TammyB

I have no idea what the flowers in picture 3 are, lol... I just thought they were pretty..

Hi, there are just soooo many pretty flowers that I keep second guessing myself. Course it could be that I'm bored to death at work and I'm going crazy with wedding details.. :-) SO tell me which one you like the best. I want to incorporate green flowers since our colors are olive green and ivory, and I don't really have that much green in our wedding yet. Pic 1 Pic 2 Pic 3

Ok yes, I'm still trying to figure out how I want our individual cakes designed. What do you girls think of this? But with ivory colored roses on the top

ROFL I know.. It will be a very nice break.. :-)

Cain and I have been doing this since we met. At first we would put money in the jar when we had private time :-) then we started to just throw in all our change. And we don't touch it until our next planned vacation. With the money we saved we plan something special to do with it.

Well.. Cain talked to her on the phone last night, He only told me bits and pieces of the conversation but he told his Ma that she is totally over reacting with everything. She of course started blaming everthing on me again, and Cain said "Ma I don't think you realize how much stuff you move around and the things you say to Tammy" then he gave a few examples and told her how would she like it if someone did those things. I think she is s-l-o-w-l-y seeting the big picture. I guess Marty is going to a Christmas party at her old office this weekend (about 2 hours away) and will be gone most of the weekend. So Cain said when she gets back all three of us need to sit down together and talk it out. SO we'll see what comes out of it Sunday..

Crap, I can't open it. :-(((

Hey Natasha, where did you get that table runner for your tables? I want a olive green on for our ceremony and dinner table and I can't find them online. Would Maye be able to get them do you think?

Natasha, that place is amazing. I'm blonde so bare with me, you have it listed as Hacienda San Jose, Is this San Jose del Cabo?? I can't wait for your personal pictures of the resort, and I would LOVE to see a wedding there I bet it would be just amazing and that's just by looking at the few pictures online.

Sarah I without question think you should do a workout that challenges your body, if you can only do it twice a week at first, thats fine, just keep building it up over time, the workout will get easier for you. This is my theory, if you work half @$$ on a workout your only cheating yourself and you'll end up quiting because you don't see the results you wanted to. I think the really good thing about those DVD's is that you have to try to keep up, when a person works out of their own its far to easy for then to say "man I'm tired, I can't do "x" amount more I'll just stop here". The reason I LOVED going to classes for kickboxing is because I was challanged to keep up with the rest of the class, so it didn't allow me to give up as easily. Sarah do the workout twice a week for 3 weeks, then 3 times a week for 3 weeks, and keep increasing it.

LOL.. I tried the Ty-bo (question spelling) and it was great, but my problem is I get bored doing the same thing day end and day out. So I had to change it up. Sarah, its a VERY good thing that your sore from the workout, that means it's working, however the bad part is that you may have "overworked" your muscles and it will take longer to repair them. I'd say do the work out everyother day to start.. Maybe even twice a week for the first couple of weeks and build yourself up. You don't want to be too sore that you don't want to work out the next day. Also remember girls that your muscles need time to relax so never work the same body part two days in a row. Ok that's all I have to add for now.. Good luck everyone.

Also to add on to what Rebecca says, for those girls (IE me) who crave Chocolate, it's actually been known that when your body is craving chocolate you need to eat vegs, yeah I know, not the same but when your body is lacking something which is why we think it's chocolate, but it's not. Now in theory this sounds right, but during that time of the month, I NEED chocolate. Other times I will eat those vegs...

OMG Christa, you just sparked a thought,, I hope she doesn't think she has the right to our key to our home once she moves out? I WILL talk to Cain about this I can see it now, her coming and going as she pleases and God only knows what else she would do when were not home.

Hi and welcome to the forum. I think there is other brides from that area, so hopefully they can help..

You now as much as I'm pissed about this whole thing, the way she is acting is almost funny.. I mean a grown women in her 50's acting like a 5 year old you told to stay out of the cookie jar, no matter how many times you say something the minute you turn your back, he/she has to get their hands in it. Maybe instead of a note next time in the letter I'll buy a mouse trap.. When I see her hand all swollen I would be like "oh what happened to you".. Now that would be funny..

***YET ANOTHER UPDATE***** So me being who I' am I decided to "test" Marty. Cain and I received a package yesterday, it was the Christmas cards we ordered. So I decided to "prove a point" so I placed them "just right" on the table, and the stuff inside was a way I would be able to tell if they were looked at. SO I come home for lunch and see that it was all messed up, inside and out. I asked Cain if he had a chance to look at the pictures, and he said "nope" and he got up and we looked at them together. OK so I'm 99.9 % sure she went through our freakin mail again.. OMG I'm so pissed... I kept quiet about it because I knew it would stress Cain out, but OMG... OH and BTW he read all the emails that Marty and I sent and he said his Ma was over reacting and NOTHING was wrong with my emails. This women is a real piece of work..

Jill why not go home, spend time with your FI and then after dinner (about an hour afterwards) head back out to the gym? I used to do kickboxing around 7:30 at night 3 times a week, it was hard to motivate myself to go, since I normally just want to sit down and relax, but what I found out is that it was great it made me really tired for bed that night and OMG does it kick your body back into shape really fast.

WOW, ok I'm not a dreams bride, but wow thats a great deal now I kindof wish I choose an AI resort..

That place looks amazing.. I hope to visit Europe one day.

Quote: Originally Posted by akh Tammy - I am like you, I wouldn't mind losing about 5-10 lbs, but I really want to tone up, especially since it's not only my wedding, but it's on the beach - which means a lot of bikini time! I do have extra motivation too - I am in my best friends wedding a month before mine, so I have a little extra push to step it up a bit! Too bad that push doesn't seem to be enough right now ... grrrrrrrr Ann, If I don't work out after work it just mean more time alone right now with Cain's Ma.. That will motivate just about anyone.. :-) Why not go to any indoor tennis/racket ball court and play. That's actually good cardio. AND if you want to sit on the couch do arm excercise while you sit there, you would be surprised (while watching TV) how much you do without even knowing it. Yeah, looking good in a bikini is also a top concern of mine, and I also have a wedding a month before ours.. LOL crazy how we are so alike in that regard.. :-)

Well for me, I have done what I said I would, I started working out at least 5 days a week starting December 1st,, Ok so December 1st was a friday, and this week it's only wednesday, but I've been doing it and plan on keeping it up. It's hard because sometimes I "look" for reasons not to work out but I counter it with other stuff... Plus with all the added stress that Cain's Ma is giving me right now it's a good stress relief. The hard part for me will be to keep up the workout during our holiday shutdown, where I'll have to drag my butt out of bed and drive to work, just to work out. I refuse to weight myself, one because I don't own one, but two because I know I will start to noice a differance in the way feel in my clothes. I'm not trying to loose weight (ok maybe 5 pounds) but for the most part I'm in this to tone up. So on January 1st I hope to start noticing a change. I want to be in the shape I want by my first dress fitting in March. So I'm giving myself 3 months and then I'll maintain it for another 3 months until our wedding. ON a positive note, having Marty piss me off is actually helping me get in the gym, so this could end up being a good thing.. :-)

Great review Natasha, I can't wait to see your PRO pictures and the pictures of your honeymoon. I'm sorry you went through so much with the resort, seems like everyone always has some sort of drama go on before their wedding, IE, you with the resort, other brides with their BM and me with my MIL. You name it I think everyone has something that gives then a ton of stress.

Natasha, you are a very wise women. Thankyou for all your great advise. I think your right, I think Marty needs to understand that many things she want's to talk about or things she doesn isn't ok with me, even if it doesn't bug Cain because hes used to her, she needs to respect that I'm not her son/daughter and she needs to know that certain things can't be discussed. I however know this will be very hard for her, she has told me that when her Mom was alive they used to talk about everything, from her sex life, money or whatever. And I'm sure in her mind she thinks it ok to talk like that to her son and F-DIL. But it's not.. There is a LONG list of things I could sit back and say that she shouldn't be doing, I know when I sent her the initial email I only listed the top two things because I didn't want her to think I was coming down on her, granted opening our mail should have been a given but clearly it wasn't. Cain is a very easy going guy, and doesn't like to fight with people, even more so his mother because that is all he had growing up. BUT that doesn't mean she can do what she wants because she feels she has earned the right. And Cain needs to let her know he's a big boy now and she needs to respect our privacy and our rules when she is living under our roof. If I were to be a guest in someones house and if they had some crazy rule about something, I would do it because it's their home, and I should be greatful they let me stay there. Thanks again Natasha, I think Cain and I will need to plan on sitting down this weekend and talk about how were going to tackle the problems with his Mother and then both of us sit down and tell her the way we want things. Like you said, if she doesn't like it then she can either find another place to stay or learn to live with our rules until she moves out. It's no longer about he said/she said, it's about respecting one another and her knowing that she is a guest in our home.... Period..

I agree about incorporating the center pieces that the restaurant already has, the two places by the beach at the Sheraton both have candles, I was going to rent some from Maye, but since they have some I'm just going to work with what they have, no need spending the extra money.

Have you considered Cabo San Lucas? If you rent a villa they are all pretty much located on a private beach called Pedregal. For the longest time we had planned on getting married their and it's a very pretty beach. There are a couple of brides on this forum that got married there and posted some pictures.