Monogram10.jpg - Image - Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting Picture1.jpg - Image - Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting and my favorite is the one in my avatar pic...

These are ones I made in Powerpoint...

Can you imagine tossing the bouquet with one of these? DUCK!!!! I posted these awhile back and I gotta say, I love the little ones that can hang from a shepherd's hook, and am thinking of putting one at the end of every other row of chairs. I thought they would be a neat addition to hang from a chuppah also....

I guess the invite thing wouldn't bother me too much, because it's just a phone call to say 'hey, send one out to so and so.' Easy fix. But as far as being the one to fix the transportation / tank top issue---- I'd just ask them, "does it matter? i mean, we don't have to provide that. It's a nice touch, but don't worry about it." Then see what their response is. Either they'll drop it, or they'll probably find a fix on their own, once they see it's not going to be a huge deal to you either...

"The wedding is about the bride/couple, not the bridesmaids. Ideally, they should be happy for you, happy to be standing up for you, and suck it up even though they're not going to be in model worthy outfits. I was a BM for my MOH's wedding and she flat out told me I was not a consideration in her choice of BMs outfits (she had BMs in ALL sizes - I was the smallest.)" Wow, I gotta say--- if that's the attitude shown to the bridal party, some brides are really lucky to even have bridesmaids. God knows that's the kind of thing that would make me look at the person and say 'fuck you.' I guess I look at it like, if I'm forcing them to wear what I want them to wear just because it's what I want- then I have waayyyy more issues going on than just picking a color/style. And if I'm asking them to shell out money to be involved in our wedding, then I need to make it a good experience for them too--- because it's not about them catering to me and my demands for "the perfect day." It's about spotlighting the importance that they have in my life and showing them that while I'm making this commitment to my best friend and showing everyone the importance he has in my life, I also want to make the day about showing the importance my bridesmaids have in my life also...

Being on the other side of this issue, I'll give you my perspective if I were in your BM's shoes... First, if someone had told me I could pick out my own style of dress in the color they had chosen, I would be thrilled. But at 9 months out, I wouldn't even actively start looking. I might notice dresses as I happened to pass by them in a store, but that's about it. I would probably not do anything until the 6 month mark and then make a decision around the 4 month mark. If I was then asked to wear a particular dress and upon seeing it, immediately thought the dress was going to look horrible on me--- there probably isn't anything that would make me try it on. Just like every other woman out there, I can look at a dress and 'know' whether I'm going to be comfortable or not in it. If I know I'm not going to be comfortable wearing it (whether it's an issue with the dress itself or whether it's an image issue), I'm going to be miserable just with the idea of having to spend all day in the dress, on display to a bunch of wedding guests, and recorded in photographs in something I didn't like to wear. That is going to seriously affect my interest and enthusiasm in the bride's wedding. Now, to explain why I wouldn't even try on the dress you're proposing: Fat women (who are not comfortable with their size or appearance) *hate* clothing shopping. I remember all the times I went into shops with regular sized or skinny friends and was treated like shit, or got "the look" (the one that says, get out before you scare off other patrons). Bridal shops are geared toward smaller people. Proof of this-- look at the size of dress hanging on the rack at bridal shops. So shopping in a bridal salon for a BM dress, is something that would stress me out, BIG TIME. Dealing with shop employees isn't half as bad as dealing with other shop patrons. Woman are critical, of themselves and each other. And almost every woman out there has weight issues---- either about their own weight, or about other womens--- think about how many times you have thought, said, or heard someone else say, "I'm so glad I don't have her (insert body part)" or "look at... (and pointing or staring)" or "tell me if I start looking like that"... or, (and here's the worst)... they just simply look up and down at larger people with a look that implies they don't want that person anywhere near them.... If your bridesmaid's think they are overweight, this is what your wedding experience is going to be like for them....

I will say this---- other than our own travel being the biggest expense- our next two items to focus on would be food and entertainment. Overall, we want to "spoil" guests as much as possible for the wedding...

I don't know from experience, but from what I've seen- most reception facilities discount the price of the rental facilities for having non-Saturday night events. Every place I've looked at does, anyway... Have you tried negotiating with them to get discounts or freebies thrown in? Also, are you using a wedding coordinator? Most facilities will be more generous when someone is using a WC, because they want the repeat business a WC can bring them...

hehehe---- our own vacation/travel!!

I'm reading through the other categories and I'm just busting up at work---- "be careful to not turn your child gay" "you're going to be a great MILF" "classical music gives me a boner" "I would greatly appreciate it if you didn't fuck this up..." "I cannot wait for you to meet my absurdly creepy friends." "FYI, I'm building a shrine to you c*ck" "You're someone I really feel like I could sleep with sober..." Shit, what a GREAT find!!!!!

I like those!! I could easily see myself sending one of those to close friends who 'get' me... Love the "You'll always be a green card to me" and "congratulations on probably not dying alone..."

That sounds like a generic band solicitation that goes out to every person who accepts them as a friend. Have you heard anything else from him? I don't know how much time has passed since you got the message, but maybe he'll follow up with something more personal to you and Will? If not, yea, he's a selfish schmuck. I know a lot of people like this- and gotta admit, I'm a pretty selfish person myself.... I'd give him a couple days to follow up with something more personal and if he doesn't, I'd probably call him to the carpet on the fact that he hasn't bothered to make any type of personal contact with you after he was specifically asking you to make effort and accept his invite. I don't know if I'd mention his lack of interest in the wedding tho at first, because he'll just turn around and in his mind think you're the one wanting all the attention....

Quote: Originally Posted by starchild Okay I'm more sinister than I realized. . . yours are dignified. I was nice to the first 2 haters, then it turned into this: To the married ones- Don't hate on us because you had your wedding at a banquet hall (fill in the blank with the weak traditional place they chose) To the unmarried ones - If you find someone who actually wants to marry you one day I hope people put you through this bullshit too Jamey, you are my hero! I bow before greatness!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by mexicomelissa Some of them can get out of control though....we got invited to one for a guy we work with...tickets were $60 per person...and it didn't even include a meal or even one free drink!! Although there was a raffle for a trip to Vegas....but still....we didn't even get invited to the wedding and they were asking us to buy tickets to their ridiculously priced B&D! GET OUT!!! You mean, there's a set cover charge to this party, and not just a donation jar at the door? I'm telling ya, I need to be a Mexican-Canadian in my next life---- between padrinos/padrinas and B&D's, my next wedding would be pretty cush! hehehe....

Quote: Originally Posted by JENESIS HA!!! I heard the same exact thing. I was so shocked. We got many other rude comments, including "I'll look forward to party you throw when you get back". THis "party" was conveniently located in my yard. Now it didn't happen, nor will it ever, but I was so furius that people had the f**king nerve to go as far as to invite themselves to my house when I had said a dozen times that my wedding would be in MExico. PERIOD! THis comment was on an RSVP too. The people who did come to our wedding REALLY wanted to be there and it made the day extraordinary. We don't regret a second of it. Even now that we are back people insist on being extremely inconsiderate. A few times already we have experienced a family member nonchalantly saying something dispassionate like, "Oh, aren't you guys married now?" This would be after an hour or so in their company. Idiots. The, "When is the party?" still hasn't stopped. What pisses me off the most is the obvious fact that these people think that what happened in Mexico wasn't real and that now that we are back we owe them a "real" wedding. You know, to hell with Emily Post and etiquette... When people say shit like this, I just want to take the kid gloves off and say to them: "Stop being such a dick."

Quote: Originally Posted by MoBride My sister-Why are you getting married during the day. It will take time away from me laying on the beach.....I'm sorry my wedding is getting in the way of your vacation. I thought I would have it during the day because it's on the freakin beach!!!! So called friend-I don't know if I want to go or not because we can only afford to go on vacation for a few days and if we go we will lose one whole day of our vacation for your wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wow, that is just priceless---- sorry, I had to laugh at the audacity of people! It just floors me--- This just proves the only difference between animals and humans is that humans open their mouths and prove their stupidity, time and time again!

BTW- now that I know what a Buck and Doe is---- I like Robin's idea... If the people really want to come to your wedding, then send them an invite to this party and if they show, they just earned their chair at a wedding table...

Quote: Originally Posted by mexicomelissa You poor, poor, non-Canadians A Buck & Doe is a big party that's thrown for the bride & groom to help raise money for the wedding....kind of like a big combined bachelor & bachelorette party I say don't invite them...just let them know that it's just a small affair and invitations are already out No shit! You mean we're not just getting screwed on healthcare? Now we're screwed out of wedding fundraising? Damnit, my company has an office in Canada---- I think I need to transfer!!!!

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That's awesome twink! Her TTD photos are just amazing---- so creative and adventurous, with such an artistic quality to them! Even my FI loves her work--- after I showed him the photos she did in the cenote caves, that's what he remembers when I mention TTD. He's even more enthusiastic about the idea than I am! hehe... Your photos are going to be amazing! Are you going to use the dress from the wedding, or buy a second one for TTD?

Nope, I wouldn't invite them. I have a bunch of friends that fall into this category too and they aren't being invited. Some of them I still keep in contact with too, just not all that regularly.

I'm a snot (and a smart ass), so the bitchy side of me says to start sending them little emails with links to higher paying jobs, or links to Realtor listings of homes in less expensive parts of the country, etc...---- then attach a note saying, "Since you're finances are in such dire straits due to my wedding, thought this might help you..." Seriously, I say to just ignore it, especially if it hasn't been too long since you announced the DW... We've had our fair share of the same thing---- hell, our best man is the one trying to get us to move the wedding some place closer (ie cheaper) and he's gone so far as to have one of his buddies from the UFC call us to tell us about the super great fabulous deal he and his fiancee got for a DW in Acapulco! Then, we had the aunt who wrote me a nasty letter trying to guilt me about having a DW when my dad's health was so poor and my parents wouldn't be able to attend. And FI's sister who wouldn't speak to us at our engagement party after she found out we were having a DW instead of getting married in "her" cathedral downtown. And on and on it goes.... Weddings bring out the worst in people. I, personally, think most of the people who bitch are just wanting to freeload on a 4-hour drinking binge anyways... But if you weather the rough spots, you'll find out who really cares because they'll be the ones with you for your wedding. Until the storm blows over, just hang onto the ones who aren't bitching---- they'll keep you sane...