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you said "And just b/c you have 8 children does not mean you deserve extra attention. How many women in America have many children with no help? Quite a few. My mom had 7 and had no help. Just b/c you had that many doesn't entitle you to anything IMO. Plus I think its wierd they only tried what a year? I think (might be wrong) to have children before turning to fertility drugs. WTH?"
I try to ignore many comments on forums because it tends to only get way blown out and too much drama. HOWEVER, I must comment on this. DH and I have been TTC for 15 months, we started seeing a infertility specialist after about 4 months, we or should I say "I" have a medical condition that is stopping me from being a mother, and need the help of a speicalist to have that chance. I don't think you have any right to judge someone until you walk a mile in their shoes. Maybe women get pregnant very easily and others, like myself, can't. I's VERY sad when everyone around you is getting pregnant and all you want is to experience the same. Yes we are thinking about adoption as well. BUT you have NO RIGHT to judge someone who choose to opt for help. YOU have NO CLUE what I have been through over these past 15 months, the stress, the tears I've shed, the jealous feelings I go through when someone gets pregnant the first time they try or ever without trying. It has put a lot of stress in my life, and I think in this day and age, why not ask for help if you need it. Oh and BTW Most DR's would say that after a year of trying and not getting pregnant then you need to see a specialist, 6 months if your charting.