No more destination wedding for me?:(

I haven't been so active on here lately because I feel like I have had nothing but bad luck during the course of my wedding, and have been consumed with the drama for the past few weeks. I am so confused as to what I should do right now. My wedding planner that I had raved about previously, is and has been MIA for a while. About 3 weeks ago she finally contacted me, after a month and a half of me basically stalking her and emailing her to get in contact with her. She assured me that everything was ok, although I had yet to sign a contract or give a deposit or anything. Well, 3 weeks has gone by and I still haven't gotten any documentation at all. I was checking out her site and I find this post on the testimonials page...

"07-31-2009 10:42:17 AM EST

Please contact me ASAP. My wedding is in 3 days and I leave on the cruise tomorrow. I have been trying to contact you for over a week now and I haven't gotten any calls or emails back. I am very nervous at this point that things aren't going to go as planned. Appointments you told me you booked haven't been. Please take care of this today!"

If this is happening to another bride, only 3 days prior to her wedding, what can I expect? I emailed the planner a few days ago, and again last night and no response yet. I am wondering though, that even if I get a response, do I go forward with the plans? That testimonial scared the crap out of me. I have been frantically trying to come up with a back up plan here at home. since it is so short notice, I got a price of $75 per person on a package that normally goes for $175 per person at a gorgeous yacht club on the ocean here at home. Do you guys think I should scrap my Bermuda plans and go with the "safe" choice and have my wedding at home? Ugh....this sucks.

I'm sorry your WP is MIA. Honestly if it was me i wouldnt want to deal with her anymore either, especially after seeing the post from the bride that was leaving for her wedding. That would be when you need your WP most you dont need her dissappearing on you like that. Is a Bermuda wedding what you and your fi really want? If it is than maybe you should try to find another planner, im not sure how many Bermuda brides are on here but im sure there's a couple that might be able to point you in the right direction. But if your not sure about Bermuda anymore, i think the yacht club sounds really nice and you could definately have a gorgeous wedding there.

That is scary. I think if you're more comfortable with definite plans at home go for it. i would feel very nervous if I saw a testimonial like that....

Good luck girl and soo sorry you've had a bad experience.

Whatever makes you feel the happiest you should do! I would def look into another planner though FOR SURE!

wow! if you really want a destination wedding, you should go for it and just look for another planner to help you.

good luck!

I definitely wouldn't use that planner. But I wouldn't give up your dw if its what you want. I think there's plenty of time to get it planned without it being overly stressful. Good luck!

thats terrible!!!!!

You guys are awesome. Thank you for the support. I just want to cry right now. I feel like everything that CAN go wrong IS! On top of the planner drama I have dress drama now too. Not that it's a bad thing, but I lost 25 pounds since I ordered my dress, which was quite a lot of inches. I tried it on last Friday for my first fitting and it literally fell to the floor. The bust part was at my hips. I am afraid that they won't be able to alter it properly since it needs to come in so much. As far as another Bermuda planner, I looked and they are all so much more expensive than who I found. So we are figuring that because of the cheap price we can get here, we would do that, rather than spend $5000 on just the 15 of us there. The $5000 would almost cover the reception here if we keep the list to around 75 people (plus we will prob make the money back in gifts.) I am just concerned that what if she DOES get back to me saying that everything is ok. Do I trust her after reading that awful testimonial? Why can't anything be easy?

Estella do you have to keep the October 8th date or can you move it back to give yourself more planning time? Also did your guests or you put down any deposits for the trip?

That is so terrible... i think you should try and work out the details still for your DW. Have any of your guests already booked? How much time do you have before deciding with the Yacht option? Go with your gut feel, no matter what you do it will be absolutely beautiful!

My fingers are crossed for you!