Quote: Originally Posted by BarefootBride Since I have 12 uncles and aunts, a bunch of great aunts and uncles and a load of cousins and my living grandparents, only about 3 of them I corespond with via email... Im not sure if the others even know how to go through the TA's site! But most of my young friends and family got a quote So I am sending out invitations anyways especially to our aunts and uncles. I really think they would appreciate it. I can see my Great Aunt opening hers and thinking, "how nice that she sent me one." I come from a HUGE very traditional Catholic family that pretty much wants me to have a typical wedding but I dont want them to think that I am totally eloping and running away from it!
I just think that I would stay semi traditional and send them an actual invite in the form of paper! I think that the older crowd would appreciate it. As far as gifts.... we got two of everything and I doubt it that they would send a gift. I see, I sent one to my grandmother (who I know wasn't going) for that reason. I have a huge family too, I guess my case is a little different because we sent out 2 rounds of std's.
As a guest if I received a std magnet with a long letter & link to rsvp on the website and said "no", then 2 months later received an std postcard reminding me to rsvp on the website if I hadn't, then a few months later received a formal invite...I would be like WTF is wrong with this person? I know she is getting married, I said I can't come, and again she's asking for a reply...you know?
People know we care and thought about them when they received the stds so hurt feelings never factored in for us. People who did not reply either way also did not receive an invitation (not replying at all is inconsiderate and not worthy of a 3rd mailing!). The side bonus is that we paid under $200 for very nice invitations for the "yes" people, whereas if we sent everyone an invitation we would have easily spent $500+. Other than my grandmother those would have ended up in the trash, and hers may have too...lol