Quote: Originally Posted by Rkiss My FI sister just started dating someone and she wants to bring him to the wedding. We are getting married in Mexico and have 25 people coming, each and everyone I know very well and I don't think it is appropriate for her to bring someone we have never met. They have only been dating for about three months (will be seven by the wedding but who knows) She feels that it is customary to bring a date to the wedding but does this count if you are having a destination wedding?? I don't want him to come and she is mad as hell. What do I do? She is now saying that she is not coming if her BF can't come. I am so angry and feel that she is being really selfish. She is going to be my sister in law... should I just let her bring some strange guy to MY wedding because she is my FI's sister? I am so stuck on this. You just have to decide if it's worth it to you to say no to her. If you say no, you'll have to deal with her potentially not coming, all the drama, and all the stress it will create. If you let her invite him, you have to deal with him for the few days of your wedding weekend.
IMHO I'd let her bring him just to keep the peace. If they break up before then, you were still the good guy who said he could come. If they end up staying together, you didn't exclude him from his first family function. Plus, having him there doesn't mean you have to talk to him or anything. Think of it as the more the merrier!!!
Btw - you are totally right for thinking she is being rude and selfish. She should never have approached you with this - but since she did, deal with it as best you can!