Bridesmaid or not??? - Page 2

Christine · 08-16-2007, 09:43 PM

she asked you...weird, I would say that you have decided to only have one person stand up for each of you and those people were already chosen. Use the "dw's are small and it would look weird to have a large wedding party"

Lizz · 08-17-2007, 05:37 AM

I agree that it is YOUR day, I would not have anyone in my wedding that I am not close with. Explain to her that you're keeping it small. If you want to stay on your family's good side, use the excuse that obviously she'd be in your wedding party if you were getting married at home, but because of the location, it's not possible.

DreamsTulumBride · 08-17-2007, 06:59 AM

That is a delicate situation but why does she really want to be up there with you if you are not close with each other? Is it to be in the pictures as much as possible? Is it to get some extra attention? Or is it to just help you out during the preperations and be the best bridesmaid ever? You never know!!!

StephanieMN · 08-17-2007, 07:12 AM

How odd to ask to be in someone's wedding. You could try the whole " I really don't want to put anyone out, so I am not having anyone stand by me." You could also just tell her you prefer to go the non-traditonal route and not have attendants.

royfa · 08-17-2007, 07:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by annieroy

That is a delicate situation but why does she really want to be up there with you if you are not close with each other? Is it to be in the pictures as much as possible? Is it to get some extra attention? Or is it to just help you out during the preperations and be the best bridesmaid ever? You never know!!!

You're right, it's just because she needs all the attention and she will throw herself in front of the camera... I'm not kidding! She does't want to help, believe me!!

Tlseege · 08-17-2007, 07:45 AM

Well, if it makes you feel any better, my cousin has TOLD me that she's standing up in my wedding. Mind you that she lives accross the country and I only talk to her approximatly once a year and that's when I finally get ahold of her to wish my godson a happy birthday. But, she tells me that she's a size two so will make a wonderful addition to my bridal party. Ummm... yeah, I really don't care what size you are!

PaulaV · 08-17-2007, 07:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by royfa

I didn't want any but my FI wants to have is best friend as the best man!!!

Then choose one person only, like a sister or best friend, i think your family will see you would not shoose her over someone closer to you.

royfa · 08-17-2007, 08:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tlseege

Well, if it makes you feel any better, my cousin has TOLD me that she's standing up in my wedding. Mind you that she lives accross the country and I only talk to her approximatly once a year and that's when I finally get ahold of her to wish my godson a happy birthday. But, she tells me that she's a size two so will make a wonderful addition to my bridal party. Ummm... yeah, I really don't care what size you are!

What's the point stating what size she is!

michelle08 · 08-17-2007, 08:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by royfa

What's the point stating what size she is!

Exactly what I thought!!! Geez...what is it with people needing attention!!!??

I can't stand it! Anyway...I agree with everyone else. Just either don't have anyone or ask your BF. I have come to realize that the sides don't have to match. Also, does your FI actually want his friend to stand next to him?? I mean he can still be the "best man" and do all the duties and be recognized maybe even help usher guest to their seat ect...but then just sit in the front so that it's just you two up there??

RaydensMama · 08-17-2007, 08:52 AM

Deffinetly dont have your cousin in your wedding if you dnt want her there! You dont want your day to be unhappy. Either tell her you have already chosen someone else or that you do not want a BM.