Giving the Bride away??

lilywu@ladhs.org · 08-04-2008, 03:11 PM

I'm filling out some information for the wedding minister and I'm having a hard time answering them. One of the question is whether the bride will be escorted by father? Since my father passed away last year, the answer is obvious - no. But my question is who should walk me down the aisle? Of my side of the family who's attending is my old brother, a half older brother, my mom, my daughter (flower girl), my boys ages 2 and 9 who one will be ring bearer.

The second question is who gives the bride away? Would this person be the one who walks me down the aisle??

Agape Gems · 08-04-2008, 03:15 PM

I think you could have any of those people walk you down the aisle. The giving away is normally the parents, so for instance if your brother walks you down the aisle when the minister asks who gives this woman to be married, he could say "her mother and I do" or your mother could stand and say "I do"

The good thing about DW is there are no rules!

foxytv · 08-04-2008, 03:20 PM

It's whatever you prefer. Your Mom or older brother could walk you down the aisle (I agree with everything Agape Gems posted above). Or if you have a close relative or friend other than your Mom or brother, they could also. That's the joy of DW -- anything goes!

lilywu@ladhs.org · 08-04-2008, 03:53 PM

Thank you both for your quick response. I will have my brother walk me down the aisle and meet my mom and they can both give me away =) I really love this forum!! It really helps take the edge off especially trying to deal with all the minor details as we're getting close to the big day =) Thanks again =)

PamelaLuedekePhoto · 08-04-2008, 04:47 PM

I actually see this a lot at weddings, everyone does it a little differently. I've seen the mother do it, but I've also seen the guests all have candles lit as the bride walks down the aisle in memory of her father and then the officiant will say something about how the candles represent the memory of her father who is with her in spirit as she walks down the aisle...or a little memo in the program about what the candle represents.

mothers a lot of the time or grandfathers... ad it can definitely be more than just the person walking you down tha gives you away, it might be nice to include you sons

KatyKo · 08-04-2008, 05:35 PM

I recently went to a wedding where the bride had her two sons walk her down the isle...it was very cute...or your Mom could do it...it is your day so you can do what you want! Good luck :)

Angel · 08-04-2008, 08:35 PM

My mom will be the one giving me away and if my bro can make it he will be too, but my son will be walking me down the aisle. He'll be 4 by that time.

Tracy · 08-04-2008, 08:36 PM

I don't have a relationship with my father, and my mom passed away about 6 moths ago - so my younger brother will be walking me down the aisle (if I can get him away from the open bar - ha ha).

jkcz0702 · 08-04-2008, 08:43 PM

My father passed away 2 years ago so I asked my mom to walk me down the aisle.

luckygirl · 08-11-2008, 03:31 PM

I was thinking of asking a similar question. My great-grandmother raised me. My father and I have somewhat of a relationship that developed after I was 19. My mother I do not talk to and have had to cut ties with her. My father is attending, but because my mother's side had a hand in raising me I thought it would be a slap in the face to my aunt and uncle who helped out my g.grandmother. However, my aunt doesn't seem so interested in helping with the wedding, she's coming, but she is upset with me that I will talk to my mother but not my father. Sooo, I have already told my father he's not walking me down the aisle but I know his feelings are going to be hurt when he watches someone else do it. So then I thought maybe I would just have my daughter do it, and avoid all of the drama...oy! I don't know what to do. Sorry to hi-jack this thread, but I thought another post might be redundant and not meet posting etiquette. But, I could be way off with this one...