I am answering from a high school teacher perspective so keep in mind that I am not a parent of a teenager.
Quote: Originally Posted by meandpaul Additionally, my dilema is: (1) at what point do I make her stop seeing this boy - I know I have no control at school (unless I send her to a different school, which is a possibility) but I do at home?
I have seen a lot of students do everything possible to defy their parents at school, so my advice on that would be to be open and communicative with your daughter about this and how it makes her feel. The minute you start telling her no she will start to do the exact opposite with this situation
(2) Am I insane to think that the remark by the principal extremely inappropriate? If not, what do I do about it? no you are not insane, this is beyond inappropriate and I think you might want to contact the guidance counselor, main principal and/or school social worker if you feel that you would like to take it to that level, but keep in mind that its one thing for her to go to the principal, but once the parent does it can be very embarrassing for the student and this might make her problem worse because if the principal calls the other student into the office and says that they spoke to you it makes your daughter look like a wimp (not that she is, but that is the way kids think) and things could get worse before they get better.
(3) Legally, there is nothing that I can do, but how do I help my child? She comes home sad and depressed...all because of this one little b****. (I know she is only 15, but someone has let this girl think that her behavior is okay). UGHHHHH! Thanks for letting me get this out. Keep in mind that all teenagers go through bouts of depression and anxiety over a variety of things, you wouldn't believe the things I see daily. By no means should your daughter have to deal with someone hurting her like this and I hope she will see that the guy should have done something about this long before it got to this point and while I know a teenager cannot see it when they are blinded by puppy love, but your daughter deserves better than someone who doesn't trust them but instead trusts a manipulative nasty girl who he is obviously not dating for some reason or another.
please let me know if you think of anything else, questions, concerns etc. but your daughter should not be treated like this by the boy, the girl, or the administration and yes something should be done before it ruins her 10th grade year.