No children - STD or Invitation?

Is it ok to say you don't want children in your STDs or do I have to wait to write it on the invitations?

I think I would think of some way to tactfully put it on the STD's. People are going to start making their plans ahead of time, and you don't want them reserving a room big enough for themselves and their 8 kids, if it's only going to be them!

Right - and they also need to plan for childcare if they're not bringing the kids. I have a friend w/2 small kids and she is bringing her in-laws to PV to watch the kids - I LOVE that idea, since I am as excited to have her kids in PV with us as I am to see them.

Definitely on the STD's (very delicately)...the other girls are right. They will start looking into reservations, and you don't want it to be too late.

I wish I knew the proper etiquette for this but I don't. I know that technically when you write "Mr. & Mrs. X" they are supposed to get the hint that only they are invited and not their children (whereas if their kids were invited you would write "X Family". But I am spanish and I was told by my parents that my spanish family wouldn't pick up on this and that most spanish people will assume everyone is invited including every third cousin they know regardless of what you specify. So if your guests are anything like mine I guess you should specify that no kids are allowed.

-Glenda

I guess they shoud know that the kids aren't invited but I need to make it clear, just in case hehehehe...

I wrote it like this in my webpage, maybe I'll do the same on the std's

" For security reasons, children are not allowed in the reception since it will take place in the pool area "

i've seen this several times, "Adult Dinner Reception immediately following ceremony"...

Hey Anny what if you changed "security" to "safety"?

I agree. I think it is better to put them on the STD's so the parents don;t start planning for the wohle family, then find out a couple months before the wedding that they can't bring their kids.