Quote: Originally Posted by jilly76 you know what I don't get, is that if one of my friends said they were getting married in mexico, we would be so excited, maybe this is because we love to travel. And even though we might not have the money we would save it and budget and make it work so we could be there. And I have to say the majority of FI's friends are excited about it and making every effort to come.
I think its the perfect excuse for a vacation, even just a long weekend, why don't other people see it this way? Jilly, this is exactly what I talked to my FI when we re-chose our location because honestly my FI is a budget guy and yes if it was a really good friend I would put it on credit to go, but my FI would not. I have a friend who is like a sister getting married this year in April and I am going alone because my FI refuses to spend the money on a flight and dog sitting (this is also because he doesn't have a job right now).
I know that in our minds we tell ourselves that we would go no matter what, and I think a lot of my friends and family did also, but when they really looked at how it would affect them, they realized it would be very difficult and I personally would never want anyone to go into debt for my wedding.
As for those people who have the money and travel otherwise, it might be the case that the particular location is not appealing to them or that they are just stuborn and want the free food for a traditional wedding.
I think that no matter what, we all chose our destinations for a reason and we should enjoy our day. People who cannot make it will miss out on a great time. So too bad for them!!!