What traditions are you NOT doing? (poll borrowed from TK)

[Sloan]

Originally Posted by JHarwood2Be

Which song is it, if you don't mind me asking?
I think getting boozed is pretty much traditional...

Hehe, yeah I guess getting plastered is nothing new
As for my aisle song - Star of Bethleham (instrumental) leading into True Love. They're both on A&A's IEmpire. Im a geek, but I love that song.

[~Jamie~]

For those of you not doing all the traditional stuff, are you doing something in exchange? (like for the garter/flower toss?) Do you have new things you will do?

[NJ_bride]

I love this thread!

We are including the following traditions:
-he asked my Dad before he proposed
-engagement party
-Formal invitations but island themed!
-bridal shower
-Jordan almonds to represent: ITALIAN WEDDINGS Five almonds signify five wishes for the bride and groom: health, wealth, happiness, fertility, and longevity. These almonds decorate each place setting as favors, tucked into pretty boxes or tulle bags called *bomboniere* that are often personalized with the couple's names and wedding date.
-Dad will give me away
-1st dance
-me and Dad, him w/Godmother(his mom is deceased) dance
-will sleep apart and not see each other until ceremony
-gifts for my parents who are the hosts

We will not do the following traditions:
-have the big NY/NJ Italian wedding with 500 people we had to invite out of obligation at $200 per person!
-limos, church, programs
-no kids invited
-rehearsal dinner-having a welcome party instead for everyone
-we have a Maid of Honor and a bridesmaid and that's it. FH had a Best man and groomsman both were asked to step down now he will stand up for himself.
-gifts to eachother
-going on honeymoon 3 months after wedding.
- bouquet/garter tosses
-stupid song/dances aka chicken dance
-traditional processional music, I'm picking fun stuff
-private sit down dinner

I saw mentions of the dollar dance and the kidnapping the bride, I have been to weddings in the south and midwest and I love these traditions. I always tell FH that those weddings are soo much more fun than the stuffy affairs we have here. Here it is always about what you spend and not really personal at all. I'm gonna try to sneak a grooms cake in too.

[CayoLargo]

This thread is a lot of fun but I would love to hear what unique things people are doing instead of these traditional things...

Anyways:
- No paper mailed invitations (all done through email)
- No shopping for wedding dress with g/f's (did it on my own)
- Lived with FI for 3 years before wedding
- Bridal party consists of two BM for bride and one GW (groomswoman) for groom
- DW - none else in my family has done that!
- No ring bearer or flower girl
- No traditional suit for the groom (linen pants and shirt)
- No rehearsal dinner (everyone will just meet for a unformal dinner
- No garter or bouquet toss (mostly b/c everyone coming is hitched
- No bridal shower/engagement party/stag or stagette outings
- No gifts
- No program
- No religion


I am sure there is more....there are just so many traditions that go along with weddings...I just really want to know any unique things people are doing instead!

[SAM]

* My Mom and Dad are walking me down the aisle (not sure about the whole giving away thing)
* Groom's mom is walking him down the aisle
* No wedding party
* No "wedding dress"...I'll be getting a sundress
* No ring exchange
* We are adding a lei exchange
* In memory of groom's dad we will be throwing a lei into the ocean during the beach ceremony
* No shoes
* Dinner afterwards- no traditional reception
* BBQ party when we return