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We did it a little differently. We sent 2 stds a few months apart and said whoever rsvp'd with a yes would receive a formal invitation later in the year. In our case we had people who couldn't go and they felt really bad about it already. We didn't want to make them feel worse by sending a 3rd thing (invite) reminding them that they can't be there, or to make it seem like their "no" wasn't acceptable and maybe they could change their minds.

Very cool, congrats on your upcoming wedding! I'm sure the salsa lessons will pay off...we meant to do that but never got around to it so I'll live through you...lol You're almost there - enjoy!

Yeah, Morgan that is a good idea that I think everyone would respond favorably to.

That's funny!

I don't think your post should be deleted (unless a moderator wants to delete mine and Maria's too). It is a forum for discussion, and we all don't have to agree. We all must have respect and as far as I see it we all do. I still stand by the belief that if I am pro-choice I cannot be selective about it. I have relatives who are strong pro-life advocates - unless the pregnancy is a result of rape/incest. I always take issue with them because if abortion is sinful/immoral/etc. how can they support it on any level? It is still electing to terminate a pregnancy in my eyes, no matter how it is justified. But I digress... What you have been through stinks and it definitely sheds light on why you feel how you do. Kudos to you for working in a field that tries to remedy those issues. I know there are women who use abortion as birth control, but there are usually other issues at play. I think they should still have the right to abortion without prejudice. In an ideal society they would also have counseling to get to the root of the issues. In real life that doesn't always happen. If a woman chooses to have her 6th abortion rather than birth a child the state may have to raise, who am I to judge her and I wouldn't try to stop her. I do appreciate your response )

Welcome to the forum. Your wedding is fast approaching..how exciting!

Mine stayed until it was over too, but we did the cake cutting after dinner and before the dancing started so as not to break up the party once it started.

I've always wanted kids but as of today I don't feel like sharing my resources and time with a child. If it happens tomorrow I'll adapt - fast. And it will be beautiful and I'll love being mommy. But as of November '07 I enjoy sleeping in with my hubby and doing what we want when we want to. I know having a baby will change that (but be good in other ways of course). Hubby has wanted a baby for years but he wants me to want it too. I'm getting there, but not actively pursuing it, if that makes sense? Now . . . Quote: Originally Posted by CaliaA07 What irks me is people who can have kids up the hoolah (haha) and then abuse them or girls who are hoochies and have abortions. I am pro-choice but I believe if you're out there having sex either use protection or own up. Oh boy. I (like Maria) can't hold my tongue on this one. You are as entitled to that opinion as I am to mine, and I will respectfully disagree. Benefit of the doubt says you don't mean all girls who have abortions are hoochies. Also your definition of a hoochie may be different than someone else's, but it certainly sounds stereotypical. I will say, however, that thinking someone who is pregnant should own up rather than have an abortion is not pro-choice. One might argue that it is the polar opposite. Being pro-choice comes without conditions and judgements like that. And you are entitled to those judgements but those who are truly pro-choice may take umbrage at that interpretation of the stance. I, for one, do. Pro-choice means that one's right to abortion is respected without prejudice and without regard to the manner in which the individual became pregnant. It means that it is irrelevant whether a woman is pregnant because she doesn't use condoms, uses one that breaks, is raped, or a host of other possible scenarios.

That's great! Now you can shop appropriately )

Okay here is the proof...lol He worked his way up to try and take the mardi gras beads my New Orleans friends brought as favors Right before he slid off (we're quite intoxicated)...told you DH thought it was funny! (and he didn't get my beads!)

Awww, that makes me miss PV/Dreams. Tell her everything looked great! And we used Roberto too and he is the sweetest man, feels like family. I'm glad she had the same experience.

It was bananas!! I just emailed a friend for the pics, I'll post them when I get them )

Welcome Melissa! Sorry to hear about your grandmother and I hope she gets well ( You are making a good decision and you can always visit Las Caletas again. I married there this past June (also after having been on the ROTN tour) and have nothing but amazing things to say about it. Priceless is a great word to describe it. BTW you can always rent it out for a vow renewal or a kick ass anniversary party! We can still help you plan your Brooklyn wedding, I'm in Cali so to me Brooklyn is a destination wedding...lol We have some awesome NY members too that I'm sure can help if you need it. Happy planning )

count me in too

F.Y.I. Dog will be on Larry King tonight to talk about it. $5 says he cries

For us, I know some of our guests would have been annoyed by it. I can hear them now complaining about leaving the country to go to our wedding and then being told what to wear when they got there. Everyone probably would have done it though, but not without some grumbling. If someone asked me to do that for their wedding I would totally be into it, DH would probably talk bad about it and only do it at my urging...lol It's your event so if that's what you want go for it, asking in a nice way of course.

Favorite memory: having a co-ed bach party when I got to Mexico at a club on the beach. More specifically....probably when a super drunk fool at the club stumbled through the crowd and landed on the bed I was on. (someone has a pic, I'll try to find it and post it) He starts grinding me and we were cracking up. Funnier part is we were pretty sure he was gay but I guess he was so drunk girls looked good...lol *keep in mind Will and the GMs were there too....so they jokingly try to explain to him to stop straddling me, but he is too drunk to hear anything. He wanders off and later we move to an elevated canopy bed and here he comes again with a "Wassssssup" and tries to climb on, lands on top of me, leans on Will for a sec, then he falls off and just lays there on the sand. He eventually stumbles away and lands on another group's bed. About an hour later a GM goes to the bathroom and says this guy was in there passed out on the floor. As we're leaving the club he is passed out on top of a table. Good times ) Favorite present: Lingerie...my girls surprised me with a few different outfits that night )

I thought it came from Nordie's...that was my backup dress store if mine didn't come through. They sell some fabulous wedding gowns! Congrats )

I think that's a lovely idea. It won't detract from the meaning at all...actually I'm not sure if there is a meaning other than it being festive and yours being passed from one bride to the next on BDW. I say go for it!

Beautiful!! It is light and flowy, perfect. Nordstroms?

At least we are being secretive and doing this right....when we do this at my job there is always someone who pulls the "I know who has you" thing and by the time we exchange gifts most of us know who has who!

No go for any outdoor Catholic wedding in PV - maybe Cabo is different but I'd be surprised if anywhere in Mexico you can have a valid Catholic ceremony on the beach. Even in the US it's damn difficult, not impossible, but you basically have to know a renegade priest to pull it off outside of a church/chapel. We did a Catholic ceremony in the Bay Area after our Mexico wedding. I'd be happy to help if you have any questions....I am very familiar with the procedures.

I didn't do them but I think an anniversary gift is a great idea...that gives me until June to try to tone something up...yeah right We are always too hard on ourselves. Mark will love them for sure! Try pretending it's him taking the pictures and maybe that will help )

I hope this is your best birthday yet! Enjoy )

Yep, sometimes it is there for me too but sometimes it isn't.