It's NOT OK to RSVP via facebook!!!!!!!!!

Maura, you will love this. Mandy's AHR was last Friday night and TODAY (one week later) I got a call from someone saying they were sorry they couldn't make it. Thanks, people, for the heads up and stating the obvious!

omg HOW RUDE! i hope you said thanks, but the party was last week!

I read the title of this post and I laughed my head off and had to read this thread!

I have to say, I am guilty of being on Facebook, keeping in touch and having fun on there. We even have a Facebook group for our wedding, actually requested by some of our guests. Our guests, some that hadn't even meet yet, wanted to communicate before the wedding about arrivals, sharing rides from the airport, doing activities, and just overall wanted to express excitement and introduce themselves. And then after the wedding everyone became actual friends, not just "Facebook friends" and were sharing pictures, funny memories, uploading videos, and making comments. And for those friends that couldn't make it, they were able to see lots of photos from different guests that attended, not just our photos.

BUT as Facebook-friendly as we were, we definitely DID NOT get one RSVP via Facebook, MySpace, LinkedIn, etc.... Even though, I do know I even asked friends for addresses via Facebook.

We sent STD postcards, had a very informative website where you could RSVP and we sent out funky yet traditional style wedding invitations with RSVP stamped cards as well as another card directing them to our website again. Our reply date was 30 days before our wedding. Probably 80% sent us back the reply cards, some used the website, some even did both. We got some reply phone calls, early gifts with explanatory notes and a few apologetic e-mails. A couple people just told us in person.

I'm not sure why we didn't get these kind of replies since now I'm seeing that its common for the DW. And I think I gave my guests every opportunity by even having a Facebook group! I would even send out e-mail postcard updates from our website. (gotta love Wedding Windows)

I think that sometimes DW have such a laid-back style that people respond in a laid-back way also? Your guess is as good as mine!

I read the title of this post and I laughed my head off and had to read this thread!

I have to say, I am guilty of being on Facebook, keeping in touch and having fun on there. We even have a Facebook group for our wedding, actually requested by some of our guests. Our guests, some that hadn't even meet yet, wanted to communicate before the wedding about arrivals, sharing rides from the airport, doing activities, and just overall wanted to express excitement and introduce themselves. And then after the wedding everyone became actual friends, not just "Facebook friends" and were sharing pictures, funny memories, uploading videos, and making comments. And for those friends that couldn't make it, they were able to see lots of photos from different guests that attended, not just our photos.

BUT as Facebook-friendly as we were, we definitely DID NOT get one RSVP via Facebook, MySpace, LinkedIn, etc.... Even though, I do know I even asked friends for addresses via Facebook.

We sent STD postcards, had a very informative website where you could RSVP and we sent out funky yet traditional style wedding invitations with RSVP stamped cards as well as another card directing them to our website again. Our reply date was 30 days before our wedding. Probably 80% sent us back the reply cards, some used the website, some even did both. We got some reply phone calls, early gifts with explanatory notes and a few apologetic e-mails. A couple people just told us in person.

I'm not sure why we didn't get these kind of replies since now I'm seeing that its common for the DW. And I think I gave my guests every opportunity by even having a Facebook group! I would even send out e-mail postcard updates from our website. (gotta love Wedding Windows)

I think that sometimes DW have such a laid-back style that people respond in a laid-back way also? Your guess is as good as mine!

Ugh. I relate. I had a freind who was suppose to be a BM contact me on myspace over and over how she was going. She would not answer her phone. But she would leave messages on myspace and finally told me over myspace she wasn't going. UH? Call me? Pissed me off! I did the reverse RSVP. I said RSVP only if you ARE coming. That way I didn't have to keep up with the no's. I totally agree people have no manners anymore. I have to confess I did have an event on facebook for my AHR. I did send out paper invites. But my mom joined facebook and made me make it as a reminder. Whatever. But it wasn't a formal invitation or anything.

That is definately okay. eew.