TammyB

Well now Natalie, since your used to "Old mexican ladies" I say the best option is to send her your way.. :-) Oh man,, I think I need to omend my secret Santa list and under "wants" I'll list: for some very kind couple to let my MIL move in with them for the next couple of months.

If I have Christmas at my house then I would invite everyone, both my family and Cain's. So I'm sure she would be on her best behavior.

:-) I was actually thinking about doing something like the first picture too..

I need a bigger buget so I can do fireworks. I think it would be really cool, but it just seems like everytime we turn around the wedding cost more and more.

I read the sand cermony one but not the hands one, very pretty. I'm not doing music during the ceremony, for one main reason I think since were getting married on the beach that it would be hard for people to hear us over the music and waves hitting the shore. So the beach sound will be our music :-)

Edyta, you bring up a very good point. Poor guy will have the whole board bugging him for the pictures. LOL.. I can totally see you guys sending him wine or something so that he gets your pictures done quicker.. lol

Thanks Christa and jackie, I told Cain today at lunch (my only time to see him face to face on the weekdays) that I can honestly look back and say I don't regret anything I have said to her, that everything was honest and wasn't said to be hurtful and it was to clear the air. I think told him that his mother on the other hand is saying things that are down right mean and as if she is trying to get under my skin on purpose. He said that is the way most of his family is, they say things out of anger that are hurtful because they that's the only way the know. I told him it's very wrong and one day I hope Marty looks back and realizes she stepped W-A-Y over the line. He agrees that I should just let her be right now because she'll only make it worse.

Yeah maybe your right. I guess the way she is acting right now makes me think that she should be Germen and not Mexican because she is so stubborn and holds a grudge and will never come around.. (no insult intended to the Germens, I'm part Germen :-)

Ann it's so hard right now for me not to treat her like she's acting and treating me. I'm trying SOOO hard to not stoop to her level. Right now I don't want to deal with her, shoot she was suppose to present us with our rings at our wedding and now I don't want her to do that, I would rather have Cain give me my ring. She doesn't deserve to be apart of it, she only earns the right to watch the wedding. I know this sounds harsh, but the way she is acting and treating me is totally uncalled for...

Quote: Originally Posted by destinationbride07 I say have your xmas! If she wants to act out like a kid let her. This is your home and this is what happens in your home: happiness! Hmm maybe I'll just tell her if she can't be nice then she can stay up in her room.. :-) Ok so I wouldn't do that, but Ohhhh how I would love too..

So my mom called last night and wanted to know if I would throw Christmas, I said no problem but I've been thinking today that with all the drama from Marty maybe it's not such a good idea. What do you gals think?

Thanks Ann but I won't be holding my breath on that one. She's the type of women who is never wrong and will always point blame on someone else, so I don't really think much will change out of all this. If she's so freaking uncomfortable living with us/me, she can move in with her sister, but I don't see that happening either so instead I'm sure she will just make my life hell until she moves out. I'm still shocked that a women in her 50's is acting so childish. I keep thinking there has to be more to this, like the "loosing her son" thing. Maybe that's a part of it or maybe she's use to controling peoples lives and I won't allow her to come into our home and take over... Maybe she feels she can mother me like she does her son, and with that go through all our stuff. But she needs to learn that's not normal and any normal person would have a problem with it. Shoot she's lucky I even said OK for her to move in, how many people would let their FMIL move in after they have only been in there first home for about 6 months? Ok maybe I'm still a little pissed.. :-) Just a little..

Janet don't explain to your boss, show him/her the website and they will be hooked as well.. lol

The very long awaited pictures are finally up. YEAH.. Natasha you look amazing, and you two look so happy. It's good to see you on the board again, we missed you....

Rebecca, your pictures look great. It really looks like you had an awesome time and those two little girls are just adorable..

Tammy that made me laugh, thankyou.. I needed it. The house was SO tense last night, she really is acting like a little baby. Even stupid stuff like how we get the coffee ready for the next morning, she usually sets it up and in the morning I put the water in and start it. Well she's not even doing that now. Piss on her, I'm not going to buy into her stupid games, Cain and I know the truth and if she wants to cry and act like I'm the one who deserves all the blame then whatever, I refuse to buy into it any longer. I spoke to my sister about her MIL (she a peace of work too) and told Cain and he said him and Mark (my sisters husband) need to go out for some drinks.. lol.

Well Cain tried to call her and talk to her because she wouldn't talk to me when she got home, I made dinner she ignored me. I told her I took her dog out 5 minutes before she walked in the door and she turned around and took him out anyway. SO Cain called her, she said to him it was a mistake for her to move in, she doesn't like how "I" treat her and she hung up on Cain. Cain is pissed at his Ma right now and he's mad that he's not home to force her to talk to him about what's going on.. I told him I will forward all the emails that we wrote back and forth and he will see I wasn't being rude at all and I was just trying to work on our problems and fix things. I told him I give up, I'm not reaching out to her anymore. If she want's to stay in the bedroom then let her be. This is all very childish and I'm sooo sick of it. seriously running off and getting married without ANYONE sounds really good to me right now.

I already sent my STD's and our wedding is two days after yours. I wanted to give everyone plently of time to save for the trip. However with that said since the holiday season is right around the corner I would wait until after you return from Cabo before you send them out. That why they are not lost in the holiday mail.

Ann, I heard through a friend of a friend that they knew someone who was getting married that was having a small backyard wedding and was planning on wearing a white skirt she already had because he didn't have the money for a wedding dress. So I gave my dress to them, it was several years old but I told her she can do with it as she pleases. If I sell my dress I would probably put it on some wedding websites, but in all honestly what are the odds that people actually buy from those? Unless is a big designer label.. My dress cost about 1000.00, but I bet if (and that's a big IF) I sold it I would be lucky to get 300.00 for it because like Janet said, who is going to want a dress your size and such. Plus one that will work with their height. So who knows. Maybe I'll do what Jackie mentioned and cut it up and make something pretty for the house or something with it. that way it's not in my closet wasting space...

OMG, so she responded to my email that I sent her earlier trying to explain things better and she still doesn't get it. I talked to Cain and he's pissed at his Ma for acting like a child, (I read him the emails) He said she's over reacting and who would be a guest in someone elses home and move stuff around all the time, he said that it just plain rude. So I'm happy that he at least agrees that I'm not being bitchy and that I have a valid point. She is still saying that her dog will be out of the house by this weekend, the only thing we can think of is she called her Ex-FI to come pick him up. I told Cain she is totally over reacting and he said we (him and I ) wouldn't have to harp on AL all the time if he listened better. Then she trys to give me a guilt trip saying she can't really afford this house in two months right now but is getting it now because she knows she's not welcome in the house. OMG, first of all, she is saying how she wants to put hardwood floors in and paint the house before she moves in,, well for someone who "can't afford" living in there right now, she certainly knows how to spend the money she doesn't have. I mean how come she can't have carpet until she can "afford" to get hardwood floors? This is hell,, I mean really.. I think after today I'll be weighing in 5 pounds less after my workout because I'll be taking out all my stress.

I keep going back and forth on this subject too. On one note I say why let a dress hang in the closet that my future kids wouldn't be caught dead in when they are ready to get married, so might as well sell it and make some money back off the wedding. And then I think, but it's my wedding dress and SO many memories... Or I was even thinking about donating it to a less fortunate bride who may not be able to afford a wedding dress. (that what I did with my first wedding dress) So to sum it up.. I have no freakin clue.. LOL...

Thanks Kash, Now to just deal with things being really tense at home until this weekend when were all home. I had someone read the email I first sent her and they said it was actually quiet nice. (I kept saying I don't want to fight I want to work things out, that sort of thing) We have a gym at work and I'm planning on de-stressing after work. Then since I work with Cain and he starts when I get off I'll go talk to him for a bit about all of this. I just feel so bad for him here he is working long, bad hours, trying to save money for our wedding and in the mean time his mother and FI are arguing. I'm sure it's very stressful for him.

Maybe you guys are onto something... Maybe she is affraid of loosing Cain her only son/child and she'll be stuck home alone, no friends, no man in her life and a sister that is wrapped up in her upcoming wedding. So maybe she feels like she is going to loose him too. Maybe he does need to talk to her. I think after I work out I'll go and talk to Cain for a little bit about all this to see what he says. Maybe he needs to at least talk to her on the phone (since he's working a different shift) and let her know she's over reacting. Man I wish I did drugs, I would totally be smoking it up right now if it did.. :-)

You guys I'm so sick to my stomach like this. I can't believe she is treating me like this. Im sure I'm not perfect, and I even pointed that out in my email but instead of her trying to work things out she choose to be extremly rude and seriously I felt she slapped me in the face. I'm almost in tears at work having to deal with this crap. I don't deserve this, and you would think at the very least she would be willing to make an effort for her sons behalf but instead she blew everything out of wack and made it 10x's worse.

OK so part Three.. I sent her an email trying to work things out for Cain's sake.. The email I got back from her was horrible, it's like she in her mind I'm the biggest bitch in the world and she's making up sh*t that is totally not true. I called Cain and told him about her email back and he offered to talk to her, but OMG I'm in total awe right now. I'm waiting to calm down because if I respond to her right now I will totally blow a gasket... She is suppose to be an adult but is seriously acting so young and stupid right now. I guess I was stupid to think she would ever reconize that we both can make mistakes and we both need to work on them. What if f-in b*tch.. Seriously I'm at a total loss right now. I don't want to go home tonight because I don't want to talk to her, look at her or be near her.. UGH.....