Quote: Originally Posted by SSNM though they run the risk of getting a gift that the bridegroom will probably re-gift later or sell or return. So what!!! When I get someone a gift I get them something I think they will like. I don't ask them later what they did with it or where it is, if they didn't like it and they re-gifted it, that is their right, its their gift, I didn't buy it for me, I got it for them to use and they see fit.
Asking for money is tacky, period! I don't care if its a cute little poem or what, its tacky. If you do this, expect that people will be pissed and think you are tacky. I always give money, always, but the 1 invitation I got that said monetary gifts only, I got them a gift. Why, because its rude to ask for money! Also, I think if you expect money (because you asked for it), people will give you LESS money than they would have if you didn't ask because they are obligated to give it to you, instead of giving it to you because they want to.