Quote: Originally Posted by TonyandTricia To me, a shower is for your closest friends and family and if you didn't think they were close enough to invite to the wedding I wouldn't invite them to the shower. I would probably think it was kind of rude to be invited to give someone a gift and not invited to share in their day with them. "You want a gift from me, but not for me to share in your wedding with you?!?" If you were only inviting a few people to the wedding then maybe I could understand, but 70 people is a lot.
You will most likely still get gifts from them for the AHR if that's the point of inviting them to your shower.
Just my thoughts... I tend to agree with this - typically only the closer set of family and friends get invited to the shower, and these people are almost always invited to the wedding (why wouldn't they be!?). So to invite people to the shower and not the wedding would seem in poor taste to me personally.