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Dear Tammy - Dang, I wish I could see your rents on TV!! Don't worry, it will be ok. Dear Trisha - F the hike & drink that bottle of wine instead! Dear equity baby boy - get your own damn lunch stupid! _____________________________ Dear 16 year old step son, It's your own damn fault you have an F in chemistry & can't play in the football game on Friday. I'm glad you were honest with us, but seriously, it is not very becoming when you act like a little baby & put your head down on the table and pout about it. It also isn't going to solve your problem if you go home to visit your mom this weekend - actually, it will probably make it worse, because we both know you wouldn't be doing any studying there. I know we are such jerks for asking you to put together an action plan for improving in this class, for trying to give you tools to bring your grade up, for requiring you to re-read all of chapter one & do the practice exam, and for even suggesting you do more than required, especially when it's obvious you don't understand shit about what's been taught thus far. You got an F on a test that you've known about for at least a week. Maybe you should have spent some time studying over the weekend? Instead, you blew everything off & were MIA all weekend because of the Homecoming activities. Personally, I'm pretty sure you came home with a mean hangover on Sunday...no wonder you've sucked at school this week. Also, I'd like to take this opportunity to ask you if you think missing all of the school you have lately has contributed to your problems in this class?? Hmm? Love, Stepmonster

Congratulations Melissa & Jared! Wishing you a drama free, beautiful, loving, relaxing day

Ugh, girl, I know where you are at! Our dog doesn't shed for shit, but our cat is like rediculous...and if she's not physically shedding naturally, she is ripping her own hair out with her teeth! Good times. My mom had the same problem with a big old lab and two fluffy cats, and to boot she had all hardwood on her ground floor. She was always bitching about how now matter how much she swept, vacuumed, swiffered, nothing worked. So a few years ago, I bought her a Roomba vac - it's like a robot vacuum that just vacuums you floors as often as you want it to. It really helped, because she didn't have to do it herself, and this little Roomba was just sweeping all day long - of course she had to empty the thing, but overall , it helped her sanity. Hope this helps

What a horrible situation. I don't think you are being a bitch - I think you are right. However, it sounds like these two just can't get their shit together, and I would say you don't need their drama in your life. If your BFF asked for your advice & chose not to follow it, what more can you do? It sucks watching friends dig a big old hole for themselves.

Well, I definitely understand where you are coming from. That was crappy on your friends part - she could have been honest with you upfront & allowed you to decide whether you wanted to front her the money for her hair. In any case, it seems you are locked in this passive aggressive "i'm not calling her" thing, and you've got to get out! It's just toxic for you. This is something I have to remember often, and I have a quote for you - "resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die." Basically - you need to tell her why you are pissed & ASAP! Take these feelings off of your plate & put them where they belong, on hers. I hope you can bring yourself to talk to her & let her know how you feel.

Ewwwwww Maria! Really, they live like that? That is boardering on a call to the health department. I wouldn't go. That's just unsanitary and gross. What other explanation do you need? Or, you could bring your own plate & utensils??

Vera Wang makes mattresses?? Wow! And, omg Amy, your hubby did NOT do that! That is horrible. If it helps, my BFF's hubby mistook their closet for the toilet once, and then I think he tried to do it another time in a dresser drawer. EWWW!! Quote: Originally Posted by amym567 Dear Husband, Please just admit that we got a GREAT deal on a Vera Wang king-size mattress and box-spring set. This bed was originally $3200 and we got it for $599!!!!!! Yes, it was a "scratch and dent" and just has a small snag in the fabric underneath, but don't think you could've got the guy to go lower!!!! Also, remember that one of the reasons we're getting this new mattress is because you had a little too much to drink the other night and thought the bed was the TOILET!!!!! (Did I just say that here, he'd KILL ME!!!!). The old mattress springs are also broken so they're poking our legs when we get in and out! Love, Your pregnant wife who wishes she could drink and repay you!!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by JaimeLynne Did it! Awww! Right on! It's not that bad after all, huh? LOL!

Revel in your bliss today Congrats Leigh & Bryan~!

Quote: Originally Posted by akh eek - why isn't he doing this himself, Christa? man, that kid is S-P-O-I-L-E-D! I don't know Ann...I've managed to fall into this chasm of not thinking before I act when it comes to him. If I reflect on my teen age years, my mom totally made me do this stuff...in fact, I"m pretty sure I paid for stuff like this because I had a JOB!

Quote: Originally Posted by JaimeLynne That's pretty much where we're at right now too. We're both kind of depressed lately, and I've been sick for so long which definitely adds to it. It's been rough, and we've both been going through quite a bit personally and within our relationship. We're really trying to figure things out tho and get back on the Love Boat (OMG that sounded corny!!! hahaha) Kash & Jaime - I have totally been there before. That is a sucky place to be. I remember thinking, god, if I could just DO IT and stop wallowing in my sorrow, maybe things would get better. But somehow something always got in the way, or we argued about it instead of doing it...blah, blah, blah. Anway, point here is - seriously, sometimes you've just got to do it. Drop everything & do it. Momentum can build from there. Good luck!

Dear Step Son, I know you think I'm an expert at ordering corsages because I've done it for you before, and I'm a chick. The thing is, flower shops are usually overwhelmed during times like these & could use some advance notice. It's funny how you are locked in your room "sleeping", yet can get up to ask me if I've ordered the corsage yet, and then when I am on the phone doing it, you get up to tell me that the flower color I am specifying is wrong. I think next time you will be doing this your damn self. You are old enough to have a date, and stay out until 2 am, yet you can't get on the phone & order a damn flower? Or get your drivers license? Or ride the bus? Or clean your room? Or put your clothes away? Or put your dishes in the dishwasher? ARGH!! Sincerely, Stepmonster

Dear husband, Take some lessons from Frank! I didn't wake up to anything but a sink full of dishes, a whining cat , a dog that had to pee & a 16 year old that wanted to know if I'd gotten the corsage for his homecoming date yet. I want chocolate & roses instead!

So, have any of our teachers noticed the nice neat little bell curve we have going here? Isn't that amazing?! I guess we are a big enough population here to be predictable as a group now! I think it's interesting that we have just as many ladies on here that say they want it more than their FI/DH as we have that say the opposite. Also, the factor of in-house children/visitors/animals definitely plays a role for us too.

Quote: Originally Posted by MikkiStreak Dear FI, I appreciate you today. Not everyday, but definitely today. Your ability to read my mind has been absolutely DEAD-ON today. From the Starbucks coffee you brought me after I finished my 12th hour at work to the dinner you picked up from KFC despite the fact I sent you to get chicken at the store because I still planned on cooking when I finally got home. And once my tired ass finally walked in the door after a 14 hour day, you told me to sit down so you could get a plate and soda for me and then sat there keeping me company while I inhaled that meal in about 3 minutes flat since I hadn't eaten in 24 hours. And now, you're driving to the store to buy me cigarettes because in my uber-stressed, exhausted, drained of brain juice state I have decided I want to get liquored up and a cigarette sounds like the perfect side dish to my martini. And you've done this kind of thing all week for me. When I sat in a chair for 3 days this week, unable to walk because a freaking cyst the size of a lemon had exploded in my uterus--- you walked me to the bedroom, brought me massive quantities of narcotics, did the laundry, cooked and cleaned all week, and called me several times a day to check up on me. I am lucky. I am appreciative. And more in love with you every day. Well damn Maria, that's a lot of crap going on. I'm glad your FI is taking care of you, even if that means feeding you vicodin, fried chicken, vodka & nicotine!!

I think short & simple is best. I've seen cute RSVP's where they do use clip art for the food options, that's kinda cute.

Quote: Originally Posted by Galit We usually manage to squeeze in 2-3 times a week, sometimes more if we are in Boston over the weekend (which is definitely a rare occurence). Funny story: last night we got into bed around 11 and I announced that although we were both exhausted, we should do the dirty. FI said "sounds good" and then... nothing. Apparently we both assumed the other would be doing the work... after about 20 minutes of arguing we both decided that catching up on Survivor was a good compromise... sigh LOL!! Oh, been there girl. Well, you brought it up so....

Quote: Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 Dear Christa, You have had a very difficult week with the kid, drug test, mortage, job stuff, DH attitude, fighting, driving, etc. DH is lucky you are not sitting on the sofa watching Jerry Springer, drinkinging straight Rum and laughing at yourself. Please make sure to enjoy every sip of rum and coke and pace yourself. Alyssa Dear Alyssa, I have a confession to make. I have been watching an America's Top Model marathon ALL DAY!

Quote: Originally Posted by beachbride Christa, where are they from? the only problem is, how would I attach them to the shoes... that is why I was looking for the pins... thanks Here's the link http://www.whalestalecapemay.com/Mer...astar.prls.jpg Maybe you could hot glue them to the shoe?

Or you could modify these earings & use them - I think these are the colors you are liking:

Well, this isn't the cheapest option, but here is a plain sterling silver starfish broach: Starfish Broach

Great topic! Ha! This has been a difficult subject over the course of our relationship. In the begining - like 5 times/week. Then came the kids & we were down to once a week. Then I got a shitty job & hated life & was depressed, down to once a month. Now, we are pretty good on average for once a week. Although this week it's been twice. It's just so hard as you get into the meat of a relationship to put everything aside & just have sex. I really have to focus on mentally letting go of life & just try to be in the moment. I wish I could be the horney little 25 year old I once was for my husband!

Dear Glenda, Girl, quit being so hard on yourself! You are not fat! Christa -------------------------------------------- Dear self, Unbelievable! You are still in your robe! Although you are making chicken soup from scratch & dealing with mortgage stuff, I think it might look like you've been sleeping all day when DH gets home. AND, 1:30 is definitely too early to start drinking, even though it's Friday...dude, you're wearing a robe & drinking rum & soda. Jesus.

Hmmm, I think you can still get your guests to pay you via paypal, but just in a different way. I know I can sign into my paypal account & send a friend money with out a fee. What if you do it that way?

Honey, I'm so sorry. I am very sad for you & started crying the moment I saw the title of this post. I cannot imagine how this feels. Lean on your man, your family, your friends (us included). We love you, please let us know if there is anything we can do for you.