FI's dad trying to get him LAID before the wedding!!! - Page 2

carly · 09-11-2008, 09:10 AM

I don't even know what to say to that. It is beyond horrible. What a douche.

I wouldn't be mad at Stu though. While I think he would've been right to blow up at him, being that it's his father and he knows him, it might not have been so crazy to him to hear. I don't mean that it's right, just that, look who it's coming from.

Jeez Louise. I would be flipping out mad though. I would probably try to dis-invite him too, but that won't do anyone any good. Just keep your distance from him for the rest of your damn life. Asshole.

*Heather* · 09-11-2008, 09:13 AM

Yikes....what a creeper. I agree with what kate.com said - just vent here but maybe don't make an issue out of it to anyone else. Anybody else knowing about this will just cause messy-ness! But ew. I would be so disgusted if I were you and I certainly wouldn't want Stu going to Vegas with him anymore! Hehe - just kidding, I'm sure you trust him, but ewwww it makes you wonder what that man is doing in Vegas too!!!

Puke.

carly · 09-11-2008, 09:14 AM

A pre-nup actually isn't such a bad idea though, it can protect you both. They are becoming really common these days. We havne't signed ours yet, so I guess by the time we get it written up and sign it, it will be more of a post-nup, but they have the same legal effect. I wouldn't realy be offended by that, as long as you have a lawyer looking to be sure you aren't getting screwed. You def don't want to sign anything without having someone else verify that it is fair....

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Originally Posted by Case*a*licious

I know!!! I'm afraid after a glass of wine or 2 at the rehearsal dinner, I might punch him out!

Oh yea... and his dad is wealthy but not by working for it. It's all inheritance and owns a chain of thrift stores in TX. On their last trip to Vegas last May his dad was trying to talk him into getting me to sign a PRE-NUP!

*Casey* · 09-11-2008, 09:18 AM

I'm not that offended by the pre-nup thing... just telling yall what all has been going on. It's just that this guy doesn't even make an effort to get to know me, and I hate him. I've met him twice... Once in Vegas, and in NJ when he had a nights lay over on his way to Thailand last year. When he stayed in NJ, the three of us went out to dinner, and he just talked to Stu the entire time, and never even looked at me, let alone try to include me in the conversation. My feeling were really hurt by this too. He's just so cold...It's absolutely ridiculous!

carly · 09-11-2008, 09:21 AM

Well thank god that Stu fell far from that tree!

jpitts78 · 09-11-2008, 09:21 AM

Omy freaking god. That is insane. I wouldn't be mad at FI, but if the dad does keep pushing it, I do hope he does say something.

And I don't think I would want the dad at the wedding knowing what he was trying to do. My blood would be boiling just looking at him... and porbably would end up saying something if I had a few drinks at the dinner...

Wow, the nerve of some people.

*Casey* · 09-11-2008, 09:24 AM

My mom would definitely say something, that's why I can't tell her. And I think that if I told FI's mom, she would probablly just be so embarrassed and worried about me. She has enough going on to expose her to this. But hell, I feel like someone should know!

Amarillis · 09-11-2008, 09:32 AM

I think you should find solace in sharing the crazy nutjob FFIL story with us.

You could however, discuss this AFTER the wedding with you MIL, or even your mom.

Based on what you have said daddy-whorebucks isn't really in the picture, so discussion after the wedding IMO wouldn't be bad... mostly because you nor your mom, nor your FMIL, will see him....

just a thought.

*Casey* · 09-11-2008, 09:34 AM

I'll try my darndest... 8 months is along time to hold this fury in. Lord, give me strength!

gossip girl · 09-11-2008, 09:46 AM

Reading that was so strange because believe it or not my FI has a father who is very similar to that. The only difference is my FI no longer has any type of relationship with him and his dad took off to live in China. (And frequently visits Thailand and then sends my FI emails about all the women there). In his last correspondence he mentioned that his visa is running out so he will have to marry "either his current commonlaw spouse who is 30, or his girlfriend in Laos who is 18" His dad is 70. Like that is just disgusting. My FI is completely grossed out by it. And I know it upsets him so much. His father would act the same way if he was invited to the wedding. Which he is not.

I understand a little about what you are going through because not wedding related necessarily, but this has caused several issues with our relationship. The best thing to do is talk to your FI about how you are feeling. And work on a solution together. You shouldn't take the brunt of this stress because it really isn't fair.

Just know that you aren't the only one with these crazy situations!!! Everyone has them and you will get through it :)