Shower invites from hell

Sonia81 · 08-18-2008, 09:29 AM

My mom has a friend who i get along with really well and i guess at some point she asked my mom if it would be okay if she helped with my bridal shower. She wanted to make the invitations for me since she likes that type of stuff. I've seen others that she's done for friends and she's really creative.

Well she dropped off the invites at my place yesterday so that i could mail them out (i was not there). When i finally had a chance to look at them i thought i might have a Bridezilla moment....these things were horrendous. I mean, she basically used paper thiner than regular copy paper and did a gatefold....with a whole bunch a stupid stickers and useless beads. She used half of an 8.5x11 and didn't even use scissors to cut them. She tore them with a ruler! The wording is too small for the page and they all look different It's like she let here 8 and 5 year old kids do them.

My bridal party had nothing to do with this and want to do up new ones, but the problem is I don't know how to tell her that they're Crap and need a really good lie as to why we had to make new ones. I don't want to tell her i hate them cause i don't want to insult her, or seem ungrateful. I've sent out the save the dates and the wedding invites and they're totally cool compared to these things she made, did she not see that i was going for the "casual/chic' feeling.

How can i have new ones made and still keep the peace.

I'd post pics but i'm at work and don't have my camera, will post later tonight with STD and invites so you can see what i'm talking about.

JoLo908 · 08-18-2008, 09:34 AM

This sounds so freaking evil... but spill coffee on them... then order new ones, and say you couldn't send them because they were all stained... or red wine... OMG... this is so evil, but it may work! <last resort lol

Jenn3878 · 08-18-2008, 09:37 AM

OMG I am dying here! Tell her the dog ate them!! Do you have a dog? LOL

Kristy! · 08-18-2008, 09:38 AM

Can you send her the one she made and send everyone else the new ones? If she's at someone else's place and sees a different invitation, use the coffee excuse JoLo suggested. It is evil, but effective!

DanielleNDerek · 08-18-2008, 09:43 AM

Uh-oh, they are that bad?! I have to see a pic of these invites.

ErinB · 08-18-2008, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by JoLo908

This sounds so freaking evil... but spill coffee on them... then order new ones, and say you couldn't send them because they were all stained... or red wine... OMG... this is so evil, but it may work! <last resort lol

You can do this but you need to make sure mom and friend get the original invite.

Frist off, how many invites are we talking? Since it's just a shower, I honestly don't think it would be a huge deal. You don't want to insult anyone, especially since she probably feels like she did a really good thing for you.

Your BP will know you hate them and most people should recognize they weren't your taste. At the shower, you stand up and offer a toast or whatever to your guests to thank them for coming and a special thank you to mom's friend for making the invites as her gift to you. This should clarify the situation.

I had a shower and the invites and decor weren't what I would have done, but I know the hostess worked really hard and I wouldn't dream of hurting her feelings by telling her so. She is really sensitive and this would not have gone over well.

Jacqueline · 08-18-2008, 09:48 AM

Aw, what a shame. Don't panic though, everything is fixable.

Ok- so there is no way you can be honest and tell her they weren't what you expected?? If you do truely feel that it wall make things weird, just say you spilled something on them and you're girls ordered new ones.

Make sure you post pix, and keep us posted! Good luck!

Yari · 08-18-2008, 09:50 AM

Yes, please post a pic!

Ok, I like the idea of sending your mom and her the original one and then send out new ones.

Or else I like the idea of spilling coffee on them and blaming your FI. LOL!

Jacqueline · 08-18-2008, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ErinB

Your BP will know you hate them and most people should recognize they weren't your taste. At the shower, you stand up and offer a toast or whatever to your guests to thank them for coming and a special thank you to mom's friend for making the invites as her gift to you. This should clarify the situation.

I had a shower and the invites and decor weren't what I would have done, but I know the hostess worked really hard and I wouldn't dream of hurting her feelings by telling her so. She is really sensitive and this would not have gone over well.

I think I agree with everything stated above.

S- could you consider using them? I know it's prob easier said b/c you want everything to be perfect.

? What a sucky spot to be in :o(

Sah · 08-18-2008, 09:57 AM

OMG! I would def say someone spilled something on them.Especially if you aren't happy with them. What a nightmare! But the good news is you have time to change them! What a difficult position to be in. But in the end you don't want to be left stressing about the invites. It's better to tell the white lie than hurt her feelings :)