Jackie

Also if you do wait till you decide on location than until than you could at least maybe get the time of year/date out by word of mouth until the STD's are out. We started talking about our May wedding to a lot of people (people we felt most important on comming to the wedding) well before the STD's so that they could be aware of it.

I would wait on location also. We are getting married May 27th 2008 and sent the STD's out in the beginning of August (I think) 2007. Thats 10 months out and still seems like plenty of time.

AHHHH, isnt family wonderful. It definitly seems that you get to know a lot more about some of your family members as soon as the wedding planning begins. So sorry to hear about the drama, just try and keep it low key on your end and hopefully others will at least notice that it is NOT you, she might also be concentrating a lot on your wedding because she is scared about other things that are going on in her life too. Good luck!

Good Call!

Hi Erin welcome to the forum. Ann got married at Dreams PV and is super generous to help out, I'm sure she will have some good advice for you!

Quote: Originally Posted by Heidi I guess I should share my info as well! We considered Bucuti - BEAUTIFUL resort!!! Only accommodates small weddings though (max of 50 guests) & a 5 night minimum stay for all guests. Here's the info I have: My friends SWEAR by this resort, they have been there numurous times and are heading back their again this December! According to my friend the staff really goes the extra mile and truly does make you feel like they have known you for years!

Thanks ladies!!! You guys are so supportive and i didnt realize there were so many more of us that have done this. That makes me feel a lot better!

Quote: Originally Posted by nellieboo I feel your pain!!!! My family was all for a destination wedding and suddenly it is too expensive to come so they are trying to make me feel bad (It's working!!) and change the location. We have guests that want to stay elsewhere and I just told them to look up hotels on trip advisor if that's what they want and they are responsible for the day pass. We'll be at Dreams! Yah, Ryans mom tried pulling the whole "we arent going if we have to spend more than 4 hours on a plane" I just said, "Ok, we would really love it if you came but I understand" I'm not changing the destination of OUR wedding to appease 2 people that are afraid to leave Cape Cod! Besides Ryan is mommies favorite and she knows damn well that she is comming so stop trying to make me feel guilty. If she wants to give us 40k for an at home wedding then we will have one here otherwise stop complaining.

Thats great, hopefully you can share a couple of them with us girls!!!!

NO particular reason except that I though a Tuesday (our date falls on tuesday) would be more assessable for me to get a better pick of good vendors, and possibly less weddings on our date, and I didnt want our wedding on the last day we were in Cabo I wanted it more towards the beginning.

Thats a tough one. If I were you I wouldnt do it so early the first full day there and the day after the welcome dinner. Is there any other time you can go. You want to make sure your guests feel relaxed, and this could be to much in to little of a time slot for most people but what a great idea the canapoy tour sounds really cool.

I would recomend the smaller version. Not that I have used them or anything but it is a place-card setting so I think small is OK and also it will save some money which it always ok

I prefer the white star fish too! I'm not sure if we will incororate them into our table yet, but its definitly a top containder.

Quote: Originally Posted by NHPT wait what- $400 for 4 people? really? that is crazy.......... we had 7 guests that stayed off site at a timshare- they thought they would save SO much money- well they didnt- they were at Dreams everyday because they wanted to be a part of the action- and they had no room so it was a pain in the a** for them to get ready, etc- seriously they said at the end" we shoud have just stayed here" i know you cant MAKE your guests stay but they will regret it if they stay elsewhere. Isnt it like $85.00 per person for a day pass right? Thats what I thought anyway. I spoke with one of my friends today about it really nicely and by the end of the conversation she completely understood and wants to stay at Dreams. I just simply said... although you will pay a little more up-front for an All-inclusive you end up saving a bunch of money because of this expense or that expense and you get to either hang out with everyone if you choose to our have your own space if you choose to.

Yes, time definitly flyes once the 1 year mark is up...All of a sudden its like, uh-oh I need to stop thinking about things I need to do and actually get some of them done Welcome to the board!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by gkashmira I think this is the right response for you - even if it's inside your head! Just give people the info if they ask and if you're not paying for passes the day of the wedding let them know that too. And people may actually prefer to pay the day pass. This may sound crazy but I would be one of those people that would probably want to stay somewhere else. I don't eat meat and I have a lot of difficulties at buffet style dining. That being said, I may not buy a day pass to come EVERY day but I would definitely consider coming on at least one non-wedding day. Also, and I know this is totes illegal - but you know the beach is public property - if people need to stay elsewhere for budget reasons you may be a able to sneak a few onto the grounds for the just hanging out days (probs not the wedding though). Your probably right, a couple people could probably sneak in on their own accord for the "just hanging out days" if they wanted to. Quote: Originally Posted by ajncooter this is kind of happening to me too.. but fiance family is thinking of booking thru a seperate travel agent.. i tried to make everything so easy and there is always someone that has to be difficult... Ya, I think this has happened to almost every bride on here, but keep on making things easy for everyone and if they chose to make it difficult for themselves than let them. OH WELL not our problem....thats my knew motto! Quote: Originally Posted by Debs You have made arrangements for Dreams. If people want to go somewhere else, they are on their own, IMO. That includes fees to get into the hotel for the ceremony/reception. Screw them! I really am starting to rethink even suggesting that we will pay, I know a lot of brides on here did do that for their guests but we just dont have the budgett for it I mean if even 2 couples decide to stay somewhere else thats almost $400.00 right there. We definitly cant afford it. Oh well either they come or they dont!

Quote: Originally Posted by cheese_diva http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...mbroidery.html I had mine embroidered. They look great! Oh, those are GREAT!

Quote: Originally Posted by MikkiStreak The other thing to point out to guests are the activities they get at no charge---- like snorkeling, etc... Those items on top of food & drinks could get very expensive if they stay at a non-AI... good point good point. I think we MIGHT do a website sometime before we send out the formal invites and that way it will be easier to express all of this to people. And than after that we will have to just take it as it comes. I REFUSE TO GET STRESSED OUT OVER THIS WEDDING..... THAT WAS THE WHOLE PREMISE OF US DECIDING ON A DESTINATION WEDDING TO BEGIN WITH......WHO WANTS TO BET i'LL BE EATING THESE WORDS SOONER OR LATER LOL.

Quote: Originally Posted by NurseSarah It was super easy...I think Ann, Sarah (sassygirl) and I all have posted threads on how to do it if you search for them... Thanks Sarah

Quote: Originally Posted by Raeka I know we had people inquire about different non AI resorts as well. And J's dad is staying at another hotel. We advised him that the hotel is charging us an $80 fee for every guest who is not stayin at our hotel and if he decided to stay somewhere else he would be paying the $80 day pass fee. I feel horrible making him pay it but we already have expenses that we are taking care of for our guests (champagne, appetizers, etc) and as long as we're upfront about it they know what theyre getting into. DO I sound harsh? No you dont sound harsh, as long as you arent preasuring anyone to go either. If you absolutly insist that they go and they say that they would rather stay somewhere else than maybe I would feel different. But if you just invited them to your wedding with no preasure than I dont feel its that big a deal if you request that they pay if they dont stay at the resort your getting married at. Quote: Originally Posted by gkashmira If you do want to give people places to stay where they can save money I would recommend Marbella en La Playa. It's very close to Dreams and the rooms and food are very affordable. Thanks Kash, if it comes down to weather or not they can go at least I can lead them in the right direction.

OMG I absolutly love it!!!! I cant wait to see what it looks like in White!

You girls are right. There is nothing i can do about it and I would probably pay for a certain few guests (very close friends) to come on our wedding day if they arent staying at our resort but I am definitly going to need to make it clear without being a bitch that it might not be the best choice to stay elsewhere. Thanks!

Quote: Originally Posted by Christine I didn't put it directly on the bag...by the way its so nice to see you back on the forum more Jackie, we missed you! Thanks, I love being on here! Thanks ladies I think I might just pay for someone else to do it.

Just a little itty bitty vent.... I purposly havnt EVER anywhere mentioned anywhere to stay besides our resort (DREAMS) to our guests.... and I am starting to have a couple guests inquire about other places they can stay that arent all inclusive. SHIT! 1. I really dont want to have to pay 5 bizillion dollars for everyone to visit our resort for the day of the ceremony. 2. It kind of takes away of the whole partying and relaxing for a week with eachother. 3. I dont think they realize (and the guests looking into this are trying to SAVE money and are definitly on a big time budget) that All inclusive is the cheapest way to go in Cabo anyways! From what I read and here and darn bottle of water is nearly 7 bucks. I have a feeling they will regret it if they book somewhere other than Dreams or another all-inclusive, but I dont want to seem pushy if I try and tell them this isnt a good idea. DAMNIT!

Dreams los Cabos May 27th 2008