For family that has passed away

[mandalaybay3071]

Hi girls! I want to do something to honor my family members that have passed on. My mom passed away when I was 8 and my grandparents raised me. My grandfather passed when I was 16 and my grandmother when I was 21. I'm 32 now so it's been some time but I still feel sad knowing that they won't physically be at my wedding - although I know they will be there is spirit. I want to say a few words about them (not sure what yet). I just read on another thread that someone saw people release butterflys after saying a few words about family that has passed away. I think that's a beautiful idea although I'm not sure how I would go about getting butterflys to the Mexican resort. Does anyone have any ideas? Thanks so much girls!

[Jacilynda]

If you want butterflies I would contact your WC to find out who you could contract to do that. If you want other memorial ideas, there are TONS on the forum. Just search memorial and you'll find things from poems, butterflies, candles, seats etc.

[JUSTUSTWO]

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Originally Posted by Jacilynda If you want other memorial ideas, there are TONS on the forum. Just search memorial and you'll find things from poems, butterflies, candles, seats etc.

Definitely do a search & you'll find threads where this has been discussed. BDW brides have used a memory candle & someone did DIY memory candles & was able to put their loved one's picture on it. Another did a bouquet jewel such as a mini picture frame with a picture of the person.
If you are going to have a ceremony program printed, you could even put a section in there where you remember your loved ones & then just say a few words about them.
Those are just a few ideas that I've seen here on BDW.

[Jen_S]

My dad passed away so I am going to put a memory frame with his pict. on my bouquet.

[cdc0427]

Hey, just came across this forum:

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t27157

[JUSTUSTWO]

Here are some of the threads that I found that discuss this topic:

 

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t9065

 

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t23743

 

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t23041

 

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t29186

 

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t28522

 

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t17386

[mandalaybay3071]

Thanks girls! I searched the forum and found a beautiful poem someone had for their father that passed away. I'm going to decide what to do with...I'm not sure I could read that and not just start crying uncontrollably! I wasn't going to do a program but now I may just put a nice thank you note for the guest with this poem added at the bottom. Thanks so much!

[bashigyal]

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Originally Posted by mandalaybay3071 Thanks girls! I searched the forum and found a beautiful poem someone had for their father that passed away. I'm going to decide what to do with...I'm not sure I could read that and not just start crying uncontrollably! I wasn't going to do a program but now I may just put a nice thank you note for the guest with this poem added at the bottom. Thanks so much!

Hi Mandalabay...would you mind sharing the poem you found? I'd like to put a poem in our program in honour of my FI's sister who passed away and think this would be a nice way to include her in our special day. Thanks!

[mandalaybay3071]

Here you go -

I"m going to change the word "him" to "them" since I'll be referring to my mom and grandparents but you get the idea. Thanks for the all the help with this topic. I truly appreciate it!!

 

Dear Lord please clear a spot for him:

he should have the perfect view.

His little girl's a Bride today,

and I am counting on you.

Let me feel his presence;

as I journey down the isle.

But let me notice his abscence;

if only for a while.

Let me stop to think of him;

As I am given away.

And know that if he could;

he would be here with me today.

Dear Lord please clear a spot for him;

he should have the perfect view.

And if he should get sad today;

Dear Lord I count on you.

[Nanner431]

Hi all - I wanted to remember my grandparents that had passed away in years gone by and in my heart I wanted to do something so that they could 'find me' on my special day. I had my bouquet made up all in one color with the exception of 3 yellow roses which were each in memory of one of my grandparents. I didn't tell everyone except the people that I knew it would mean alot too....it was a nice subtle way of remembering them on that day in my life.