Out of curiousity . . .

starchild · 04-03-2007, 01:00 AM

have any of you been approached by people asking for invites to your wedding? It happened to me again today and my palms got real itchy! This is the fourth co-worker of mine to do so, but the first to say her feelings were hurt that she was not invited. HER FEELINGS WERE HURT? WTF? This isn't a backyard bbq, we aren't meeting at Chili's for drinks, it's my flippin wedding. In each case these are people whose phone numbers I don't have and whose last names I struggle to remember. In other words we aren't friends, I've never seen you outside of work, you probably can't spell my name, so why in the world do you think I would pay for you to eat at my wedding?

Call my parents crazy but I was raised not to ask to be invited anywhere. If someone wants you somewhere they ask you, am I right? I have no obligation to invite everyone that smiles at me. I just had to let this out because some of these @$#&%$@ are unbelievable. As I tell these people my small wedding is for friends and family I literally cannot contain my laughter because it is so ridiculous to me. That's some rude shit!!!

MagsieMexico · 04-03-2007, 04:25 AM

This hasn't happened to me yet, but I only just let people know when it was, and it's still 11 months away.
But, I totally agree with you!! They're all crazy, SOOOO rude, and so ridiculous! Especially since you're having a destination wedding in Mexico, it's ridiculous!

starchild · 04-03-2007, 05:30 AM

Yes it is, thank you!!!

MikkiStreak · 04-03-2007, 06:16 AM

They do realize you're getting married in Mexico right? And that they would be shelling out $1000+ to attend if they received an invite?

Just blows me away---- fortunately, I don't have to worry about that from my co-workers... There are only 2 that I even converse with on a non-work basis and the rest are a bunch of redneck, juvenile, racist pigs that I stay the hell away from....

But I do expect this from FI's family. Especially on his dad's side. He has one aunt who is going to be really pissed when she hears she isn't invited to the wedding. She doesn't quite 'get it' that when she called everyone under the sun just a few days after his father's funeral and told them that he and his siblings were responsible for his father's death, that her actions pretty much clinched the fact she isn't invited to our wedding.

SusanK · 04-03-2007, 06:57 AM

I'm really dumbfounded by the nerve of your co-workers. I'm imagine that happening to me...I don't know if my jaw would drop and my tongue hang out, or if I would just burst out laughing.

TammyB · 04-03-2007, 07:32 AM

Nope hasn't happened to me.. Well other then of Course Glenda making it known that she will be crashing my wedding and everyother DW brides.. LOL

Who cares if this girl is upset she wasn't invited, I didn't invite anyone that I work with. One because I work with mostly men who all still act like they are in high school but two because we want our wedding "small". Maybe this girl just feels left out.

AnnR · 04-03-2007, 07:56 AM

i agree - you wonder how people were raised. apparently not all kids go through "Manners 101" these days.

This hasn't happened to me, but a lot of times if my wedding comes up and I fear it might - I always start off by saying "it's going to be really small, just family and a few friends." But it happened to my friend last night, though not the same situation, and not even as bad. She had someone, a cousin or something, ask "can my 3 children come to the wedding too" even though the invite was specifically for Mr & Mrs only. There was no "and Family" on the invite! I asked Marti (my friend), isn't that a little rude that they even asked? Some people just don't get it I guess!

LALA · 04-03-2007, 08:25 AM

This kinda happened to me, but I work with awesome people so it turned into a joke. I only invited 1 person from work - and she's the one everyone in the office would expect me to invite bc we hang out a lot. So, my boss asked if he was invited to the wedding and I instantly said NO! It was funny how quick my response was. So everyone started joking about how fast my response was. Now all my bosses joke about how they are going to crash the wedding and just happen to schedule vacas to cabo the same time as my wedding.

I can't believe that girl told you it hurt her feelings. Is she 6 years old?

mexico15 · 04-03-2007, 08:27 AM

I have been asked a few times and my finance has been asked A LOT from his co-workers (but I guess guys are more forward about that kind of stuff). I just tell people since we are getting married in Mexico and having the reception at home...my family doesn't have much of a budget to spend so we are only having a small reception. I also tell them I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings at work since you can't really pick and choose, and this is the best way. They seem to be understanding and haven't mentioned it again.
I do find it strange people have the balls to ask that kind of thing. Very interesting. :)

tinabop · 04-03-2007, 08:29 AM

I haven't had anyone outright ask for themselves either, but I have heard through the grapevine that people are upset their children weren't invited. We didn't even want to invite these people in the first place (FMIL forced us to), much less their children! If they are that offended, we hope they don't come!

Sounds like your coworker has some issues within herself that she is laying on you...it's not your job to make her feel included, and weddings are definitely not the situation where anyone has a right to feel "left out." You weren't invited for a reason....that doesn't mean you aren't liked, but for most of us DW brides it just means you are not one of the 20 people I love most on the world.