Inviting Co-workers

~Jamie~ · 08-25-2008, 10:54 AM

I work in a smaller office, and several people have been asking if we would be inviting people from work. I guess I never would have thought about that, since I have only been there 1 year. I assumed people who you were not extremely close to would have no interest in attending. My problem is.. I've already mailed out my invites. I do not have enough left to give each person at work a separate invite. I feel like if I were to invite people from work, I would have to invite them all. I would hate for someone to feel excluded. I don't have enough room for everyone, if they were all to rsvp, for dinner. I know that they all won't come, but WHAT IF?? Is it rude to invite people to the ceremony, and then for drinks later after dinner is over? I could some how explain that we are having a more intimate dinner with close family, but would love to share our day with them later? I don't know. I'm stressing out. Wedding is in one month. I have to make up my mind soon! If I do invite them, is it bad to hang a mass invitation? Any suggestions? Otherwise, I'm just not inviting any of them. But then I feel bad!!

carly · 08-25-2008, 10:58 AM

I don't really like the idea of a mass invite. And if you would feel bad inviting some and not all, and can't afford the space for all, I would say to skip it. You would know you want certain people there if they were that important to you. I invited 3 people from work, 1 was an old co-worker, 1 was someone who just left the area I am in now and 1 is current. I didn't even feel guilty about it, cuz everyone understand the space constraints on a wedding. If you aren't friendly with them, then I would say the easiest thing to do would be not to invite any of them.

DanielleNDerek · 08-25-2008, 01:29 PM

I would definately not do a mass invite. And if you don't want to exclude anyone I wouldn't invite any of them. I don't like the idea of not inviting people to the dinner but to the wedding, personally I would feel awkward. I would just tell them, you are having a small intimate wedding with just family and a few close friends. They should understand.

~*petals*~ · 08-25-2008, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek

I would definately not do a mass invite. And if you don't want to exclude anyone I wouldn't invite any of them. I don't like the idea of not inviting people to the dinner but to the wedding, personally I would feel awkward. I would just tell them, you are having a small intimate wedding with just family and a few close friends. They should understand.

I totally agree with this. I didn't invite anybody from my department, although I probably would have if the wedding had been in-town.

MomentsThatMatter · 08-25-2008, 05:53 PM

I think you got it... send out a mass email invite telling them about your dinner plans with family... but they are welcome to come after! If that is ok with you.
Otherwise... its your day... don't stress it.

~Jamie~ · 08-26-2008, 06:23 AM

Thanks for all the responses. I really appreciate them! I'm thinking I might casually invite for drinks in the evening, explaining the above. I would hope people would understand.

Sloan · 08-26-2008, 03:48 PM

I did put up an open invite to my co-workers. Knowing full well that not many people would end up going, but everyone has appreciated the invite. There's a few people rounding up a group to come with us. Im an RN in an ICU, I would imagine the work culture/dynamic is a bit different than in an office... although I could be wrong. Hehe do whatever feels right for you and your wedding, right? Isnt that the point?

Sah · 08-26-2008, 04:15 PM

Do what every you feel is ok. I've seen both approaches in my office. I've seen where people invite everyone or no one and where people invite only thier good friends at work. I think the people that aren't your friends will understand and if they don't, I really wouldn't worry about it. But if you want to invite them all but don't have enough invitations left then maybe post one. But since you don't have room for all of them if they do decide to come, then why don't you not invite anyone from work. And then have night out with all of your co workers later and invite your new husband... Best of luck!

lauren · 08-26-2008, 04:30 PM

if you don't have space, then don't invite them! it's your wedding!
i put one invite in the teacher's room and invited my 3 teammates, even though i had only really known them for about 2 months. i knew no one would come, so there was no harm. my teammate just got married in july and only invited 4 people from school.

beachbride08 · 08-29-2008, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by ~Jamie~

I work in a smaller office, and several people have been asking if we would be inviting people from work. I guess I never would have thought about that, since I have only been there 1 year. I assumed people who you were not extremely close to would have no interest in attending. My problem is.. I've already mailed out my invites. I do not have enough left to give each person at work a separate invite. I feel like if I were to invite people from work, I would have to invite them all. I would hate for someone to feel excluded. I don't have enough room for everyone, if they were all to rsvp, for dinner. I know that they all won't come, but WHAT IF?? Is it rude to invite people to the ceremony, and then for drinks later after dinner is over? I could some how explain that we are having a more intimate dinner with close family, but would love to share our day with them later? I don't know. I'm stressing out. Wedding is in one month. I have to make up my mind soon! If I do invite them, is it bad to hang a mass invitation? Any suggestions? Otherwise, I'm just not inviting any of them. But then I feel bad!!

I invited my core team that I work with and invited a few of my co-workers that I have a close relationship that I used to work with in another department. I worked with a larger group there, but am not close with all of them. Surprisingly most of the co-workers I invited are attending! I guess if you don't have enough room, don't extend an invitation. I'm sure they will understand.