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07-20-2008, 06:28 PM
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#1 | | Noob
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 |  Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
If I ask someone to stand in my wedding, do I need to pay for their flight and hotel expenses? A long time ago someone mentioned this to me and it;s been in my mind ever since we decided to have a DW. And now I hesitate to have any bridesmaids because I may not be able to afford their travel and mine. More than likely, if I had bridesmaids I probably would let them pick their own dresses, just request a particular color. Any thoughts? | 
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07-20-2008, 06:30 PM
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#2 | | Full Member
Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: VA Age: 21 Wedding Date: May 23, 2009 Wedding Location: Dreams Puerto Aventuras
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
No you do not have to pay for their trip. Some girls pay for their dresses. Other girls wait til their friends book their trips and then ask them to be BM, but you have no obligation to pay anyone's trip besides yourself. I know this has been mentioned before, so try a little searching and you may find more out there. | |
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07-20-2008, 06:32 PM
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
Thanks for the reply. I will do more searching... | |
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07-20-2008, 07:08 PM
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#4 | | Senior Member
Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: St Peters, MO Age: 37 Wedding Date: Oct 17th, 2008 Wedding Location: Riu Santa Fe Cabo San Lucas
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
I am not paying their way. I did ask a girlfriend and she has ended up not being able to go because of fiances. So I did wait until others booked to ask.
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07-20-2008, 07:40 PM
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#5 | | Eric*a*licious*
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
I agree that you do not need to pay for their expenses. If they are unable to make it do to finances, than that is to bad, but it shouldn't be up to you to pay their way. If you are having a DW, you have to expect that not everyone will be coming, even if they say they are.
I asked my BM before actually booking the trip, and 2 have backed out due to money issues. | |
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07-20-2008, 09:14 PM
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
DEF not. It is actually a vacation for them as well. I paid all other wedding expenses for mine though like dress, shoes, jewelry, gifts...I figured its the least I could do. But def not paying for their vaca:) | |
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07-20-2008, 09:54 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Cleveland,Oh Wedding Date: Feb 6th 2009 Wedding Location: Aventura Spa Palace Resort, Riviera Maya
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
Im not paying for the trips either. I asked them and they said yes knowing where it would be. Originally we wanted Puerto Rico so when we changed to Mexico we told our bridal party we would pay for thier passports. They all seemed happy about that. We are also paying for spa treatments for the girls and a round of golf for the guys. | |
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07-21-2008, 04:56 AM
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#8 | | Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Alberta, Canada Age: 25 Wedding Date: November 16, 2009 Wedding Location: Majestic Colonial, Punta Cana
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
We are paying a chunk towards the wedding party's trips we set a side a certain amount and are splitting it equally between them all. They will be paying for their own attire. We only have a wedding party of 4 so it's not to bad.
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07-21-2008, 05:06 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Chicago Age: 27 Wedding Date: November 7, 2008 Wedding Location: Iberostar Lindo Riviera Maya, Mexico
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
We are not paying for anyone's trip to Mexico. I did, however, buy the girl's dresses and shoes and am getting them a bunch a gifts and spa gif certificate at the resort. I only have two BMs, but if either of them had to back out for money reasons I would completely understand. If you have the budget to pay for them and that is something that you want to do to make sure they are able to come then I say go for it, but if not I think they should pay their own way. | |
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07-21-2008, 05:31 AM
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Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Staten Island, NY Age: 29 Wedding Date: 1/17/2009 Wedding Location: Moon Palace, Cancun, Mexico
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| Re: Paying for Bridesmaids Trip
We are not paying for their trips...I have 7 girls....
We were origionally having a HUGE wedding at home, so when we changed to a Destination Wedding I told each girl seperatly that "I want you to come and I still do want you to be in it, but if you can't afford both, I'd rather you come than be in it, and if you can't afford to come or be in it, we really do understand"
All 7 are coming and being in it.
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