Quote: Originally Posted by Christa I can also say that I am a child of divorce. My mom expected a lot from me in terms of figuring out how to be where I needed to be, getting good grades, being a good person, helping around the house. I was sad that I didn't have a father in my life, that impacted me for a long time. Yet, I did not need to be disabled in my development by having my mother coddle me. She turned out a very capable, responsible, productive person in me...and for that I am very thankful. So, yes, I know what it feels like to be a child of divorce. I also know what I'm seeing & it scares me. Iam a firm believer than children live up to their expectations. If you don't expect much, you won't get much. I know that's over-simplifying, but I really do believe that - R needs to expect more from his son. He's certainly capable, but right now he's not really being forced to live up to very high expectations.
That doesn't answer or help most of the issues you've brought up - Maria is doing a better job at that! But I just wanted to throw that thought out there.