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Maura that kind of sucks that his wife wasn't there. Our deacon had his wife there and they were actually funny and did skits that were so true to every couple. Mostly about arguments and how to fight fair. Btw this isn't a comment to your post, I just wanted to add that I have no personal view on the church's beliefs against contraceptive. I agree with you that it is a personal choice but I don't have an opinion leaning in either direction. I also should have prefaced and mentioned that I'm not saying what the church said is true, I just thought their explanation was interesting b/c I always thought the reasoning against it was that they viewed it as abortion which I never understood. But now I can at least understand their rationale. Again not saying I agree or disagree with it, I just thought it was interesting. Okay now I'm just rambling. LOL.

I'm so addicted too! And I love Ugly Betty and Grey's Anatomy too so I'm going to be in heaven on thursday's from now on!

Melissa I also thought it was going to be a bad experience. I can't say it would be a positive experience for everyone, I can only speak for James and myself. I think like anything else its what you make of it. If you take it seriously and you are open to it, you will benefit. If you are annoyed at having to do it, then your not going to benefit as much from it.

Ok I have a confession...I saw the title of the thread days ago but I didn't want to open it b/c I knew I would read it and cry. Tammy I remember when we spoke on the phone the other day and you sounded so in love with her. I just knew it was going to break your heart to give her to her new family so I just couldn't bring myself to read this thread. But then I didn't want you to think I didn't care so here I am. Of course I cried. She is so adorable, and I must say she looks happy. You and Cain are such amazing people and I really have such respect for the both of you. I know you miss her like crazy but try to comfort yourself by knowing that she is happy in her new home and has a new friend Diego to keep her company.

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR People love to speculate on anything! There are so many things that "they" say determine the sex - it's actually quite ammusing! The only thing that determines the sex is what I say. LOL. And I say Nugget is a boy. So there!

Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa Glenda - that sounds like such a great experience!! I don't want to sound completely ignorant but do you have to do Pre-Cana in order to get married in a Catholic Church? Was that the original reason? FMIL is a marriage counselor and FI is really open to counseling so we went to Pre-Marital Counseling for about 6 months before we even got engaged - it was great - it totally changed our relationship and made it stronger. It is SO healthy to discuss the uncomfortable things that are easier to avoid. I am so happy for you guys! xoxox You do not sound ignorant at all. But yes you have to be getting married in the Catholic Church to do pre-cana. Its like pre-marital counseling but the whole theme is centered on the fact that as long as you have God in your marriage, your marriage will be that much stronger. (Allegedly)

Becks your right but what I think the study is saying is that certain foods women eat can create a hostile environment for certain chromosomes. So perhaps eating lots of bananas is a hostile environment for sperm containing female chromosome. KWIM? ~I'm sure Morgan can chime in with her super brain here. Where is my brilliant Duke girl?

So last weekend James and I went to pre-cana. (Here in NY) Normally its a 6 week program in which you have to go once a week but since I work crazy hours we were able to do a weekend session. This weekend class is different from those weekend retreats where you go somewhere for the whole weekend. My class was friday from 7:30 PM to 9:30 PM and then saturday from 9:00 AM to 5 PM. It took place inside a church. I had heard different things from different people and I was nervous b/c James doesn't really care for organized religion so I knew I was in for a long weekend. I must say I was pleasantly surprised. Friday night's session was a mass. It was basically a shorter variation of what a wedding mass would be like. They did the readings about Adam being lonely and God creating woman for him. They also did the letter from Paul to the Corinthians (you know that famous saying "Love is blind, love is not jealous, etc) That night's session wasn't bad at all and we finished pretty quickly. The next day was a series of sections and exercises. They discussed a vast array of topics such as parenting, contraceptives, sex, fights, etc. Basically this couple taught the session (a deacon and his wife) and after each mini lecture they give you this workbook full of exercises. They make the girls sit on one side and the guys sit on another side and do the exercises individually. At the end of the session you meet up with your FI and discuss your answers. I must say I think the exercises were good and if nothing else it forces you to examine things you may not normally talk about. At one point we had to write a love letter to each other and then we got to read them at the end of the class. (privately, not aloud or anything like that) It sounds cheesy but everyone was crying and it was super sweet. There was also this really nice exercise where you hold the guy's hands in your own and the lecturer reads this beautiful thing about how these are the hands that will hold you when your sad, wipe away your tears, touch your belly when you carry your first child, help you bury your parents, etc. Then the guy has to hold your hands and they read something regarding a wife's hands. It was super sweet and I didn't see a dry eye in the room. Some things I found interesting: 1. I think the church has progressed b/c one of the first things they told us was that if you are in a physically abusive relationship you should get out of it and not put up with it. This surprised me since I assumed the church always told you to try to work things out and never get a divorce no matter what. 2. I found out the reason they don't like you taking birth control and other contraceptives. I also thought it was for another reason. Basically they said that contraceptive companies tell you that they are preventing the sperm from joining with the egg, when in actuality the sperm does join with the egg and all the contraceptive does is prevent you from getting implantation. I found that interesting for some reason. 3. James and I had always discussed the number of children we wanted, how many years apart, etc, but we never discussed things like what we would do if one of our children was born with severe disabilities or handicaps. We also never discussed elder care and what we plan to do with a sick parent who cannot care for themselves. All in all I had a positive experience with pre-cana and believe it or not James liked it. I felt that it brought us closer together and helped us come up with solutions to some of our problems (read: his out of control finances). I only went to it last weekend but this whole week I have seen a change in both of us that has been for the positive. I'm really glad that I did this. So anyways, sorry it was so long but I wanted to post in case anyone wanted to know anything. Feel free to ask any questions.

Nikki hurry up and catch up so that you can come talk with us tomorrow about tomorrow's episode!

Quote: Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108 I've done so poorly this season. For some reason I have no motivation! Well, that and my schedule is so crazy. FI was supposed to do this with me and has only been bringing me down! He decides he wants pizza at 10:30 and I cannot resist the cheesy bread! I haven't weighed yet today. I forgot this morning and ate breakfast so I'll have to see what the damage is tonight! Ann--I thought I sent the pic last week. I was busy and didn't check the thread. I'll send it to you tonight when I get home. Did we decide we can take a week off during season 2 if it's our wedding week? Yes of course you can take off a week if its your wedding week. Ann will just mark you down as no change.

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t19158 Go to this link. It has all the information about season 2!

OMG I just read through that entire thing. It was so good! I was literally salivating. I like that the spoilers tease you just enough but they don't tell you the secrets. Its perfect! Thanks for posting.

Leigh this place looks amazing! Of course now I want to go there. Thanks for sharing pics with us. ~Elizabeth I love the pics from your site too! They are so pretty. Thank you for sharing.

Quote: Originally Posted by Janet Way to go ladies! Esp Glenda and Erica! woo hoo. Okay so maybe I just want you to lose it all now so you will be skinny for Season 2 and then I can win!!! Hahahaha I see we have a competitive one! LOL.

In honor of Lost coming back on this thursday, April 24th here are some spoilers for those of you like me who love them: Spoilers Anonymous: Lost - TV Squad The best part is that I don't even understand most of the spoilers since I don't think most of these characters were introduced yet. Enjoy!

We still don't know. Unfortunately for us we had to cancel Cabo b/c of the in-laws. But hopefully we will get married soon. It will probably be in NY.

Quote: Originally Posted by NYJen And lastly, if you want me to kick her ass, just let me know. Spoken like a true New Yorker! LOL. Jenny I'm so glad everything worked out. And btw you looked amazing. If I looked half as good as you do my FI wouldn't even want to talk to another girl. He'd be drooling at my chest all night. LOL.

I want to do this but I don't have that kind of time. And I don't own weights so I would have to get spend more money on weights. And then I'd be scared I'm not doing it properly and therefore not seeing results. But it seems like a good workout from what you guys are saying.

Aww that is so cute! Wait are you buying another one of the same exact bracelet? I own some Carolee jewelery that I have never worn. My dad got it for me as a gift and I have just never had occassion to wear it. I don't really remember what it looks like but I can check to see if its similar of the same one. You could borrow it instead of buying another one if you want. On that note, Alyssa if you like it you can borrow it for your wedding too!

Quote: Originally Posted by Maura thanks g! i am so grossed out by some of the stuff on the link you gave me (the photo gallery blech!!!!!), but i have poochy tummy even when i work out and eat right... i am gonna have to order some of this stuff and see if it does me any good! thanks! let me know how yours is going when you start it - the pictures of stuff that comes out, and the girl who had the story about a 2 ft long parasite are so scary! I know its really gross! That's why I deleted the thread in the first place it was just too gross for such a pretty wedding forum. LOL. But yeah I would love to rid myself of some of that gross stuff from my body. I will def keep you updated!

Congrats Nikki! That is awesome, his work is amazing. I know you will have great pics!

Quote: Originally Posted by mummergirl Not sure if it's correct, but a girl at work just told me that what Daisy actually called Heather was "Skeevy Nicks," which is WAY funnier, and far more clever than I'd ever expect Daisy to be! That's what I heard too. Then someone told me she called her "Skeevy Hicks".

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What type of shoe do you want? Open toe, sandals? Peep toe? Wedge? Closed shoe?

Carly it looks like the Horah that they do in Jewish weddings. They put the bride on a chair and the groom on the chair and they lift them up in the air. And the guests make a circle and dance around them. Its actually fun, but I don't know if your up to doing that a DW.