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Quote: Originally Posted by anacgarcia I also like the first one, it's expensive though.. I'm getting a red roses bouquet for less than $50 but well.. cabo is more expensive You lucky lady!

You guys are awesome! I realized just now that in the time I was writing my first reply about 5 other people responded too! Thank you all for your help. I love the idea of adding in two gerbers to tie it all together! I think that's going to be my plan Do you think it's weird if FI's boutinere is a gerber daisy? Maybe I should do a matching rose instead... hmmm....

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha Thanks, ladies! I appreciate the input. Guess we will have to see how many decide to stay at one of the other less expensive ones...If it is like 20, there is no way we could pay for each of them...hopefully not! Good luck! Let's hope that everyone stays with you guys and then you don't even have to worry about it!

Quote: Originally Posted by NABUMBAH yikes! two weeks!! so exciting! I say get the first bouquet because it matches the formality of your gown a little better. I know! I can't believe it's SO soon! By the way I've missed you around here! The other thing about the bouquet is that the florist may not haver those weird spidery looking flowers... but we won't know until the day before...

So now that my wedding is only 2 weeks away (YIKES!) I need to make the final decisions on flowers are all that. I am torn between two different bouquets. The first one is more expensive ($150) but is more "special" However our centerpieces are 3 gerber daisies per vase/table and I'm using the image of a single gerber daisy on our placecards & welcome letter. My mom doesn't think the gerber daisies are "special" enough. However this bouquet is also cheaper at $95: Which do you think I get?

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha What do you mean about cultures? You think one culture says they pay for themselves over one saying we pay for it? My mom says we should pay for them, FI's family says they should pay for their own....And, FI's sister and brother-in-law are probably the only ones that would not stay where we are. I guess what I mean is in different families people have different ideas of what is considered acceptable. I don't really know why - i think a lot of it is just tradition. Here's an example that is only indicative of my personal situation: Traditionally at Indian weddings (my family is Indian) guests give gifts of money to the couple (and in Parsi weddings also to the parents, brothers, sisters, etc...!). However I find that our guests who are born and raised here in the US prefer to give gifts (either of their own choosing or off a registry). So in the end we registered. But the sort of funny thing that happened was it confused the Indian side of the family - they suddenly weren't sure if they should send $ as is the custom or buy a gift off the registry. In the end they asked my mom and she told them basically that it was still acceptable to send $$. I know that has nothing to do with your personal dilemna but I thought it sort of described what i meant about different cultures viewing things differently.... if that doesn't make sense feel free to ignore it! Anyway so Indian weddings are also historically huge and extravagant. We're not having a wedding that is either to be honest, but maybe that's where my train of thought comes from. I hope I haven't offended anybody - i certainly don't think anyone is a bad person for paying/not paying. Everyone is different so just go with your gut - hopefully very few people will stay somewhere else anyway!

Good luck! Just get in and out of there as fast as you can!!!

I gave my opinion earlier but I didn't have time to explain why... If I was going to a wedding I am much more likely to try and find a smaller, less expensive hotel. Of course I want to spend time with everyone but an AI doesn't usually work for my food (I'm a veg) and it therefore doesn't really work for my budget (I end up paying in the AI price and then spending $$ outside for food). I think that people are going to be spending a lot to come be with you on your special day. These are people who love you and want to come out there but may not be able to afford the more expensive part of the resort. However I think you should DEFINITELY try and negotiate a lower daypass rate for the wedding. Or maybe even get the resort to waive the day pass for guests who are staying at one of the related places - just for the wedding day of course. If you can get the price brought down then maybe it'll be easier for everyone - no matter who ends up paying for the day passes. Maybe you should talk it over with your family? I think a lot of people's opinions on these types of things comes from different cultures. The truth is what is acceptable to some people may be not be to another. Talk to your parents/close friends and I think you can figure out what right for you

Quote: Originally Posted by DREA14369 so unless there is music at Baja Cantina (which it does say they have live music for dinner and Maye said yes that they might) then my dad will not be dancing....but we will still have fun I'm sure you can drag him out on the dance floor for at least one song! I am actually really jealous that you guys are eloping! It's going to be awesome - and so romantic!

We just did an "About Us" and I wrote out how Dan proposed... I didn't feel like going into what we are like - everyone who's going to our website already knows us! Here it is... About Us

I think you definitely have to pay for it. It's just not fair or polite to ask your guests to pay $75 to attend your wedding.

Natasha - I was totally thinking of using that song too! I'm trying to decide between the following (anyone have a vote?): In my Life - Beatles You are So Beautiful to Me - Ray Charles You are the sunshine of my life - Stevie Wonder My dad loves the second two and wants to dance twice! He's so sweet

gorgeous! i love your FI's suit! and you look beautiful!

This is fantastic! I love it - and am secretly a little jealous!

My vote is Sarah too! Have you seeen the length and detail in her review?!? That is dedication!

Quote: Originally Posted by dragonfly I am just so happy to know that other girls on this forum fight with their hubbys, sorry I don't mean to find happiness in your anger, but everybody seems so freakin happy all the time I was wondering what was wrong with me!!LOL Now the most stressful thing you can do together is construction, we just had our home built, and it was oh so behind schedule, we were homeless for 6 months. There were days that I didn't think we would actually move into the house together (lol) Mistakes happen, thats life, tell him to get over it, move on and do it himself. Why isn't he blaming the guys building your house, don't they have a better idea what height things should be, after all isn't that their job. Tell him to go and yell at them!!! Kelly~ Don't worry, Kelly! I think everyone fights with their FI or DH - it's natural! Trust me we argue all the time! But I think it's healthy - if you can't communicate with your SO then how are you possibly going to live the rest of your lives together? I mean I argue with my FI and my parents and there's no one in the world I love more! So I think as long as you are able to talk out your fights after the fact (like in this case) then you're doing good!

Well Boys ARE stupid but it sounds like you found one who is capable of learning from his stupidity hee hee hee No really, stuff like moving, building a house, planning a wedding, having a baby, new jobs, all that stuff - even if its good - is high stress. It sounds like he checked out for awhile and has suddenly realized that he is a very important part of this equation! Plus you get to choose all the fun decorative stuff!

June 16th at the Hilton - less than a month away!

Quote: Originally Posted by Clussy75 Good point. Now, that brings another good question though, if they do 'sleep' on this and make reservations too late and end up staying at another resort, it's our responsibility to pay their day pass, isn't it? I mean, ettiquette-wise. I mean, that'd be weird for them to have to pay $100 to get into our wedding, wouldn't it? I think you should pay for their day pass. Not everyone will want to stay at an AI and I think it's rude to make people pay to come to your wedding... that's what gifts are for! hee hee hee Also I definitely think you need to send invites to people even if they've already told you they are not coming. It shows them that you care about them and think they are a part of your lives. Lastly I disagree about sending out your invitations very early. People WILL forget (to RSVP that is) because there are many people who aren't going to know if they can or cannot go until it gets a little closer to the wedding. I think sending them out 3 months before the wedding (basically a month earlier than a normal wedding) is perfect. Otherwise people hesitate committing and in the end, end up forgetting to RSVP at all.

I am also on Yasmin - but I don't think I ever experienced any "growth." After my honeymoon I'm actually going to switch to Yaz (same BC but lower dosages of hormones basically). My doctor said to wait until I get back just in case of side effects. But I have no problems with Yasmin - it's a good BC! I have also be on Ortho-Tri-Cyclen and liked it.

Quote: Originally Posted by dragonfly Take a deep breath, please don't cry. This has happened to most of us, this is the most difficult part of the whole dw. First talk to other ta's, make them compete with each other. I compared two on-line ta's, with three different local ta's. This is where the work comes in. Then tell the ta that the best you can do is a $150.00 deposit and give them the lowest quote you got, and then tell her if she can't accomadate you, you will have to go elsewhere. There is always another ta willing to take your money. I then contacted everyone via e-cards, and a some phone calls, gave them all the info, told them that if they wanted the secured price they had to book by ? date. If not they would be taking their chance on whether they can be accomadated, and the price point. After that there is not much more you can do. You will be surprised how many booked, by the date I had 38 people, a couple days after I had 2 more, at the same price. I still have a few more coming, and I really am not too worried about if they can book or not. I had lots of stress, and my partner reminded me it was about us, and whoever could make it, great, but if not we were still going to have a beautiful wedding. My sister also wasn't going to come, but when she relized there was no turning back for us, she phoned and booked her trip. My point in this is, breath remember who this is about, and it will all work out in the end. Sorry this is so long, but I feel bad how upset you are, you will get through this and then get back to the fun stuff of planning a wedding. If you need help let me know. Kelly~ More good advice! I think a lot of people have been in a similar boat. Can you just put an interest free credit card down for the deposit instead? You need ten people right? So go through your list and talk to the the 8 other people you think for sure are coming. Maybe those people can help with their deposit? Don't worry - it will be ok!

I say just pick the majority (more English speakers or more French speakers?) and if need be go ahead and translate it over the phone for them!

Great advice Anny! I think Anny made a great point when she said, "Keep in mind that the important thing is to get married"

Heidi - That's a tough one. The truth of the matter is that it's not too late to change your location or if you really do want to cancel and elope you can do that too. I guess my advice it to PM Tammy, our beloved host and see what she thinks. Even if she can't get better rates she may just be able to give you great advice.

We are working with Maye. Since we are bringing our own Officiant, etc. we are paying $600 plus there is the 10% "tax" on all her vendors. This includes the rehearsal, our ceremony, reception and welcome dinner. Whether you decide to use her or someone else, I would highly warn against Weddings in Paradise - Tammy had an awful experience with them. Also I started working with Bella Brides and they are totally overpriced.