So I had my first shower on Saturday....

So Satuday I had my frist bridal shower.... My bridal party and my mom worked sooooooooooo hard and it was so beautiful! I was really excited when I walked in and family that I have not seen in years showed up! I was so excited and then Chris' family showed up and a dark cloud rolled in.... It was ridiculous!!!! His mom, nana and two sisters sat right in front of me, and the whole time, even while I was opening everything, they sat with frowns on their faces and woudlnt participate in anything and bitched and moaned the whole time! I tried to ignore them but it is hard when they are RIGHT in front of you....

So then later on my parents and some friends of our threw an engagment party for everyone to meet and greet coming to cuba.... soooooo i think it is a great idea since chris' parents dont know hardly anyone and was again really excited! so it starts at 630 and chris goes about 6, but i stayed behind with my bridesmaid who is breastfeeding her two week old son (who by the way is super cute and has quite the sideburns) so that i can drive us there because she has no clue where she is going.... so we show up about 7. Chris' parents, grandparents and sisters arrived at 640, and his grandparents were on their way out the door when i showed up at 7...I said good bye sorry I missed you blah blah blah whatever... did they say good bye to my parents or the peoples whose house it was at and thank you? NO whatever let it roll off....

So chris' parents and sisters come back inside, after being outside with his grandparetns FOREVER, which now I am only too certain they were plotting their escape..... they sit far away from anyone else at the party (as in they are hidden by the hosue on an upper, secluded deck while everyone else is poolside) and scowl the entire time again... So my mom goes around about 710 askig people if they are hungry and should we start cooking supper? chris' family was all like no we arent hungry blah blah blah so we decided no one is hungry fine we can munch on the PILES of food in the kitchen that was brought or left over from the shower, and when I say piles I mean we didnt even need to make dinner and there was enough to feed everyone there and then some.... so anyway, 720 chirs' dad says he needs to go because he has to eat because his sugars are getting low (he's not even diabetic)... now did my mom not just come around 10 min ago and ask if anyone was hungry? and is their not enough food (including fruit, which includes oranges, used to boost some sugar issues)? so they all get up and chris' mom says to me "i need to talk to you" and by says to me i mean barked at me... okay whatever inside i go and then they leave!!!!!! my mom trys to talk to them and they IGNORE HER, after earlier in the day his mom had ROLLED HER EYES at my mom when mom told her about the time for the party, after SHE asked....

So they all just got up and left and didnt say ANYTHING TO ANYONE and IGNORED people who were trying to talk to them... Do you not think that you could do this for your son? Do you not think that you could mingle? Do you not think you could act like an adult!? They had no thank you to the hosts for doing this for our son or no thank you for having us they just left!!!!!

So the next day they wanted Chris and I to go to their house... Screw that I wast going I was PISSED! So Chris went over and brought her dishes (which was all she wanted to talk to me about at the party, was getting those returned), and asked them if they had a good time and they said YES!!! They were disappointed that no one made an effort to talk to them (THEY IGNORED EVERYONE) and then said that maybe they could have made ore of an effort but that it will be different in Cuba.... WELL I F***ING DOUBT THAT!!! Whats going to be so different!? What the hell am I going to do if they ruin my wedding!?

Okey dokey then....hopefully you're feeling better for getting that all out! In-laws can be challenging (or down right rude, obnoxious, self-absorbed, and awful)...you're not alone!!!

I know it's hard, but don't let it get to you too much. Just try to accept that they aren't very social people and know that, as adults, they are responsible for themselves. Its wonderful of you, your friends, and your family to try to make them feel welcome and included, but if they don't want to be part of the fun at your shower, engagement party, or even your wedding, so be it.

At your wedding and the days leading up to and following it, try to be gracious and kind, but most importantly, focus on having a wonderful time...like I said, they are adults so they can take care of themselves, no need for you to stress about it or let it get under your skin when you're in Cuba.

good luck!!

Man that sucks, why were they acting like that? Other than that issue did you have a good time?

Don't let them ruin it for you. Just brush it off and keep doing what your doing.

Okay i was expecting to open a thread about how fun and great your shower was, didn't expect what i read.

Sweetie, I'm sorry they ruined your shower and your engagement party too. DO NOT let them ruin your wedding. If they want to be miserable in Cuba, don't let it get you down. Screw them!

It sounds like your family is really trying and they are not trying at all. What is his fam's problem? Do they have some kind of issue with you?

His family have not liked me forever... Namely his mom,a nd they all follw her like little duckies.... We have known each other since we were little, his sister and I went to brownies together it was that long go.... His mom has a huge problem with me because I was raised Catholic and she is Baptist.. It does not matter than neither Chris nor I are practicing.. She always wanted Chris to settle down with a good baptist girl, also known as her best friends daughter..... But because I am not her and I am catholic there is nothing good to come from me... She blames everything on me and doesnt even try to be polite.... If she could I am sure she would blame me for the fact that he had cancer!!!! When she came up to our place a few months ago she was nomal and I thought she was starting to come around... You know be happy for us, but after last weekend I see I was wrong.... Its just so frustrating!!! Her dad and her younget daughter are the only ones who are civil to me in the family and her youngest daughter actually told me she cant wait to have me as a sister but who knows anymore! *sigh*

That's awful Jess. I hope she comes around. She should realize that not accepting you will hurt her son.

I'm sure everyone is thinking it but i'll say it lol

IGNORE THE FUCKING BITCH !! give her some of her own medicine. You don't owe them shit and so next time she barks an order at you politely say "when you speak to me like an adult i'll speak with you" and walk away!!

Nip it in the bud now or she'll make life even more hell. I know i've got one the same however she now knows that i'll rip her head off if she starts and you need to get to that point where she knows she can't walk all over you.

It happens with a lot of people chick you've just gotta smile sweetly while mentally saying to yourself in a kind of chuckie doll way "he's mine now" lmao

BTW if you need me to pop over and kick her head in it won't be a problem lol

YUCK! That just stinks.

Try and be cordial to her and ignore all of her snotty comments. She can not ruin your wedding, only if you let her get to you.

Wow, that attitude stinks. Try to vent it to us, so that you can continue to let it roll off your back to them. Not worth getting into.

Have they always been like that towards you