my BM's didn't know what to do and they were all to far away to do much anyway. I know its hard for brides to remember this but you are the only one who thinks about your wedding constantly. If you need help with something I would ask them, also they might not realize that anything needs to be done now, especially if none of them have been married before. I only had one married BM and she was the only one who asked what she could do, the others had no clue at all.