ok, not to dismiss your feelings but could you be reading too much into people's behavior/what they say. you can interpret the remark about the chinese buffet as the person being racist or just trying to be helpful. that being said, i am asian and have a caucasian husband....we got married in cabo and I have had MANY asian brides as clients (they wanted to skip the asian banquet). i have not heard of a situation where some felt that they were being discriminated against but not to say it doesn't happen....at my wedding in cabo, my dad was treated like a rockstar... I have encountered racist people in the past but i don't know if i am just oblivious or don't care that much to notice racism now, but i think most people are good and not racist. and honestly, from reading your post above you come across as being whiny and not super nice...again, it could just be misinterpreted...or maybe people aren't being racist to you but you are putting them off unintentionally and they respond by not being nice to you back. i know this post that you made put me off and it wasn't even directed at me. and this post: