Changing your name - Page 2

Virg · 08-16-2008, 08:46 AM

BOth my FI and I have complicated french last names, so it is not like it will get any easier! lol

And we are making it harder by hypenating it!
That's right I am a lucky girl, he is taking my name too! I love him so much more for it

DB2B · 08-19-2008, 09:35 PM

This has been a topic of discussion in our house. Currently I share a last name with a certain quarterback of the NE Patriots, as well as a 70's tv family (not to mention the EXACT same name as a soap opera character!), so it would be nice to have a name with no pop culture references. That said, I would like to hyphenate. Maybe I'm just lazy, but really, my name (nickname that I go by) is Sam... and my FI's last name rhymes. Sam Pham. Yet another source of comedic interpretation! I figure it's a game time decision...

Reba2009 · 08-19-2008, 10:09 PM

I did it once and will never do it again! Plus, as an APN it would be a pain in the butt to change all my legal and work stuff.

blkladylaw · 08-20-2008, 06:15 AM

I'm torn. I am 37 and attorney with a lot of assets and it will be a pain in the butt to change everything at this stage of my life. That said I have no desire to keep my fathers name for various reasons that I'll spare you guys. I'd be going from Williams to Johnson....both common names so hyphenating those seems silly. He doesn't care. Also it is kind of stereotyped that as a female lawyer that I don't cook, don't want kids, work all night and don't take care of home or do typical 'wifely' things and that female lawyers are these "ball busting" (not my term) career women and for many not the "cater to you" wife material that some seek. I've faced those stereotypes my whole dating life from certain types of men and hyphenating my name or not taking his is kind of what they'd expect and falls right in line with the stereotype so I kind of find myself also wanting to change it just to not play into that. I've already gotten the look of shock from male colleagues (all of who have stay at home wives) like wow you are actually going to change your name to his. So right now I am planning to do it but still am not totally sure. The though of all the paperwork is daunting. If I did not own a lot of assets and had not had a long professional career it would be easier. I have power of attorney documents for family members that I guess I'll have to change. There is so much to consider.

Hartyt509 · 08-20-2008, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by blkladylaw

I'm torn. I am 37 and attorney with a lot of assets and it will be a pain in the butt to change everything at this stage of my life. That said I have no desire to keep my fathers name for various reasons that I'll spare you guys. I'd be going from Williams to Johnson....both common names so hyphenating those seems silly. He doesn't care. Also it is kind of stereotyped that as a female lawyer that I don't cook, don't want kids, work all night and don't take care of home or do typical 'wifely' things and that female lawyers are these "ball busting" (not my term) career women and for many not the "cater to you" wife material that some seek. I've faced those stereotypes my whole dating life from certain types of men and hyphenating my name or not taking his is kind of what they'd expect and falls right in line with the stereotype so I kind of find myself also wanting to change it just to not play into that. I've already gotten the look of shock from male colleagues (all of who have stay at home wives) like wow you are actually going to change your name to his. So right now I am planning to do it but still am not totally sure. The though of all the paperwork is daunting. If I did not own a lot of assets and had not had a long professional career it would be easier. I have power of attorney documents for family members that I guess I'll have to change. There is so much to consider.

I am in a similar boat except my assets are pretty slim lol I'm not changing my name basically I don't want to but clients are fickle to start with get a new name and they think you aren't the same person lol

So mine is staying at this point, if we have kids I might change my mind but at the min i'm firm at no change. Colleagues can think what they like lol if they think i'm a ball breaker it suits me as they stay right out of my way lol

seaprincess · 08-20-2008, 02:15 PM

I'm tacking his name on to mine without hyphenating. I love my last name (its a very easy, no need to spell it out "West") and he has a french canadian, often misspelled last name of Larue so my name will be Lindsay Ann West Larue and I will slowly convert West into a middle name over time and at my own pace. It is important that my kids and I have the same last name since my mom and I have never had the same last name. My plan is that when we have kids, that they will also have West for a middle name and we can share it that way. I think that eventually I will get used to being Lindsay Larue, but for now the plan is to take it slow....

ginalynn · 08-20-2008, 08:19 PM

If I change my last name I will sound like a certain porn star. I would be Gina Jasin, which sounds an awful lot like Jenna Jameson.

JoLo908 · 08-20-2008, 08:46 PM

I am making my last name my middle name, since my mom never gave me a middle name (thanks a lot ma!) I always felt weird cause everyone else had a middle name, and now I will too, and it is going to be my maiden name!!

SAM · 08-25-2008, 03:29 PM

I plan on hyphenating my last name but will be in no rush to do this.

CayoLargo · 08-25-2008, 03:35 PM

I have always thought that I would hyphen our names together...but I am liking what some of the others had to say about making my last name like a middle name and adding his with no hyphen...

Now I need to think a little more about ...but definitely my last name will stay somewhere.