My maid of honor is a man? LoL….

Krose82 · 08-08-2008, 02:07 PM

So I need some honest opinions…

My best and closest friends are my 3 sisters and my friend Jon. I’ve known Jon since we were kids and he is gay. I cannot choose one of my sisters over another to be a maid of honor and it seems most natural to me having Jon be my maid of honor. I have been tossing around the idea of having him as my maid of honor since my fiancé purposed 2 years ago. I’ve even convinced my fiancé into going with it if that’s what I decide to choose. My fiancé is totally supportive in whatever I choose. It’s pretty much come down to the decision of him being my maid of honor or not having one.

Wedding wise we talked about what he would wear. My fiancé and I decided that if we do have him as maid of honor that he will wear the same outfit as the guys (it’s a beach wedding so they are wearing pants or shorts with probably a white button down polo or something. The only difference is that we will have Jon’s guy shirt be the same color as my bridesmaids dresses. So he will be wearing the guy’s outfit, but the girls colors.

Do you guys think that this all sounds too weird? I’m not the conservative type by any means and it doesn’t feel weird to me. I just wanted some outside opinions before I make a final decision.

Also, I would still call him my “maid of honor” right? LoL, I don’t think there is a any other special title I can give him, is there?

Let me know what you guys think. Thanks!

Davematthews16 · 08-08-2008, 02:10 PM

GO FOR IT!!! It's not weird at all! Even if he wasn't gay. My sister was one of the "grooms men" in her good friend Adam's wedding. I'm alllll for it!!!!! I think it's great your FI supports it too! :)

starchild · 08-08-2008, 02:18 PM

I don't think it's weird at all! Choosing a MOH is a very special thing, and it should be who you feel fits that role. Who cares whether they are male/female/straight/gay. I would totally call him the MOH! Have fun and to hell with 'tradition', do it your way

Helen_S81 · 08-08-2008, 02:27 PM

I think it sounds great! You came up with a perfect solution for what he could wear. Go for it!

WSUgal · 08-08-2008, 03:33 PM

My DH had his sister as his "best woman!" It was a lot of fun and very fitting because she watched out for him when they were growing up. The groomsmen wore seersucker pants, so she found a blue seersucker dress. It was so cute! I think you should definitely ask him! Go for it! remember...it's your wedding!

bridetobe959 · 08-08-2008, 08:15 PM

Im doing the EXACT same thing! My best friend of 12 years is a man and is also gay. I have some close girlfriends but none can even compare to the friendship that we have shared so I really even think about it. He will be dressed exactly like the rest of the groomsmen but he will be on my side during the ceremony. I was actually surprised but I got no flack from any of my family or my FI's. apparently this is becoming much more common my mom even said that she was just at a wedding where the best man was the grooms female best friend. heck there was even a movie made about it lol

Angel · 08-08-2008, 08:23 PM

I don't think it's weird at all. It's really good that your FI is supportive of your decisions.

Sandra E. · 08-08-2008, 08:31 PM

I think it's fantastic you're choosing Jon as your maid of honor!

Hartyt509 · 08-09-2008, 03:17 AM

I'd do it in a heartbeat but the guy I'd ask FI isn't too keen on lmao

sally · 08-09-2008, 03:45 AM

I'd definately do this, this guy is obviously very close to you and should be part of your day.