Calling all *Curvacious* women!!

FWIW my sister had lap band a couple years ago. Although we would love for it to be, it's so not a "magic bullet."

 

Yeah, initially she lost about 40 pounds, put back about 20 and has started back with weight watchers and exercise and is losing again. She can't eat certain foods and taking medication is an issue.

 

I know it's the hardest thing to deal - weight/food/emotions - but she would be the first to tell you that just cause you have the band, doesn't bean the weight will fall off...you still have to change your head.

 

THAT'S the problem with me.

 

Anyway, that said, if there were a magic pill I'd totally take it.

Hi *tinkertoy*, Thanks for the insight seriously! As much as I want that magic pill I know that it does not exist! I have talked myself out of it everyday, but then I will see a lap band commercial and then I will start reconsidering which I did today. I love myself as I am, but I know how I can be too so I miss the smaller me. Its hard for me to get started because I get so defeated before I even begin. But I have to try! My FI and I both are working on taking off some serious weight before the wedding so hopefully it will work. I will fill you all in!

I hear you!

haha Heather! If you only knew how negative I've been the past 4 years. I've been in counselling and she recommended I keep a feeling journal. Not just "today I did this and I felt this", but to really express the feelings and the triggers that made me feel that way. I was soooooo hard on myself and constantly calling myself stupid and saying "What's the matter with you". At the time I just really believed it as there ABSOLUTELY HAD to be something wrong with me if I was doing the things I did.

One thing I also noticed is that I talked myself into failing. I didn't want to tell people that I was going to the gym because everytime I try to go I "fail" at losing weight or sticking with it. So I'd be lying on the couch and say "I really have to go to the gym. If I don't, people are going to know I failed at it again and they'll stop believing me. I'm like the boy who cried wolf! I'll do it this time and I don't, I'll do it THIS time, and I don't. I'm so embarrassed! What's wrong with me? Why don't I just go?!" Well all of that made me so depressed and sad that I just felt like giving up before I even tried! I just totally talked myself out it doing something by putting myself down!

The journal really helped me to see how irrational my feelings and thoughts were. I also realized I had so much shame in who I was, that I didn't want anyone to know me. I lied to people so they would think I was a better person. I had so much anxiety for people to find out who I truly was. I started telling people (who I could trust) of all the things I was doing (or not doing). I opened up to sooo many people and it felt great. I didn't have to lie anymore, and I actually found out that 3/4 of the people I talked to about it, FELT THE SAME WAY, and was going through the exact same things as me!

I don't know if all of that makes sense. But all I know is that I feel incredible right now, and everyone deserves to feel the way I do. I just wish I could help others to change their way of thinking. It took a lot of work and a lot of "back talking" to my negative thoughts. It was hard (emotionally), but somehow it's better right now!

Cougs, you're gorgeous and you will look totally hot in your bathsuit at any size.

I totally understand when you ladies talk about your FI not wanting you to lose weight. I'm trying to lose weight for our wedding (I'm about 10 lbs heavier than when FI and I first started dating). On one hand FI is supportive, he also wants to lose about 10-15 lbs. On the other hand, he's always like, you cannot lose your curves (boobs are the first place I lose). I wish there was a magic way to lose just my jelly belly and leg jello but keep my boobs, lol.

My advice to any of you waiting to buy a dress until you are the "size" you want to be, is don't do it. Go out now and try dresses on, you will feel much better about yourself. I put dress shopping off as long as I could thinking I'd lose weight (I didn't). Finally, I just went because I was running out of time. Well, I was pleasantly surprised to realize that I actually looked good in some of the dresses. There are dresses out there that will flatter you even if you don't think so now. It is also a great self esteem boost to realize there are dresses that actually look good on you. So my advice is go and try some on and see how fabulous so look!

OMG...it's called self sabotage...but it's so normal. I probably say every other day that I need to work out and by the time I'm done running around I'm too tired to do anything let alone do any needed exercise....Everyone has their own path in getting to where they need to be Besides, the most important part is being healthy! And what's a woman without curves?

kelly that's amazing that you've gotten to such a positive place. gotta work on that myself!

 

cindy, you're too sweet ... really TOO sweet, considering you've seen me in my fat granny swimdress lol!

That's how I know you're so smokin' hot Cougs!

haha i love you cyn! how much did you DRINK that weekend?!?!

 

all kidding aside, need motivation NOW. or yesterday.

Well, the pictures appear to suggest that I had a few "pops".

 

I need motivation too. You'd think a wedding in 3 months would be motivation but sadly not for me. If only I could lose weight by thinking about it, I'd be a twig, lol. Please note as I am typing this I am eating a wunderbar. I so fail.