Awkwardness with my sister/MOH... - Page 2

Yari · 06-06-2008, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Alyssa

honestly, i think it is none of your business what she does with her personal life.

now, with that being said, anything that affects your son - that is different - you have every right to tell her what your boundaries / comfort level for that.

the rest of it - it would come off as judgemental and unsupportive to me. she may be living according to 'your rules' but we are all different.

Ditto, I completely agree.

Sandra E. · 06-06-2008, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by lambert13

Here are my dos pesos.

1. As far as your son goes......you have every right in the world to voice your opinion about that. What if they don't end up staying together? This guy is not even close to being his uncle yet.

2. As far as your sister goes. Be careful what you say. She has every right to date, marry, divorce or whatever with whoever she wants. But, you also have the right to feel however you want about her choices. You just have to choose what to say to her with some caution and compassion.

I completely agree with Jason.

Maura · 06-06-2008, 10:31 AM

i havent read anyone elses responses but here is my reaction.

1) you have no right to say anything to your sister about her choice to engage in a relationship outside her marriage (which she is separated from, and will likely get divorced if her husband is ok with her jetsetting with her former male coworker whom she is romantically interested in) just because it makes you uncomfortable.

2) you have EVERY RIGHT to sit your sister down and inform her that it is 100% TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE for her to tell your son to call her lover (or whatever he is) "uncle" - that sends the wrong message to your child. and in that case, you have your right to voice your opinion because its affecting your child.

Hartyt509 · 06-06-2008, 12:40 PM

I agree with whats been said - you should call her out about the uncle thing because thats confusing to your son, but as for who she sees and runs her life really thats up to her.

Don't judge her just been there for her if and when she needs it

Karen · 06-06-2008, 01:31 PM

I'll jump on the band wagon for what it's worth. In as far as anything to do with your son, you definately have a say. However, regarding your sister's personal life, you do not. It's one thing if she's in a dangerous situation but it doesn't sound like that's the case. Don't judge her. Your discomfort is your issue not hers. I know it's hard but you just have to bite your lip on this one. She needs your support and love. Divorce is difficult no how amicible it is and she is just trying to find her way.

06-06-2008, 04:00 PM

I know that what she does in her personal life is none of my business, but I guess I just want her to stop talking to me about this guy like its nothing. They have been really good friends for a really long time and I am happy he is there for her. If they end up together I can definitely see them happily together for the rest of their lives, etc. Its just awkward for her to talk to me like I know him or he's always around or something. I have not spent more than 5 minutes with him and have never had a conversation about him. She always talks about him, so I know a lot about him, but only from what she says. I guess I need her get us all to spend time together or something bc her just talking about him isn't going to get me to know him better or something. I don't think I am going to stop feeling awkward about this until I get to know him and spend time with him.

Alyssa · 06-06-2008, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by coquetayloca

I know that what she does in her personal life is none of my business, but I guess I just want her to stop talking to me about this guy like its nothing.
Put yourself in her shoes, it is NOTHING to her, KWIM?

They have been really good friends for a really long time and I am happy he is there for her. If they end up together I can definitely see them happily together for the rest of their lives, etc. Its just awkward for her to talk to me like I know him or he's always around or something. I have not spent more than 5 minutes with him and have never had a conversation about him. She always talks about him, so I know a lot about him, but only from what she says. I guess I need her get us all to spend time together or something bc her just talking about him isn't going to get me to know him better or something. I don't think I am going to stop feeling awkward about this until I get to know him and spend time with him.

I think you hit the nail on head and are absolutely right - you do need to take the time to get to know him. She will really appreciate your effort too - that is awesome!