JulieG

Wow, you look HOT!! Your FI is going to love them.

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Sometimes these things happen close to the wedding because one of the people has cold feet. BUT, telling you he is embarrassed of you, that is WRONG. Even if he didn't mean it, he should never have said it. You need to sit down and have a talk with him. He can't just take your ring away whenever he gets angry, that is wrong on so many levels. He sounds pretty controlling as well, like you can come to the party when he thinks you can't come, but when you can he decides he doesn't want you there, he is telling you what to do and that is stay at home. Telling you he is embarrassed of you is again controlling, he is telling you he is better than you and you should do what he says. He has issues he needs to deal with and therefore you both have issues that need to be dealt with. I suggest counseling . If he will not go, then you know he is not willing to fight for your relationship and if he is not willing to fight, then why are you fighting? I really hope this gets worked out soon, no matter what the outcome is, you need and deserve some answers and so do your kids.

Quote: Originally Posted by JCrosby I forgot about this until now but our TA recommended that we use the free flights for ourselves (every 21st flight booked is free). I thought that was a bit sketch too. Has anyone else heard of this? Her reasoning was that nobody cares about getting an extra $10 - $20 off their trip so we should just take the free trips... We used our free trips, instead of taking the $10 off each person's trip, we used one for a GM who would not have been able to come otherwise and the other for our photographer. I asked my guests and they said they didn't care about $10 when the free trips would help us out so much. But never would we have charged them more, I felt bad enough not saving them $10.

Quote: Originally Posted by chloe55 Our TA does a lot of destination weddings and she told us that she recently had a bride who asked her to add $50 onto all her guests trip and then give her the money so that it would cover the cost of her wedding. She also did not tell the people that she was doing it. I couldn't believe my ears when I heard that, but it does sound like this may be something that some people do. Wow, that bride is the one who wanted a DW, she should be paying more not having her guests pay more. I am shocked and sooo glad I don't know her, she would be getting a piece of my mind that is for sure. That is so low and scummy it makes me sick.

That is not fair at all for that TA to make it sound like everyone does it. I am glad you are not using her, who knows what else she would tell you everyone does. I am glad you found this forum so you can ask all the questions you have and find all the answers

Quote: Originally Posted by TA Maureen If I were a guest attending a friend or family members DW I would not want to be overcharged to offset the cost for other guests. That just is not right. I agree with this 100%. I have never heard of anyone doing this, and if I was the guest I would say F&%# that, I am paying for my trip and not someone else's.

I was just about to say the same thing. Sorry if it seems like no one is answering you and just telling you to search, but really we are all tired of dealing with the same questions over and over again. The search function is a great feature, I use it before I start any new threads just to make sure its not already on here. Just a tip. Search and you will find your answer

Quote: Originally Posted by jamaicabride09 I can't believe that Sharon is pregnant!!! I hope it's Nick. That will just fuel the fire!! Do you think Tyra and Neil are going to end up together? I think I am in the minority here, but I hope Tyra and Neil get together, I liked her from the start and I never liked Neil and Karen together. BUT, I think Drew might be coming back, if so, Tyra and Drew would totally make for good enemy's, so that might be where this is going. I could be wrong, but I really don't think Drew is gone forever.

I KNEW IT!!! I totally knew that Sharon was going to be prego, it seemed to be the only thing they could do to her next. I am not sure who's I hope it is, it would be funny if it was Billy's, but that would destroy Jack and Noah, so I guess I hope its Nick's because then at least the baby would have the same parents as Noah. And I bet its a girl and her middle name will be Cassie.

Etiquette is that you have it no later than a year after your engagement, and no later than 6 months before the wedding date. I know that people don't follow etiquette much anymore, but if you want people to come to your wedding shower and your wedding its best not to invite them to too many things in too short a time frame. Does that make sense?

Quote: Originally Posted by Soon2beWed09 I guess this thread is closed now since she is banned...I wanted to know how her story turned out.. I think its a temporary ban, so she might be back to tell us.

Quote: Originally Posted by JTAlberta JUlie G Did your certificate come in Spanish? It did. You can get them to translate it, but it takes a lot more time and you have to pay for it. There is no need to translate it, the government offices take it as in, in Spanish. So it was super easy to change my name.

Quote: Originally Posted by ltoxopeu K'osh I would love to get that forward. Thanks! I will PM you. And thanks everyone for your responses. It's very helpful. I didn't realize a symbolic ceremony would be so much cheaper. Lori It depends on when you are getting married and how many people you have coming. Our legal ceremony was totally free, we had a lot of free stuff included in our package, like my hair and flowers, etc... We got married in October and had 52 guests, but I think you only need to have 10 rooms booked to get the free wedding package. The beach BBQ was extra, but was worth every penny.

Mine took 3 months almost to the day from our wedding. It seems like a long time while you are waiting, but that is really pretty fast when you think about the country its coming from.

Welcome to the forum. You picked an amazing resort and you are going to be soo very happy with your choice. Check the Cuba threads there is a lot of good info on there for you. And do not hesitate to message me with any of your questions.

Your bouquet is beautiful and soo real looking. I love it.

Just an FYI, I did not get any documents before I left Cuba with respect to the wedding. So not all resorts give you this unofficial document. I waited till I got my wedding certificate in the mail and that is when I changed my name, etc... As the other girls said, it was very very easy. I was told that your passport should always be good for 6 months from the date of travel just to be safe, so I would suggest you get a new one if yours is less than that, just to be on the safe side, I would hate for that to cause you issues and keep you from getting to your wedding.

Really, I am so confused because the articles I read made it sound like you could travel there. Huh. I will have to find that specific article. I am sleep deprived though, so I could have just interpreted it that way. So it really does not mean anything huh, well at least its a step in the right direction no?

I am curious to know what everyone thinks about this. Loosening of Cuba embargo could mean huge possibilities for U.S. businesses - Los Angeles Times

It looks like that might all be changing! Loosening of Cuba embargo could mean huge possibilities for U.S. businesses - Los Angeles Times

Hey Lori, You do have to pay a per person fee for the beach BBQ. I do not know how much it is because I am sure it has changed since we were there. They do allow outside vendors, we brought our photographer along, as long as they are a guest, I don't think its an issue at all. In fact I bet it would be okay even if they were not a guest, they are pretty lax. Yaly is very busy, she is the only WC there and its so busy, so just be patient, she will reply to you soon. Try to brainstorm and ask all your questions in one email, instead of in a few different ones, because she will reply to 1 and then move on to someone else's emails.

My situation was EXACTLY the same as yours. Except that when we decided we would get married and when, he gave me a big hug after and said "so we are going to get married" and I stopped hugging him and said "just so you know, you still need to propose to me". He was actually surprised, he thought that was what just happened, lol and I told him no, having the talk is not the same as proposing. So, I did not consider us engaged until he proposed to me. He did surprise me, which was hard to do since we had had the talk, but he surprised me by proposing on his birthday, I totally did not expect that. So, I suggest you have a conversation with him one day and talk about how its great that you are talking about getting married and set a date, but you are really looking forward to the day he actually proposes to you, just so he knows that is what you want. Men need to be told these things sometimes, men can be a little dumb when it comes to details.

Quote: Originally Posted by ltoxopeu Hi, I hope I'm not intruding on a thread but I am seriously considering getting married at Hotel Playa Pesquero. I've heard some very mixed reviews. Some of them are just FANTASTIC reviews and then others aren't so good. Some people are saying that it isn't at all a 5 star resort and that it's gone downhill. I guess the ones that concerns me most is that people are saying the pools are very dirty and that the food isn't that great. Any comments? I don't mean to scare anyone who's already booked here or rain on anyone's parade. I just would like some honest opinions. Thanks Lori Have you ever been to Cuba? If so, then you already know that when it comes to food, Cuba is not the place to go. The food is totally passable and sometimes good, but its a poor country, they do their best to feed us as good as possible with the little resources they have. If you want great food, go to Mexico or somewhere like that, Cuba is not known for their food, coffee and cigars on the other hand are amazing. We did not find the pools to be dirty at all. Also, I totally feel that this is a 5 star hotel. Our wedding was my 4th time in Cuba, so I know how the stars work there (its different in every country) and this is a 5 star Cuban resort without a doubt. If you want a 5 star in Canada or the US, then don't go to Cuba, you won't find amazing chefs, etc.. because they don't exist in Cuba. I have not been there since our wedding, but a friend of ours who came to our wedding was there in February and she said its still amazing, just has less trees and greenery, but they are working on that. So if you want Cuba, its a 5 star and a great resort for sure. P.S. take everything you read on trip advisor with a grain of salt, I have been to many places in many countries that people on there bashed and they were fabulous. I even check out hotels if I am going to another city and then do a review because people on there are sooo jaded and mostly people go on to complain, not to compliment. You will find that everywhere, most people who want to tell their story want to bitch and not say great things.

Quote: Originally Posted by krayzeekitty Thanks for your honesty Julie. Now I really really want to bring a photographer - some how! It seems that most people know someone - we don't unfortunatley. I have heard that some photographers will shoot the wedding for free if you pay their AI. I have 9 months to figure something out any suggestions are welcomed and appreciated! Sorry, I didn't want to sound harsh, but I just really wanted you guys to know he is not very good. Cuba is a communist country, so you are told what you are going to school for and what your job will be. So he is not a photographer because he is an artist and this is his passion, its because he was told this is his job. Does that make sense? I say find photographers in your area that are on the new side and ask them if they would do a DW if you pay for their trip, I am sure lots of photographers would do it this way. There are a few Canadian photog's on this site as well, so message them and see what they charge.

The resort photographer is just a man with a camera, I would not even call him a photographer. SOOOO, it all depends on what kind of pics you want. It was included in our package, so he took pics as well as our photog and I must tell you there were pretty terrible, so boring and cheesy posey, that I actually had to tell him (very nicely) that we did not want to do some of his poses. He has a list he runs through and does the same with everyone. I don't think he has ever done a TTD, ask Yaly, she would know, but I am sure you can hire him for another day, as long as there is not a wedding on. But again, I don't think the pics would be very good at all. It depends on what is important to you, the pics were very high on my list of important things because aside from my husband, they are the only thing I will have forever. So I was not taking any chances and I am glad I didn't.