Attention All Members...please Read!

Nrvsbride · 04-01-2008, 01:10 PM

Let me start by saying that this message is not a personal attack against anyone, it is merely a public service announcement from your Mod.

Ladies and gentlemen please remember that we are all here to share ideas and give advice. This forum is a wealth of information that can greatly benefit everyone. That being said, please follow proper forum etiquette. (and common sense)

While I completely respect that we all come from different parts of the world and have different personalities, customs, traditions, etc., please think about what you are posting before responding. I don't want people to feel censored that is not my intention but I want to ensure that everyone has a pleasant forum experience.

For example if someone asks for information on "Las Caletas weddings" please do not jump in and post on how stupid/ugly/cheap looking you think Las Caletas weddings are (I know none of you did this, I'm merely trying to illustrate an example). Of course you are entitled to your opinion but it is not nice and let's face it, it is just plain rude to crush this bride's dreams/taste by posting a comment like that. You wouldn't like someone to criticize your choice of location. So please if you don't have anything positive to add, keep your opinion to yourself.

Please allow me to differentiate when you should jump in with negative feedback. If someone wants to have their wedding at "Happy Dappy Weddings Resort in Jamaica" and you know for a fact that the business is robbing people of money b/c you read it on the Better Business Bureau, then please by all means jump in and let the bride know.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is a difference between "constructive criticism" (e.g. "I think your dress would look better if you didn't wear the hot pink sash") vs. "rudeness" (e.g. "Really your getting married at "XYZ resort? I hate that place, they have cookie cutter weddings and are basically a wedding factory"

Let's remember that we all have different tastes and financial limits. Use your criticism in a constructive matter that is in context with what the person asking for advice is seeking. Try to help the bride/groom by giving them advice that fits to their plans.

I heart all the members of this forum and I know we are a great group of positive people who want to share in each other's happiness and help each other have the most memorable wedding experience ever. So in conclusion I guess what I'm trying to say is let's continue being the best forum out there!

carly · 04-01-2008, 01:11 PM

As always, well said, Glenda.

Alyssa · 04-01-2008, 01:13 PM

very well said Glenda!!! xoxox

Saraha · 04-01-2008, 01:14 PM

Thanks Glenda, like Carly said, well said!!!

TammyB · 04-01-2008, 01:16 PM

Great post Glenda.

dragonfly · 04-01-2008, 01:18 PM

Glenda well said, one of the things I love about being here is how wonderfully supportive we all are to each other. I have been to other forums where my time there was less then enjoyable. Let's all post with the intention that Tammy (host) had when starting this forum, to be a helpful source of information and a positive influence in the wedding experience of all of our members. In the words of Glenda I heart you all:)

Nrvsbride · 04-01-2008, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by dragonfly

Glenda well said, one of the things I love about being here is how wonderfully supportive we all are to each other. I have been to other forums where my time there was less then enjoyable. Let's all post with the intention that Tammy (host) had when starting this forum, to be a helpful source of information and a positive influence in the wedding experience of all of our members. In the words of Glenda I heart you all:)

I couldn't have said it better myself Kelly! Thank you, that's exactly what I was trying to get across.

edna · 04-01-2008, 01:22 PM

Thank you Glenda... very well said!

Christine · 04-01-2008, 01:24 PM

Glenda I heart you! Very well said.

Dez921714 · 04-01-2008, 01:24 PM

Great post!

If I've accidentially (sp?) offended anyone, that was never my intent. I don't think I did, but if I did...I'm sorry

I just try to speak from my experience (and give examples if I can) and would NEVER trash an idea someone was excited about just because it's not my thing...my mother does that to me and I HATE it.

Happy Posting!