HELP!!! What to do about... - Page 2

CayoLargo · 08-25-2008, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by tvt

hmm, here's my first thought after reading your situation.

have dad (married to mom) walk you down the isle and have bio dad meet you there and they both give you away.

Groomswoman - should stay with FI since she is his part of the wedding party.

IMO anyway! Good luck figuring it all out!

Thanks...love the idea of having one walk me down and then both give me away at the end of the aisle...Thanks again for that great idea.

CayoLargo · 08-25-2008, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Hartyt509

Ok this could be really simple lol (famous last words)

As FI's BM what she would like to do. Say I'd love to involve you with all the girls but its your decision - let her make the decision lol As for signing I thought you needed 2 witnesses each, if thats the case both sorted you don't have to ask anyone over the other.

Ok dad situation. Again speak to your step-dad and ask him what he would like - at the end of the day he has brought you up and you've not known the other that long so its only fair he gets a say. If he says he's ok about it then ask bio dad if you are just starting to build your relationship he may feel uncomfortable and just be happy to be at the wedding as opposed to in it.

So really just ASK decision will probs be made for you lol

I know I need to ask the questions but what I am thinking I am going to get is what ever you want honey as the response so I need to be prepard with an answer.

As for the witnesses ya we need two but one will be from my side and the other will be from my FI side so that is why I need to pick.

CayoLargo · 08-25-2008, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by sunshinekc08

If I was you, I would definitely take your FI BM to lunch or something to get to know you and your other BM's, so when it is time to all get ready, she can get ready with you all the girls and feel really comfortable. I also think she will feel very important if you make the effort to get all the BM's together to get to know each other before the wedding.

I really think its up to you where you want her to stand. I would even them out, but these days you don't have to be so traditional and formal. So that is completely up to you.

As far as who signs for you, if they both are equally important to you, do something fun like, rock paper scissors, draw straws, hula hoop race, cooking contest, ect.. Just say, I love you both & I really can't choose between you both, lets do something fun to decide.

My girlfriend had a bio dad & a step dad & they both walked her down the aisle. when they asked "Who gives this woman?" Step-dad said "her mother & I", bio said "I do"

I thought it was very sweet. I would call your Step-dad first, since you are closest to him & tell him what you decide. Let him know you haven't told your bio dad yet, so he fells important. I would just be honest with both of them.

Remember this is your wedding & if someone gets upset b/c of your decisions, than just remind them, you are not trying to hurt anyone's feelings, these are tough decisions & if they can't understand that and not take things personally, then how much do they really care about YOU?

I really thing being honest is the best thing & most everyone will understand if you tell them from your heart!

Love the idea of having the sort of duke it out for the signing authority...maybe I will do something fun to do the picking...who knows.! Thanks for the suggestion though it sounds like a lot of fun.

Cattie · 08-25-2008, 04:56 PM

For the father issue. I'd have them both walk me down the isle, however once at the end, have your bio father give you a kiss and sit down. Then have your father that raised you actually give you away.

For the groomswoman, I'd let your FI decide. If he wants to do things with her prior to the ceremony, then let it be there special time. If he'd rather her become closer with you, then I'd do it that way.

Who signs? Well, thats a tough one. Maybe make them do shots and the first one who pukes doesn't get to sign!! jk!!

Hartyt509 · 08-26-2008, 01:38 AM

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Originally Posted by CayoLargo

I know I need to ask the questions but what I am thinking I am going to get is what ever you want honey as the response so I need to be prepard with an answer.

As for the witnesses ya we need two but one will be from my side and the other will be from my FI side so that is why I need to pick.

Ah I see lol see my lot would just tell me what they want i never get the whatever makes you happy line lol

No I was told 2 each which was why I mentioned it. I hope it is one each make life easier for me 2 lol

FLgator · 08-26-2008, 03:55 AM

Another Option For the dad situation... I have heard of one father walking the bride up to the start of the aisle and then handing off to the "closer" father to walk the bride down the aisle and give her away. I guess this really only works when you aren't inside a building and have to walk a distance to get to the aisle.

SoontobeMrsE · 08-26-2008, 07:48 AM

For the dads - why dont you have them both walk you to the aisle, and when you get there, have bio dad drop off and have the dad who raised you walk you the rest of the way to give you away?

That way when the priest or whoever asks "who gives this woman to this man (or whatever) - he can say "Her mother and I - or I do". I feel like he would be cheated out of this special moment if bio dad steps in.

Just my thoughts.