TammyB

I'm I the only one who feels ripped off that Ann didn't post a picture of her in the dress? :-)

We also wanted to be married just the two of us. I knew Cain's ma wouldn't miss it for the world because Cain is her only child. So we knew she would fly there for a few days. BUT my side of the family still to this day give us a hard time about not getting married locally. My sister refused to even go to my batchlorette party. It's very hard being a happy couple trying to do what "we" want when everyone around you want to b*tch at you about something, even if they have the money to attend, they still would rather spend less. I've heard "how could you not want to share this day with your family, you clearly don't care about us anymore now that you are getting married" which is totally BS. Bottom line, do what you and your FI want, everyone else will get over it eventually. OH and if your sister doesn't knock it off tell her she is no longer a BM.. :-)

>On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of >Lucky Charms, and then took her to Six Flags theme park. What a day! >He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Wall of Fear, >the Screaming Monster Roller Coaster, everything there was. >Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park. Her head was reeling >and her stomach felt upside down. > >He then took her to a McDonald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with >extra fries and a chocolate shake. > >Then it was off to a movie, popcorn, a soda pop, and her favorite candy, >M&M's. What a fabulous adventure! Finally she wobbled home with her husband >and collapsed into bed exhausted. He leaned over his wife with a big smile >and lovingly asked, "Well Dear, what was it like being six again??" > >Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed. "I meant my >dress size, you dumb ass!" > >The moral of the story: Even when a man is >listening, he is gonna get it wrong.

I totally agree with Jonathan, for my first wedding I "saved" money on our photographer and I hated our wedding pictures. Yes we got a few good shots but I wish we would have spent a little extra on a good one. Just be careful.

Ann it looks really cute. I think it would be great for your "secret" wedding in Hawaii..

I also say just wait until Feb 08. My feeling is this, time flies, and before you know it your wedding day will be around the corner. And you don't want to be in a money crunch, so give yourself some extra time to save up and sell your house. I know you probably want to be married now versus later, but in big picture, whats an extra couple of months.

Very cool Jason, I have no idea how many days out we are, I just know it's somewhere around 2 1/2 months.. lol

That's great. Guys tend to freak out about expenses so he just needed to look at it in a different light. I'm glad it worked out.

OMG and I thought I was stubborn because I'm part German.. Nope it's because I'm just like my long lost sister.. lol

Toby, I understand completely you should have your wedding how you want it. I think Sarah is having an all white wedding and has requested everyone try to wear white, I think it's going to look really good in her photos. I don't think your MIL, your parents or your attendents should buy something without you knowing about it. They all should know it's important to you.

Well, I think if they give you money you should at least someone mention their names on the invites. They can't help that they are retired and on limited income, and they are doing what they can. I'm sure the rest of the family knows that they aren't paying for it all. Now if they loaded and only gave you 1k then I'd say hell no, don't put their name on the invite. But in this case they are doing what they can.

lol, well to be honest I'm not a good one to judge. I could give a rats @$$ what everyone is wearing to our wedding. As long as it's not a swim suit or jean shorts, I'll be ok with it. I do however want to say that your BM should wear a color that you want..

Hmm I'm not aware of any actual casinos in Cabo, however I know that some of the resorts have casino night. Not sure if that is what your looking for.

OMG That is totally me.. AQUARIUS (Jan 20 - Feb 1 Drinking style: Aquarius and drinking don't go together that well (except for water, that is). They have an innate tendency toward know-it-allism, and if they get an idea while sizzled, they're more stubborn than a stain or a stone. If they're throwing a party or organizing an outing, however, they're too preoccupied with their duties to get combative and they make perfectly charming drunks in that case. Fortunately, they're usually capital drink-nursers. They also make the best designated drivers (if you can get them before they start raising their wrist) Aquarius is fascinated by drunk people and capable of holding interesting conversations with soused strangers while sober

Hmm are you sure lambert13 just didn't create a new account to say how great he is? LOL just kidding, Welcome to the forum from the posts he's has done it sounds like you guys are very much in love and I'm very happy for the two of you.

Hmm good tips Jess.. thanks, I need to save it and bring it up closer to the wedding..

ROFL,, I thought you were going to hit it before me.. lol.. Hmm guess I'm talking too much today.. lol

ROFL.. Ann I'm not surprised. Cain knows you as "my other sister" :-)

ROFL.. Wow he's pretty set in his ways sometimes huh? I hear ya I really wanted Cain to wear a jacket for the ceremony but he said "hell no, it will be too hot" I said "Umm hello I'll be wearing a freakin wedding dress" his response.... "well we could get married in our swim suits if you want".. LOL GUYS.. So I just backed down and I'm not pressing the issue, he hasn't asked for much and I'm trying to make his few requests work.. (as hard as it is sometimes, lol) You'll work it out, I'm sure. Just sit back and think "is this really worth all the fighting" if it is then continue trying to work something out, if it's not, then just let him get his guys a shirt. Us brides have WAY too much stress when it comes to planning, we don't need fighting with our FI's to make it worse.. Ya know.. :-)

Plus most guys don't want a wedding they would rather elope in vegas or something so if that's the case then maybe he feels he's giving you a wedding so the least you can do is give his guys a shirt. I'm sure their is a reason for him acting this way.

ROFL... First his writing reminds me of my Dad, maybe have Christine send it back to him with all the spelling errors circled in red.. ROFL... Some people just don't know how to speak in front of people, or know what to say. My first wedding (when I was 19) For my Dad's speech, he said "I was asked to give a toast for my daughters wedding" and then he handed my and my husband at the time two pieces of toast. That was all he did.. ROFL.. For my sisters wedding I was her MOH, I have such a fear of talking to a large group I got total stage fright and told one of the BM's I couldn't do it and she was forced to stand up with nothing prepared and say something.. So, I guess my point is that he's trying, may not be what you expected. But maybe he will surprise you at the last minute..

Guys get stressed over the cost of a wedding. Guys tend to feel they are the provider. So maybe he feels that since he is paying so much money towards the wedding he should have his say on taking care of "his guys" Maybe just sit him down and tell him that you both need to come to an agreement and let him know that your girls will be hurt if they find out you did more for the guys. (don't know if thats true, but maybe he needs to see it an another light)

Those are really pretty. Great find. Just make sure you pack then well when you travel. I bet you could also give them to guests as favors..

Ok I know you want to sneak behind his back and pay for the pedi's anyways, but I'm never a fan of that sort of thing. Cain's aunt is getting married in May and he didn't want a photographer for their wedding because he hates pictures, after many months of fighting back and forth on the issue he finally agreed, only if they don't do church pictures and there aren't many posed pics. Well what she didn't tell her FI is that she hired two photographers. HE is going to FLIP out when he finds out, but she said "he will be so happy on our wedding day that he won't care at that point" Ok my point is, just come to an agreement. This is a good test on how things will work in your marriage, if you hide things now then it will get easier and easier. Talk to the bride of the other wedding, and see what they did, and tell your FI that.

Then tell him if your paying for the GM's shirts then you'll pay for the BM's dresses.. Fair is fair.... Hopefully he will see the logic behind this and agree to pay for the pedicures