MOH and I broke up (long vent)

[stacey]

My MOH and I have been having "freind" problems, I have posted about it before. Long story short: she had been having financial problems and was not going to be able to make it to my wedding. I was sad that she couldnt come, and I told her it was important for her to be there, and I would pay for her trip. She caled me the next day and said she had the money and she would be there.

 

Fast forward two weeks, and she is avoiding me and not returning phone calls. I finally get ahold of her and ask her if something is bothering her? Was it me, or is it just life. She then proceeds to rip me a new A*whole. Saying that I practically forced her to come to my wedding, and why should she come when I wasnt going to hang out with her after I got marrieed, because I would be on my honey moon (?!?!) ANd that I was asking to much of her.

 

I had not asked anything of her, except to be there. I was really bummed that she all of a sudden wasnt into it. I understood that it was MY wedding and no one would be as excited as I would, but a little excitment would be nice.

 

So at the end of the conversation I was pissed that she just ripped me a new A*whole, for no good reason, and I suggested that her money would better be spent getting her life back on track and I dont want to have to worry about her bringing me down on my wedding day.

 

She hung up on mye. and last night I recieved her RSVP with a big NOT ATTENDING!!!!!!!! written accross it.

 

Needless to say Im pretty bummed out, not only that our freindship is gone, but its a huge slap in the face. Sorry my vent is so long, Im just sad and needed to get it of my chest.

 

Thanks for listening.

[Yari]

Wow, that just sucks. I am so sorry.

 

I think she is being quite immature and selfish. I know it hurts, but you are better off without her. You don't need someone to rain on your parade. I mean who would send an RSVP back with NOT ATTENDING written on it. She sounds jealous. Is she married or single? How long have you been friends?

[JennyK]

Thats really unfortunate. Seems many MOH/BM's are doing this a lot from other posts I've seen. These women need to be honest up front instead of putting friendships on the line.

 

*hugs* She'll come around.. she's acting like a child.

[Christine]

oh wow that really sucks big time, I am so sorry. Its amazing the kinds of emotions weddings bring out. I had a few issues with a couple of my BM's who wouldn't speak to me after the wedding for stupid things but I think its just because weddings are emotional for people and everyone reacts differently.

[stacey]

She is 31 tommorow, so about 5 years older than I. She lives with her boyfreind, who is a complete loser ( I would never tell her that) but I think he's scum. And we have been freinds for about 5 years. I lived with her when I was in college.

[ErinB]

Stacy I'm sorry! People just suck sometimes. I agree with Yari that there must be some deeper issue going on.

 

I hope that maybe when things calm down you guys can talk this out and see if you can resume your friendship. If not, you don't need unsupportive people in your life bringing you down.

 

I'll sign you up for the "My BM/MOH Backed out of my Wedding" Club! There are quite a few of us, myself included! (At least it wasn't 4 weeks before your wedding like mine)

[Kat81]

I agree she sounds jealous. Some day she is going to realize how immature she was and really regret not being there for you. You need people to be almost as excited as you to stand up there and share in such an important day. At least you know soon enough to make other plans. I know it hurts BDW HUGS TO YOU!!! Wish there was something we could do.

[Chiquita]

Wow.. she sounds like a bitch! And very immature to boot. I'm sorry it sounds like your friendship is on the rocks, but it's probably for the best she's not coming if she's got that attitude!! You don't need people like that around you on the happiest day of your life.. ugh. Big hugs to you

[lucy106]

I am so sorry that she is behaving like this. I sure hope there is some underlying issue because she is being really childish. I know it hurts (trust me I know I recently lost a best friend of 8 years to being her being a jerk). But things do happen for a reason, you may not know what that reason is yet but it will surface. Maybe you are better off without her, maybe her real issues will surface and you will become closer then ever in time.

[JennyK]

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Originally Posted by ErinB Stacy I'm sorry! People just suck sometimes. I agree with Yari that there must be some deeper issue going on. I hope that maybe when things calm down you guys can talk this out and see if you can resume your friendship. If not, you don't need unsupportive people in your life bringing you down. I'll sign you up for the "My BM/MOH Backed out of my Wedding" Club! There are quite a few of us, myself included! (At least it wasn't 4 weeks before your wedding like mine)

I'm in that club too! We should definitely start a club to cheer each other up