Parents making me sad...

KLC77 · 06-06-2008, 07:35 AM

Ugh, my parents are really making me feel bad. We are finally getting to the point where everyone is booking their trips and my parents have decided to only fly down Friday, have the wedding Saturday and leave first thing Sunday morning. You should have seen the look on my mother's face when I said the package was from Thurs-Mon. It was like I was asking her to eat dead bugs or something- not spend a few days in a beautiful location with her daughter. I'm so sad that they won't be a part of the whole experience with us and they don't want to participate in the welcome dinner or day after breakfast. This has nothing to do with money either... they just truly have no desire to go. Really I don't think they even want to come to the wedding, but they feel obligated because everyone else is so excited about it. They are more worried about what it would look like to everyone else if they didn't come. I'm so sad about this today...

Thanks for letting me vent...
Kelly

Maura · 06-06-2008, 07:40 AM

kelly, why dont they want to go?

BeckyN · 06-06-2008, 07:42 AM

I'm so sorry! Why don't they want to go? ... you said it wasn't finanical, do they just not like to travel and be away from home?

Big hugs your way

starchild · 06-06-2008, 07:42 AM

Are you guys just not that close or do they not like something about FI? Just curious like Maura & Becky, but DW's do bring out the ugly in people. Sorry

Alyssa · 06-06-2008, 07:52 AM

that sucks

have they told you why they don't want to go?

are they very traditional?

KLC77 · 06-06-2008, 07:56 AM

They actually really like my fiance. They are just really negative people. They don't really go on vacations. Any idea you come up with they always point out what is wrong with it and NOT in a constructive way. The only reason they don't want to go is because they don't... no good reason. They just don't care... They look at it as more of an impostion than an exciting event. If I told them no one else was coming they would stay home. I just thought that this would be something they would be excited about- I am the first of my siblings to be married. I hoped they would be excited.

I guess I should just be happy that they are coming at all... but that is actually stressing me more because now I know they don't really want to be there.

starchild · 06-06-2008, 08:00 AM

Oh, I see. My gf has parents like that too...if she won the nobel prize they would complain about having to go the the ceremony LOL (and they probably wouldn't go).

I'm sorry and there's nothing you can really do to change their behavior, you know your parents. All I can suggest is focusing on your FI and the reason you are going because sadly thinking about your parents will bring you down. Hang in there!

alex · 06-06-2008, 08:05 AM

I am so sorry to hear this! Even though it's nothing against you or your FI or isn't really personal, I can imagine how much this hurts you! Sounds like regardless of the loaction of the wedding (DW or big at home wedding) they wouldn't really be overly excited. I think that if this DW is something that you really want and you and your FI are excited about it, then you're going to have to try your best to focus on that instead!! (I know, not easily done!) Try to think about how beautiful everything is going to be and although they won't be there for the full time, at least they will be there to share it with you!

Just Martha · 06-06-2008, 08:05 AM

I am so sorry.

Yvette · 06-06-2008, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by starchild

Oh, I see. My gf has parents like that too...if she won the nobel prize they would complain about having to go the the ceremony LOL (and they probably wouldn't go).

my good friends parents are like that too! i really don't get it but in the end that's just the way they are & there is no changing it. i would just be glad that they decided to come, even if only for the event itself. think of it this way at least they aren't sticking around "pretending" to have a good time when you know they really aren't. buck up! and i hope you enjoy your wedding week!