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BTW here's a pic of Kelly (along with Brad the minister and the hottie boat captain)

Thanks Shelley

Quote: Originally Posted by A10CALGAL Ok girls, stop being so dang efficient please. I've been married for almost 4 months & I haven't done anything about this yet! Well, I've downloaded the Social Security form & looked at it, but that's about it. Ha! At our courthouse marriage they gave us a packet with all forms needed for state/federal name changes. They still haven't made it out of the manila envelope. You aren't alone, it will get done, eventually...

Quote: Originally Posted by LALA Now I'm worried. I want you to know right off the bat that this only comes because I don't want to see any BDW girls sad or unhappy. Plus, you can totally ignore me if I'm overstepping bounds. I'm concerned that he won't talk to you and because of that you genuinely don't know his thoughts on marriage right now. That is a major subject that should be discussed. It's not like he never told you that he doesn't like Italian Dressing on his salad - this is major. How is the communication between you on other subjects like $$, sex, raising your son, religion? I know when I have offended my FI because he says so. He didn't always say so, but after so many years together he knows he needs to tell me. If you don't know if your DBF is offended or not there is a serious comunication breakdown going on. I know some people aren't talkers and I respect that. There are some things that need to be talked about though - even for the non-talkers. I hope I'm ot being too nosy or prying. I just want to help if I can. Me too. I hope I'm not overstepping our boundaries either but ring/marriage or not, you both have to be on the same page communication wise. My DH was always a good listener but when we first got together years ago, he would clam up at the most crucial times. We were raised in households with different communication styles so it was nobody's fault, but we had to find a common ground. I wouldn't have married him if he was still like that, sometimes now I can't shut him up ... lol If you guys can't discuss certain things or at least be able to gage eachother's feelings, maybe counseling can bring some of these issues to the table. The ring means nothing, when all is right in your relationship the right thing will happen. Best wishes )

Sorry it took so long, here are some pics. I kept it simple but you can get as fancy as you feel like.

Well congrats! Santa Barbara is beautiful and I love Solvang...sounds like you had a great time. Best wishes with your hubby's health )

Quote: Originally Posted by dragonfly Does anyone actually read our answers because OMG this was the longest one of these ever!!!! Kelly~ Eventually I get back to read everyone's answers. This sure was long but it's a fun distraction )

I'm bored so here you guys go.. 1. Whens the last time you ran? just now 2. Do your jeans have rips, tears, and holes in them? no 3. What are you reading right now? this 4. Is your lipgloss poppin? I hate that song....but I like my lipgloss 5. When is the last time you saw the person you like? this morning 6. What's your best physical feature? smile 7. Can you dance? yes 8. Do you get the full 8 hours of sleep a night? not always 11. Think of all your exes. Would you take any of them back? nope! 12. If anyone came to your house on your "lazy days" what would you be doing? cuddling with my dog watching tv or reading 13. Who last grabbed your butt? will 14. Have you ever been on your school's track team? no 15. Do you own a pair of Converse? yes 16. Who did you copy and paste this survey from? tammy 17. Do you eat raw cookie dough? not in years 18. Have you ever kicked a vending machine? no 19. Don't you hate when the radio ruins good songs by playing a bad one right after it? I don't listen to the radio 21. Do you watch Trading Spaces? no 23. Have you ever stayed online for a very long time waiting for someone? no 24. Are you cocky? no 3O. Could you live without a computer? technically 35. Are you in high school? no 45. Is anyone on your bad side now? yes 46. What do you like alot? food and books 47. What's the first thing you do when you get online? check email 49. Do you watch Grey's Anatomy? no 51. Would you wear your boyfriends/girlfriends clothes? yes 56. What are you doing tomorrow? working 57. Is Justin Timberlake becoming the next Michael Jackson? nobody can be the next MJ 60. Will you keep your last name when you get married? still don't know and I'm already married 62. When is the last time you left your house? today 67. Do you return your cart? almost always 69. Do you have a dishwasher? Yes 70. What noise do you hear? 80's rock 71. Would you survive in prison? yeah 76. If all of your friends were going on a road trip, would you? probably 77. Do you know anyone with the same name as you? not with my spelling 78. How many pairs of shoes do you own? lots 79. Where are you ? work 80. do u have a gf/bf? no 81. What service is your cell phone? the "new" at&t 84. What's your middle name? Jo-El 85. Where is your cell phone? table 86. Is your phone on vibrate or ring? both! 1/2 and 1/2 87. What brand are your pants right now? nike 88. Ever been to Georgia? no 91. What irritates you most on the internet? ads 92. Do you watch movies with your parents? yes 93. What's your favorite color(s)? green 94. Favorite song? too many 95.what color is your car? red 97. Where do you work? they'll probably sue me if I post it..seriously 98. Are you taking college classes right now? No 99. What do you drink? almost everything 100. Who did you last talk to in a bathroom? my dog - me too!! 101. Do you like sushi? sashimi - I hate seaweed 102. Do you get your hair cut every month? no 104.Do you enjoy your personality? yes 105. Do you know anyone that has changed your life? yes 106. Is it harder to be rejected or to reject someone else? Reject someone else 107. What kind of music did you listen to in elementary school? hip hop 108. What is the best thing about your current job? I have total downtime 109. Do you wish cell phone etiquette was a required class? don't care 110 What's the last thing you drank? tea 111. Have you been on a date in the past week? no 112. Where are you going on your next vacation? still deciding 113. Have you ever thrown up from working out? YES! 114. Do you have more friends that are girls or guys? pretty mixed 115. Are most of the friends in your life new or old? old 116. Have you ever gotten so wasted you didn’t know what was going on? before I learned how to drink I'm sure 117. Do you like orange juice with the pulp? yes 118. Are you touchy-feely? yes 119. Did you cry at your high school graduation? no 120. Do you prefer the tanning bed or the sun? sun 121. What are two of your favorite places to eat? mmm....la cabana & el abajeno 122. What could you tolerate...someone who snores or a sleep walker? Sleep walker 123. Do you consider yourself bi-polar? no 124. What's something your friends make fun of you for? liking school 125. Have you ever gone to therapy? no 126. Would you ever parachute off of a plane? yes 127.Ever rode an elephant? yes actually 128. Are you Irish in any way? only if drinking guiness counts? 129. Have you ever ridden in a U-Haul? yes 130. Do you like to play Scrabble? love it 131. Have you ever been to a nude beach? yes 132. Have you ever drank Jack Daniels? yes 133. Have you ever had sex on the beach? yes 134. What are you saving your money up for right now? to earn interest 135. What was the last gift card you received? olive garden 136. Have you ever gone skinny dipping? yes 137. Does the number of people a person has slept with affect your opinion of them? hell no 138. Have you ever gone to a party where you were the only sober person? probably 139. What do you do when you spot a bug in your house? kill it dead

Awesome review Natalie! The Marquis is beautiful too!!

So pretty! I love your use of orange in the flowers )

One would expect more from the MOH, and it's not like the price suddenly skyrocketed so didn't she know what she could afford 2 months ago? To be fair though, maybe something came up financially OR I learned through my wedding that some people are embarrassed to say they can't afford something when other people can so they play along as long as they can. Either way I hope she can come up with the money and stay with you guys. It's very generous of you to be paying her airfare by the way )

Alright!! Congrats on this wedding planning milestone....they look great!

Lindsay - your AHR rocked! That was nicer than some people's regular wedding receptions. Great job! Amy - That is the coolest 21st birthday party I've ever seen! We are having sort of a small AHR - technically it will be our 3rd wedding. 1st was at the courthouse, 2nd was Mexico, 3rd will be the church blessing ceremony followed by a reception at my parents house in nor-cal. There won't be a 4th...lol The date is not yet set but it will be in the next few months. At first we were just going to have the blessing and go out to dinner, but we know our families better than that. Everyone will want to cook so they may as well bring food over to the house and we'll spring for some decorations. We want to have a Mexican themed backyard party (similar to Amy's b-day). When that comes around I'll take and post some pics for you guys )

Quote: Originally Posted by NATASHA A bit more accessible than the Cinque Terre but right there on the tip is Rapollo. It has a few great options. Portofino is also very nice and is just a short distance up the coast from Rapollo. However, I would chose a place like this castle in the heart of Italy - Sienna in Tuscany (where you can easily do lots of fun things like wine tasting) Siena Hotels: Castello di Velona, Siena Luxury Hotel Wow!! That place rocks and rooms are quite reasonable....I thought it would be far more costly than it is. I'm definitely passing this one on to mom and dad....thanks a bunch!

Quote: Originally Posted by Trista YES the first one on the page Barefoot Foot Jewelry Beach or Destination Wedding Jewelry It was my first purchase, even before the dress...LOL...A MUST for me~ LMAO! I bought mine from Ladybead too and yes, I had it before I even looked at dresses! It's such a nice touch, go for it!!

Great thread Kash! Here's mine, more good than bad I guess: I WOULD DO IT AGAIN: STD magnets/postcards/invites - all were designed to match our theme and sent months apart, it helped keep our slacker guests interested and on the ball Puerto Vallarta - Beautiful, romantic, feels like Mexico of days past but with modern conveniences. Nothing like strolling along the cobblestone streets in the moonlight......ahhh Arrive before most guests & leave after guests depart - the calm before the party storm was a blessing, and having time post-wedding to enjoy PV without entertaining was sweet Dreams PV - awesome beach, spacious suites, delicious food, would go again in a heartbeat WD at Barcelona Tapas - truly almost as much fun as the wedding, food was superior to the wedding, service was impeccable, views were the essence of PV Las Caletas - Our jungle wedding was the perfect choice for us, dreamy and private - having no lookie-loos was a big bonus Bubbles & Program Fans - Yes!! Throughout the ceremony bubbles were floating in the air thanks to our guests, it was awesome. Everyone used the fans to beat the heat, and we put our favorite love poem on the back with a thank you letter. Barefoot party - Both of us and all of the wedding party were barefoot, in the end guests were barefoot too. We wear shoes everyday....go barefoot when you can! Foot jewelry - Loved it! And I don't know when I can pull that off again. A big hit. Cake - It was affordable and yummy! We had other desserts but almost everyone had cake with their coffee and kahlua. I'm glad we did it, there aren't many occasions in life where you buy yourself a fancy cake. Skipping toasts - My father spoke for like 2 minutes and that was it. So glad we did this! Every guest did an individual toast for the videographer, in private, so it didn't take away from the party and we got blessings from each person there - even guests of guests. Singalong - Yes a singalong, to That's Amore. What can I say we're Italian so we planned this out, but everyone got into it and people were rocking left to right with glasses in hand.....maybe you had to be there ) Fire Dancers - So worth it! Nobody knew they were coming and it was great entertainment for the non-dancers. I WOULD RECONSIDER: Videographer - It was decent, it's a concise version to show people who weren't there I guess. The guests' toasts were the only significant thing. He stopped taping after the fire dancers and there was still 2 hours of reception after that. But 3 guests took their own videos and they were so much more enjoyable. They taped the WD, boat ride, ceremony, and the whole night, didn't cover up conversations with music, etc. No break between wedding & honeymoon - We flew from PV to LAX for a 4 hour layover then flew straight to Montego Bay. We were too excited to see a bad side then, but in retrospect having even a few hours to go home and unload some of our excess baggage would have been nice. Guest accomodations - If we didn't present so many options maybe more guests would have stayed at Dreams. It would have been fun to have everyone there at night, especially since non-guests are not allowed on site. But then again we had a cozy amount of guests there without being overwhelming so maybe I wouldn't change this? Undecided. Length of reception - We extended it but I wish we had at least another hour. Even the little kids could have partied through the night. Advice - Don't obsess too much over the dress, you'll drive yourself and everyone around you nuts! I picked the 2nd dress I tried on and didn't see it again until 5 days before the wedding ,it almost wasn't ready in time and I was just going to buy something white in Mexico because I just wanted to marry my love. It came, but I changed into a $60 white sundress when I got hot and honestly that would have worked just as well for the whole thing. You'll feel beautiful on your wedding day no matter if your dress costs $50 or $5000. When it's all said and done someone may say "her dress was beautiful" but that means nothing in terms of your marriage.....just a little perspective if you're freaking out about "the" dress. Focus on your man...lol

Great suggestions everyone! I have to remember those when it's my turn! He ended up calling before he left this morning. He told the lady at the courthouse that jury duty is important to him, he wants to do his part and will show up if he must, etc. but that he has an important business matter that needs attention today. She said normally you cannot get 2 extensions but that she would make an exception and postpone his service until September! DH is a smooth talker I guess...lol So, he went to the interview and wasn't too pleased with the guy he would be working for, but we'll see what happens. Thanks for your support guys!

Thanks to you both for the cinque terre info....never heard of it but I'm on my way to google it )

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha ok, I just called my best friend. She was driving at the moment and can't remember off the top of her head. She said the town is calledRevelo (or something like that). The town is very small and they are staying at the very nice hotel that starts with the letter "C." Ha! That tells you absolutely nothing, huh? When she gets home tonight, she is going to check her paperwork and call me and let me know the name of the town and the hotel. LOL! No worries, I'll just look for hotels in Italy starting with "C". J/K thanks for checking and let me know if you find out! Quote: Originally Posted by gkashmira OK - this is no help but I just wanted to say the Venice would be an awful option for this (we just went there). I know that's not that helpful but I just wanted to give you the heads up. It is crazy expensive and unbelievably overrun by tourism. I think a villa in the Tuscan countryside sounds simply ideallic! Also the Amalfi coast is supposed to be amazing as well. Kash that is helpful, I know they want something that's the opposite of how Venice sounds these days. They haven't been to Venice in years so that's good info to give them. Thanks!!

Quote: Originally Posted by DEE1978 What a great idea! I was Italy fro 2 weeks in Oct 2006 and we fell in love with the Almalfi Coast. The coastline was absolutely breathtaking! We rented a motor scooter and went to Sorrento, Almalfi, and Positano. There are cute little bbs that hang off the cliffs which would be amazing for a wedding site. We also went to this little island across from Capri called Ischia which is known for their thermal spring pools. We stayed in this old castle monastary that was overlooked the water and island. Pm and i can send you some pics. Ooh...Amalfi Coast sounds great! And my mother mentioned Capri but I'll mention Ischia to her as well. Quote: Originally Posted by akh wow - no idea, but HOW COOL! actually, when I went there a few years ago we stayed at this little place - they made their own wine and olive oil, it was super cute. no idea if it's what you're looking for, and it was up in the hills. That sounds good too...my dad has a small vineyard so that may be up his alley. If you recall the name/location let me know, thanks Ann.

I'll take one and post it later...seriously it took no time!

Thanks Martha

This is pretty cool - my parents were so inspired by our DW that they decided to have a destination vow renewal ceremony in Italy for their 35th anniversary. They've been to Italy before but are slowly starting to research locations/vendors/etc. for such an event. I suggested renting a villa and holding the festivities there but they want more options. Can anyone recommend a specific venue for weddings/vow renewals, or maybe somewhere you've been in Italy that would make for a great celebration?

My husband was summoned to jury duty a few months ago. He told them he would be getting married/out of town, and got an extension until after the wedding. L.A. county is on top of things because we get back from the wedding and his notice to report was in the mailbox. He called Sunday night and the automated system said he didn't have to report and to call again Monday night. He calls tonight and it says he must report on Tuesday ( We're all for civic duty and all that, but he's so bummed because he's sick of his boss like a lot of people here and had an interview set up for Tuesday (it was the only day this new place could see him and he hoped he would luck out and not have to report again). Anyway, cross your fingers that he doesn't get put on a trial and that this potential employer is willing to postpone his interview.

Quote: Originally Posted by MarlaB Well I did put my deposit down but I didn't get a timeline of events. Nicole is on vacation this month, but I will have to ask her about that. If you don't mind sending me yours, that would be great. You can PM me if you'd like. Thank you!! Sure, I'll find it and send it to you.