opinions please!!?

[wab10]

Hi ladies,

FH and I want a small intimate wedding with family and close friends only. I am sending out my STD's along with the invites and reply card all in one and when we get back we will be having a AHR. My question is how do I invite people to the AHR only and not seem rude?? Should I send invites stating we are only having a small wedding but would like to see everyone when we get back to the "non-invited"? Does that seem cheap and cheesy??

Feedback please!!
Thanks
W

[EricaG]

We sent out invites for the DW and then we are sending out separate invites for the AHR. That way everyone knows what they are invited to. If you want to do just send out invites once, I would only include the info for the AHR for those guests that are only invited to that.

[AprilandPatrick]

I am trying to figure this one out as well. Ironic that you post this, as I am inputting all of my addresses right now and trying to figure out what to do. I was originally going to send everyone a STD, and inform of the AHR within the mailout, and then send the "formal" AHR invitation a month prior to the even, but that now kind of seems like a waste of money.....What to do? I'm with ya girl! UGH!!!!!

[KLC77]

I would say that if you want to send out STD's to everyone then you would need two different ones with the two different dates. Then just send out the one with the AHR date to those people only invited to that. Make sense? But, if it were me, I would just have STD's made up for those invited to the wedding and then send out separate invites for the AHR. That way people invited to the AHR only aren't confused by the STD for the wedding.

[LBP]

I used Evite.com to announce my destination wedding and only sent to those I wanted to attend. I only had a 30 day guaranteed pricing for with our travel agency so I did not want to waste time mailing out destination invites. I will then send out an invitation to all those I want at our AHR. Although I'm struggling with the wording for my AHR. invitations. But luckily I'm searching to forum for help.

[nicoleandscott]

we didn't send out STD's for either, but we sent invites for the DW super early so people could make travel arrangements. we picked out a separate (very simple) AHR invite to send to everyone invited to the AHR (including DW guests) with wording:

xxxx & xxxx
and
xxxx& xxxx
are pleased to announce
the upcoming marriage
of their children

nicole
&
scott

on saturday, january 3, 2009
in a private ceremony
in cabo san lucas, mexico

join us for a celebration
on friday, january 9, 2009
at 7:00 in the evening
((place))
((address))

we will send of the AHR invite during the "normal" time frame, which is like 6-8 weeks? it was tricky to figure out, but i like the way we're doing it! good luck! :)

[adias.angel]

Here is a first draft of our wording:

In a intimate ceremony in the Riviera Maya
while surrounded by family and friends
Carla xxx & Chris xxx
will become husband and wife.

Upon our return we would love for you to celebrate this joyous occasion with us.
xxxx xxxx location info here xxxx xxxx


Then one of the inserts will be this:

Dear Family and Friends,
We have chosen the Riviera Maya for our destination wedding. The beautiful white sand beaches and lush rain forest make it the perfect location to start our lives together.

While we would love everyone to come, we understand that because of the distance and cost not everyone will be able to be with us in the Riviera Maya. So we will be holding a celebration in Michigan upon our return home.

The greatest gift you can give is to celebrate with us.

We are hoping the last line makes it sound like were less of a gift grubber...

[ErinB]

If you are only doing a small wedding for family, you'll need2 sets of invites.

Send those you want to come to the wedding an invite now instead of an STD.

If you want to send AHR STDs you can do that for everyone on your list.

AHR invites go out to everyone 6-8 weeks before the AHR.

I like Nicole's wording about a private ceremony.

These can be as formal or informal as you want.

[Sah]

No. I think that's a great idea. Its very common to have a small wedding and then an AHR when you get home.