Jump to content

t-46 days to departure - NO BM DRESSES!!!!! :(


Recommended Posts

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t24442

 

Ok, so... this is kind of a vent - but I am freakin stressed.

 

So, we picked out the BM dresses many many months ago, at that time one of my BM's was pregnant - she asked that we buy her an XL, so that she could have it taken in after the baby was born in July 2008.

 

Fast forward to October, she says "the dress doesn't quite fit, but I'm gonna do weight watchers, and I'll get into it". I told her that if she didn't think it was possible that we should order new dresses soon.

 

November: she tells me "it fits, but has some extra weight to lose, but is doing well on weight watchers, and thinks it'll be ok for Cuba."

 

December - this week: "dress is inappropriate, I am falling out everywhere from it, and I don't wanna ruin your pictures"

 

46 days to go, and I have no bridemaid dresses.

 

So, we look on line - I find dresses that I think would be great from J.Crew, they can be here in 3-4 days with rush shipping. One of them I KNOW would be perfect for my BM - and the other is perfect for my sister.

 

Dress For New Mom BM

 

Dress for my tiny sister - as seen in the previous BM dress pics

 

So, in changing to the above 2 dresses, the effects continue....

 

Firstly everything for my wedding was planned in blue and orange, the aforementioned dresses from JCrew are only available in Pink, which happens to be my favourite colour, but not the colour I have planned for.

 

My flowers (Bridal Blooms by Laura) are ready for pickup, and she has been super understanding, and said that if we have a major change in the dresses, she will amend the flowers, which is amazing, but adds to the stress of the whole thing.

 

Other wedding details are all around the blue/orange theme... and I will redo them to accomodate the change.

 

I figured all this out, just to hear that my BM doesn't like them, and doesn't think the above JCrew dress will fit her body type, and says she is going to the mall to see what she can find...

 

Further stress hits, 46 days.... to leaving.

 

Last night she calls me after she hit the mall, and says "nothing in the mall is beach appropriate" - no kidding it's Christmas - "I'll go to the local bridal shop to see if we can rush order dresses"

 

This morning, my sister has contacted a few bridal stores, and most said no way on delivery. Alfred Angelo - the factory - said that it may be possible, if we choose something that isn't too intricate with beads and all...

 

OMG

 

NO Bridesmaid dresses....

 

Flowers on hold pending a decision on colours....

 

Print product on hold pending a decision on colours....

 

I may flip out before the day is over.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Wow. That really sucks! I am so sorry you are going thru this. You should try going into department stores, they have dresses out for NYE and stuff and you might find something that you/she likes. She probably isn't feeling great about herself since she didn't lose the weight that she thought she would, but I am sorry that it is causing you such stress. You know, you might even get lucky and be able to find something cute in like Forever 21 or something on such short notice.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Yikes ~ girl I am so sorry you're going through more stress than you need to be at this point in the planning process. Can you possibly accompany her on a dress hunt? Sounds like this BM may need some reassurance when trying on stuff since she doesn't seem to like anything. hug2.gif take a deep breath, everything will work itself out*

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Soooo sorry that you have this added stress on your plate!

I know you mentioned your colors are blue & orange, but what if you did black dresses with the same flowers you originally panned for?? The colors in the flowers would pop against the black. (I personally don't think there's anything wrong with wearing black BM's dresses for a DW weddng!)

Let us know what you decide!! cheesy.gif

Link to comment
Share on other sites

One more option is to check the bridesmaids dress section on Nordstrom: Designer Collections and Top Apparel, Shoe and Beauty Brands . They have a lot of really cute options and usually lots of sizes from XS to XL to plus size, and best of all right now shipping is free for orders over $100 (I think) and in the past my orders have always arrived in about 5 business days, you can also request rush shipment. Order a bunch of stuff and if she doesn't like it, they can always be taken back to the actual store at anytime or shipped back, there's no time limit.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lexico View Post
Oh you poor thing! Deep breaths!
How close is this bridesmaid to you? She shouldn't be doing this to you!!!

I was going to say if she isn't close to you...kick her to the curb. IMO. I mean 46 days and to do this to you. Go with your original dresses, don't change YOUR wedding to accomidate to a person that isn't YOU! Sorry if I sound mean, but you don't need this when your wedding is so close!
Link to comment
Share on other sites

thanks girls!

 

my BM is super close to me, that is why I only have two, my sister(MOH) and her (my witness) [in Cuba for a legal wedding the witnesses cannot be blood related].

 

I agree with Carly completely, I know she isn't feeling good about herself and I know she is truly trying to lose the baby weight, and for the record i LOVE her and the baby with all my heart.

 

I am just stressed.

 

We do have a plan to figure this out by the end of the day...

 

thanks for letting me vent.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.


  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors



    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • Hi everyone! I have been doing lots of research on various wedding venues all around Mexico, my fiance wants a destination wedding and I am happy to have a wedding wherever so long as the vibe is right and guests are happy!  I have been seriously looking at Cabo Azul and was trying to find potential costs for them, but only found a page about their wedding costs from 2010. Does anyone have any updated information on costs / reviews they would like to share of this venue? Or advice in general, anything helps. Thanks so much, happy wedding planning to all!
    • Hello everyone, I am dreaming of a wedding in Costa Rica and was wondering if I could get any help with venues and wedding planners. I am thinking Tamarindo because a close friend of mine lives there and I've been in town more than a couple of times, she's being helpful but is at a loss when it comes to this subject really so I was wondering if anyone here had recommendations. I am not closed to other town suggestions either, if I happen to find a good place and staff somewhere else. These are the places I have so far, has anyone had any experience with any of them?  Stay In Tamarindo Luxury Villas in Costa Rica Luxury Villas Pinilla Tropical Homes of Costa Rica The Point Luxury Villa Thank you so much for your help!
    • Have you ever considered having a wedding inside a bubble? With the current global situation, many couples are looking for unique and creative ways to celebrate their special day while keeping their guests safe. A wedding inside a bubble could provide a whimsical and intimate setting for your ceremony and reception. Imagine saying your vows surrounded by a beautiful bubble filled with twinkling lights and flowers, creating a magical atmosphere for you and your loved ones to enjoy.
    • Adult only resort or not? Let's discuss the pros and cons of choosing an adult-only resort for your honeymoon. While some couples may appreciate the peace and quiet that comes with an adults-only environment, others may prefer a more family-friendly atmosphere. What are your thoughts on this? Have you had any experiences at adult-only resorts that you'd like to share? Let's hear your opinions and recommendations!
    • When it comes to planning a wedding, one of the most exciting parts is choosing the perfect wedding favours for your guests. These small tokens of appreciation are a great way to thank your loved ones for being a part of your special day and to make them feel appreciated.
  • Topics

×
×
  • Create New...