Vows...help Please

emandom · 03-10-2008, 03:17 PM

Hi,
I have just received a copy of the vows for our wedding. Atre any of you adding your own personalised speach? If so any ideas... I am so uncreative
EmX

Kat81 · 03-10-2008, 03:22 PM

Post your vows so we can see what they already say

Abbie · 03-10-2008, 03:25 PM

OK, I combined/borrowed these from somewhere on the internet, plus from Ann.
VOWS
Doug, repeat after me:
I, Doug, take you Abbie to be my wife / I promise above all else to live
in truth with you/ and to communicate fully and fearlessly/ I give you
my hand and my heart / as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/ and pledge my
love, devotion, faith and honor as I join my life to yours.
Abbie, repeat after me:
I, Abbie, take you Doug to be my husband / I promise above all else to
live in truth with you/ and to communicate fully and fearlessly/ I give
you my hand and my heart / as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/ and
pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor as I join my life to yours.
RING PART
Abbie, I give you this ring, as a sign of our marriage/ and a lasting
reminder, of the vows made between us today/ I give you this ring, as a
reminder that I will love, honor, and cherish you/ in all times, in all
places, and in all ways, forever.
Abbie, if you accept please say "I do"...
Abbie as you place this ring on Doug's finger, please repeat after me...

Doug, I give you this ring, as a sign of our marriage/ and a lasting
reminder, of the vows made between us today/ I give you this ring, as a
reminder that I will love, honor, and cherish you/ in all times, in all
places, and in all ways, forever.

Doug, if you accept, please say "I Do".

emandom · 03-11-2008, 03:43 AM

HiKAT81 and anyone else who may be willing to help. These are the vows that are standard for mexico....IN THIS BEAUTIFUL PARADISE OF CANCUN, MUNICIPALITY OF BENITO JUAREZ, STATE OF QUINTANA ROO, MEXICO, WE ARE GATHER TO CELEBRATE THE CIVIL MARRIAGE OF (NOVIO: NAME AND CITIZENSHIP) AND (NOVIA: NAME AND CITIZENSHIP), YOUR WITNESSES ARE (NAMES AND CITIZENSHIP)
IN THIS ESPECIAL OCCASION YOU SHOULD RECALL THE MOMENTS WHEN YOU FIRST MET AND ALL THE EVENTS THAT MAKE YOU COME TO THIS PLACE AT THIS TIME.
YOU ARE HERE TODAY IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR WITNESSES AN THOSE WHO ARE CLOSE TO YOU, TO AFIRM YOUR LOVE AND DEVOTION ONE TO ANOTHER.
WE ARE HERE TO JOIN THIS MAN AND THIS WOMAN IN THE BONDS OF MATRIMONY, YOU ARE ENTERING INTO A UNION THAT IS THE MOST CLOSE AND INTIMATE ONE, IT IS THE MOST PRECIOUS RELATION SHIP BETWEEN TO PEOPLE, FROM TODAY ON YOUR LIFES WILL BE GREATLY AFFECTED, WITH THIS VOWS YOU WILL ACCEPT A GREAT RESPONSIBILITY, YOUR ARE TRUSTING ONE TO ANOTHER YOUR SUCCESS AND HAPPYNESS FOR THE FUTURE TOGETHER; AN NOW IN ORDER TO LEGALIZE THIS MARRIAGE WE WILL SIGN THIS DOCUMENTS.

TO CONTINUE WITH THIS CEREMONY, I WILL SAY SOME VOWS TAKEN FROM A LETTER WRITTEN BY A MEXICAN PHILOSOPHER IN THE LAST CENTURY, SR. MELCHOR OCAMPO, HE WROTE THAT: MARRIAGE IS THE ONLY LEGAL WAY TO FOUND THE FAMILY, TO PRESERVE MANKIND, AN TO AVOID THE IMPERFECTIONS OF HUMAN BEINGS, WHO ARE ABLE TO GET THE PERFECTIONS OF HUMAN RACE IN THE CONYUGAL DUALITY.
MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD BE, AND WILL BE, SACRED ONE TO EACH OTHER, MORE THAN TO THEMSELVES.
MAN AND WOMAN HAVE THE SAME RIGHTS, BUT THEIR RESPECTIVE OBLIGATIONS.

EACH ONE SHOULD HAVE AND WILL HAVE: RESPECT, FIDELITY, TRUST, TENDERNESS, AND LOVE, LOTS OF LOVE.
DO NOT FIGHT ONE WITH ANOTHER, USE YOUR HEAD INSTEAD OF YOUR HANDS TO CORRECT SOMETHING WRONG.
BOTH OF YOU SHOULD BE AWARE ON THE GREAT RESPONSABILITY OF BEING PARENTS OF FAMILY, BECAUSE YOU SHOULD PROVIDE YOUR CHILDREN WITH: ATTENTION, GOOD EXAMPLE, EDUCATION, RESPECT, FOOD AND LOVE. THEY SHOULD SEE IN YOU A WORTHY EXAMPLE TO FOLLOW DURING THE REST OF THEIR EXISTENCE.”
FOR ALL THIS REASONS AND IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR WITNESSES I ASK YOU (NOVIO) WILL YOU HAVE THIS WOMAN TO BE YOUR LAWFULL WEDED WIFE TO LIVE TOGETHER IN THE ORDINANCES AND THE STATE OF MATRIMONY, TO HONOR AND LOVE HER, FOR SICKNESS OR HEALTH, AND KEEPING YOU ONLY OWN TO HER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
(NOVIA) WILL YOU HAVE THIS MAN TO BE YOUR LAWFULL WEDED HUSBAND TO LIVE TOGETHER IN THE ORDINANCES AND THE STATE OF MATRIMONY, TO HONOR AND LOVE HIM, FOR SICKNESS OR HEALTH, AND KEEPING YOU ONLY OWN TO HIM FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
IN THIS SIGNFICANT MOMENT YOU WILL INTERCHANGE YOUR WEEDING RINGS AND SAY YOUR OWN VOWS ONE TO ANOTHER.

SO ON BEHALF OF THE LAW AND THE SOCIETY AND WITH THE AUTHORITY GRANTED TO ME BY THE MUNICIPALTY OF BENITO JUAREZ, IN THIS BEAUTIFUL PARADISE OF CANCUN, I DECLARE YOU HUSBAND AND WIFE.

CONGRATULATIONS! AND YOU MAY KISS THE BRIDE!

Aimless911 · 03-11-2008, 03:46 AM

Wow! Thanks emandom for posting those! Very interesting to see!!!

JODEY · 03-11-2008, 04:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DougsGirl

OK, I combined/borrowed these from somewhere on the internet, plus from Ann.
VOWS
Doug, repeat after me:
I, Doug, take you Abbie to be my wife / I promise above all else to live
in truth with you/ and to communicate fully and fearlessly/ I give you
my hand and my heart / as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/ and pledge my
love, devotion, faith and honor as I join my life to yours.
Abbie, repeat after me:
I, Abbie, take you Doug to be my husband / I promise above all else to
live in truth with you/ and to communicate fully and fearlessly/ I give
you my hand and my heart / as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/ and
pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor as I join my life to yours.
RING PART
Abbie, I give you this ring, as a sign of our marriage/ and a lasting
reminder, of the vows made between us today/ I give you this ring, as a
reminder that I will love, honor, and cherish you/ in all times, in all
places, and in all ways, forever.
Abbie, if you accept please say "I do"...
Abbie as you place this ring on Doug's finger, please repeat after me...

Doug, I give you this ring, as a sign of our marriage/ and a lasting
reminder, of the vows made between us today/ I give you this ring, as a
reminder that I will love, honor, and cherish you/ in all times, in all
places, and in all ways, forever.

Doug, if you accept, please say "I Do".

Hi Abbi, that is beautiful ! Thank you for sharing that with us. Can I ask - Did you both memorise it or did you read from something ? The part where the registra says "repeat after me" does he/she read it all then you repeat it all or did they do it in bits ? (am I making sence ? lol )

starchild · 03-11-2008, 04:46 AM

Our vows weren't traditional vows in the sense that we were pledging stuff like "I promise to...". They were more like love letters to each other/how we feel/what we mean to each other. I think they can be whatever you want so close your eyes and think of him...the words will flow :o)

Abbie · 03-11-2008, 07:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JODEY

Hi Abbi, that is beautiful ! Thank you for sharing that with us. Can I ask - Did you both memorise it or did you read from something ? The part where the registra says "repeat after me" does he/she read it all then you repeat it all or did they do it in bits ? (am I making sence ? lol )

Hi Jodey, Thanks! We actually don't get to say them for another 4 months, BUT, the minister will read a line until the '/' and then we repeat it, we don't have to memorize it, praise the lord!

JODEY · 03-11-2008, 08:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DougsGirl

Hi Jodey, Thanks! We actually don't get to say them for another 4 months, BUT, the minister will read a line until the '/' and then we repeat it, we don't have to memorize it, praise the lord!

Sorry chick !! I read it as you had already been !! I'm having a "blond day" I understand now. Thats a great idea, 4 months.... not long now, are you all sorted ?

Melba · 03-11-2008, 09:07 AM

This is what I threw together for different ceremony options and what our resort gave us:

Gathering Words

We are gathered here today to join Jack and Melanie in marriage. It is fitting and appropriate that you, the families and friends of Jack and Melanie be here to witness and to participate in their wedding, for the ideals, the understanding, and the mutual respect which they bring to their marriage have their roots in the love, friendship, and guidance you have given them. Marriage makes us aware of the changes wrought by time, but the new relationship will continue to draw much of its beauty and meaning from the intimate associations of the past. It is one of life’s richest surprises when the accidental meeting of two life paths leads them to proceed along the common path of husband and wife, and it is one of life’s finest experiences when a casual relationship grows into a permanent bond of love. The meeting and this growth bring us together today.

Address

JACK and MELANIE, you are about to enter a union which is most sacred and most serious, requiring of those enter into it a complete and unreserved giving of self. It will bind you together for life in a relationship so close and so intimate that it will profoundly affect your whole future.

That future, with its hopes and disappointments, its pains and pleasures, its joys and sorrows, is hidden from your eyes. Love cannot live in itself, it must be nurtured with a mutual and ultimate sharing, a giving and taking.

Expression of Intent

MELANIE, do you take this man to be your wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better or worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, to love and cherish, til death due us part. I do.

JACK, do you take this man to be your wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better or worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, to love and cherish, til death due us part. I do.

Exchange of Vows

From this day forward I choose you, JACK,
to be my husband,
to live with you and laugh with you,
to be joy to your heart and food to your soul,
to bring out the best in you always,
and, for you, to be the most that I can.

From this day forward I choose you, MELANIE,
to be my wife,
to live with you and laugh with you,
to be joy to your heart and food to your soul,
to bring out the best in you always,
and, for you, to be the most that I can.

Presentation and Exchange of Rings

Jack, as a sign of my love for you
And my desire to share
My whole life’s journey with you,
I give you this ring with the pledge
That I shall cherish and care for you
With all my heart and soul
From this day forward.

Melanie, as a sign of my love for you
And my desire to share
My whole life’s journey with you,
I give you this ring with the pledge
That I shall cherish and care for you
With all my heart and soul
From this day forward.

Sand Ceremony

Jack and Melanie may your love always be as constant as the never-ending waves, flowing endlessly from the depths of the sea. Just as the waters touch and nourish the many shores of the earth, may your love be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Just as there will never be a morning without the ocean’s flow, there will never be a day without your love for each other. You have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings. This beautiful union is symbolized through the combining of these two individual jars of sand. The first jar represents you, MELANIE, in all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other jar represents you, JACK in all that you were, all that you are and all that you will ever be. Each one holds its own unique beauty, strength, and character. They can stand on their own and be whole, without need of anything else. However when these two are blended together they create an entirely new and extraordinarily more intricate entity. Each grain of sand brings to the mixture a lasting beauty that forever enriches the combination. When you pour the sand into this common container, it symbolizes the union of your two lives. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be a molding of two individual personalities, bonded together forming one heart, one love. The life that each of you experienced now, individually, will hereafter be inseparably united, for the two shall become one.